Define "cheating"

LiquidSparkle86

So funny story i accidently posted this in the introduce yourself forum lol. Woops! Hi! My name is Kristen and i want to know what you think about morals cuz heres mine. My # of friend requests should go down increasingly after that one.
Anyway, what do you consider cheating? I think emotionaly and physically someone could cheat (risks increase with social media being at an peak). I'll be the first to say im not perfect but the emotional infidelity i took part in a long time ago was confessed with my husband and we both decided we had done some things with other people that should only be done in a marriage. What are your thoughts?!? Now that im in the correct forum lol.

jazzine1

Ha found you....Here's my reply again

I think anything you cannot do in front of your partner you shouldn't be doing with someone else.

LiquidSparkle86

jazzine1 wrote: »

Ha found you....Here's my reply again

I think anything you cannot do in front of your partner you shouldn't be doing with someone else.

Thanks for you grace in my mistake my dear! Im rediculous!!!! Made some waves this morning though!

jazzine1

Ppl are still replying to your other post maybe you can share this link there and close it..somehow.

Joshacham

It depends on what the definition of what "is" is. Also eating is not cheating, we all know that.

Other than that, I mean one person in the relationship is actively seeking the attention of another person with intent to bed said person, that is cheating in my book.

jazzine1

I know it has been said that cheating can even be emotionally not just physically. Sometimes a person can be emotionally involved with someone else and not have slept with them. For ex: you think about them all the time, you tex or talk with them a lot or you just wish you were with them.

530roman

I'll just try my best to sum it up in a few memes...

strozman

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OMG lmao I love that one

Bucky83

Anything that you have done with someone else that you believe you need to keep secret = cheating.

I was on the tail end of a guy doing that to his girlfriend. It was a 'chat' on the phone but to me it was considered cheating. He told me after our 'chat' that he had a girlfriend.

He never told her. Thus, because he kept it secret, I believe he cheated.

I never spoke to him again. I never want to be 'the other woman'.

AU_Girl

If you have to delete it, it is cheating, imo.

Bucky83

Death_Penalty wrote: »

Bucky83 wrote: »

Anything that you have done with someone else that you believe you need to keep secret = cheating.

I was on the tail end of a guy doing that to his girlfriend. It was a 'chat' on the phone but to me it was considered cheating. He told me after our 'chat' that he had a girlfriend.

He never told her. Thus, because he kept it secret, I believe he cheated.

I never spoke to him again. I never want to be 'the other woman'.

What was discussed in this "chat"?

Inappropriate things that he should be technically doing with her and not with me over the phone.

Timshel_

LiquidSparkle86 wrote: »

Anyway, what do you consider cheating?

Anything you need to hide from your SO is questionable.

NewMeSM75

If I wouldn't say it or do it in front of my husband, I will not do it behind his back. I love and respect him too much. He feels the same....

kiousd

Cheating can be lots of different things.
1 If you have to hide stuff or delete stuff because you know it's not ok.
2 physical connection. No explanation needed.
3 if you put more thought into someone besides your SO on a daily basis.
4 if it's not ok to do in front of your SO it's not ok to do behind their back.
In my opinion.

csuhar

For me, one of the first elements is that the act in question is done knowingly and willingly. That automatically covers pretty much all forms of sexual cheating while also providing protection to victims of sexual assault. You don't accidentally have an affair.

And that also factors in if people want to talk about things like emotional infidelity. It's one thing to simply happen to be opening up to someone in a manner you might not open up with your significant other. But it's another thing to knowingly hide things from them. You have that question of if they simply passively open up about certain things with someone else or if they're actively hiding that special connection. But even then, there are caveats. People with a shared, significant experience in their past might open up with those who've been through the same thing more readily than with those who have not. (That's part of why support groups work.)

Timshel_

csuhar wrote: »

You don't accidentally have an affair.

Not according to one girl in my life. lol. Of course, it was all my fault for having changed too.

mkakids

Anything you have to lie about to your partner is cheating in some form or another.

Timshel_

leut_underpants wrote: »

So if her butt does in fact look big in those jeans, if I lie, I've cheated?

Only death

Riffraft1960

Chaelaz wrote: »

csuhar wrote: »

You don't accidentally have an affair.

Not according to one girl in my life. lol. Of course, it was all my fault for having changed too.

I like the line I heard once when a person was explaining that his affair just happened. The other person questioned "So you were walking down the street one day, tripped and fell and your penis accidently entered her vagina? A mistake that any person could make."

kiousd

Riffraft1960 wrote: »

Chaelaz wrote: »

csuhar wrote: »

You don't accidentally have an affair.

Not according to one girl in my life. lol. Of course, it was all my fault for having changed too.

I like the line I heard once when a person was explaining that his affair just happened. The other person questioned "So you were walking down the street one day, tripped and fell and your penis accidently entered her vagina? A mistake that any person could make."

Lmao.