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suefairy123
suefairy123 Posts: 52 Member
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As I stated in my earlier discussion today was gathering by grandma's house... I did manage to eat a little of everything and from my logs I did manage to remain in my calorie goal.. but oh boy I feel guilty..feel like crying... I have been excellent for the past 3 weeks and I felt like I failed today...
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  • callsitlikeiseeit
    callsitlikeiseeit Posts: 8,627 Member
    edited March 2015
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    im not sure whats going on,food is nothing to feel guilty over. tomorrow is a new day
  • barbecuesauce
    barbecuesauce Posts: 1,771 Member
    edited March 2015
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    So you ate at a deficit for three weeks and then went off the rails today? Well, you're (probably) going to gain water weight, but you didn't mess it all up. You will not see real weight gain. Get back on the wagon.
  • Lasmartchika
    Lasmartchika Posts: 3,440 Member
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    Why? It's food, you remained within your calories, you enjoyed your family time. I don't see the failure. Are you not supposed to enjoy life anymore? :huh:
  • vivmom2014
    vivmom2014 Posts: 1,647 Member
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    I'd be so happy if I stayed within my calorie goal. Why are you feeling so bad?
  • ana3067
    ana3067 Posts: 5,623 Member
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    Lasmartchika wrote: »
    Why? It's food, you remained within your calories, you enjoyed your family time. I don't see the failure. Are you not supposed to enjoy life anymore? :huh:

    yup
  • ndj1979
    ndj1979 Posts: 29,136 Member
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    you ate what you wanted, and stayed in a calorie deficit…what is the problem??
  • segacs
    segacs Posts: 4,599 Member
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    You should be feeling proud of yourself, not guilty. Enjoying family occasions and still staying within your calorie goal is what we would call winning at life.
  • Liftng4Lis
    Liftng4Lis Posts: 15,150 Member
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    You need to get over it. This is about living life and learning moderation. Being with your grandma and eating, because it makes her happy, is part of it.
  • suefairy123
    suefairy123 Posts: 52 Member
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    Yes of course I enjoys family time.. of course I love food... but it just dawn of me that it's very easy to go back to an unhealthy lifestyle.. maybe this why I'm feeling emotional. .. I have cheat meals ever so often..so it's to not like I'm lacking anything... bare with me guys I'm just finally seeing results so I don't want to go back....
  • Asher_Ethan
    Asher_Ethan Posts: 2,430 Member
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    You're fineeeeeeeee. You aren't going to ruin 3 weeks of hard work in 1 meal.
  • ndj1979
    ndj1979 Posts: 29,136 Member
    edited March 2015
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    you need to stop viewing foods as good/bad and learn that you can eat the things you like in moderation, yes, that means ice cream, cookies, etc and balance that out with nutrient dense foods like whole grains, eggs, lean meats, vegetables, etc. Eating some treats or high calories foods does not invalidate your whole day or diet. Eat the foods you like and make sure that you hit your calorie/macro/micro goals….
  • moose_mama
    moose_mama Posts: 32 Member
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    It doesn't matter WHAT you ate, it only matters that you ate in moderation, which you did! And that's great!! Even if you went over your calorie goal, just remember that one bad day won't undo all the hard work you've done so far. Great job!!! :)
  • MonoJKA
    MonoJKA Posts: 55 Member
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    Lasmartchika wrote: »
    Why? It's food, you remained within your calories, you enjoyed your family time. I don't see the failure. Are you not supposed to enjoy life anymore? :huh:

    I agree with this. Food is food.
  • kindrabbit
    kindrabbit Posts: 837 Member
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    Op, one day of enjoying yourself, having control of your diet and staying on track even though you had an excuse to over do it? You should be celebrating!!

    Seeing results is fabulous but I get what you mean - once you see a muscle or an angle you like, you don't want to loose it! Don't worry, you're still on track so there's no risk of that. You're doing great x
  • scottacular
    scottacular Posts: 597 Member
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    suefairy123 wrote: »
    Yes of course I enjoys family time.. of course I love food... but it just dawn of me that it's very easy to go back to an unhealthy lifestyle.. maybe this why I'm feeling emotional. .. I have cheat meals ever so often..so it's to not like I'm lacking anything... bare with me guys I'm just finally seeing results so I don't want to go back....

    Perhaps you should speak to a counsellor about this. It seems like you've got everything going right here. I mean I get it, I really do - you've literally had a taste of a lifestyle that has negative consequences and it scares you. I've felt that when I've had certain food before. It brings back memories of how things used to be and you're desperate to get back to eating in what is a more acceptable way to you now. But don't let it get to you, you're not doing anything wrong, you won't go back to whatever it is that scares you.
  • suefairy123
    suefairy123 Posts: 52 Member
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    Thank you guys... this is all new to me... so I'm gonna get over it and be happy... goodbye guilty feeling
  • Chickaboo2014
    Chickaboo2014 Posts: 136 Member
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    You can still enjoy "grandma time" just don't eat as much. You need to figure out how to do that and then do it every time. You have to make this a lifestyle change in order to be successful in the long term; otherwise, you'll just end up gaining it all back and then some. Trust me! Been there - done that - bought the t-shirt. B)
  • barbecuesauce
    barbecuesauce Posts: 1,771 Member
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    Oh I missed that she stayed within her calorie goal. OP, EAT! You need to fuel your body, right?

    . . .have you been eating way below your calorie goal or something?
  • segacs
    segacs Posts: 4,599 Member
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    Look, if you think that the only way you can lose weight or keep it off is by eating 100% controlled food at home, never going out, never having a snack, never socializing... Well, let's just say that's a surefire recipe to failure. Anyone can lose weight in a hermetically sealed lab. Most people who try that approach end up either craving the foods they miss and binging and falling off the wagon, or gaining all their weight back as soon as they 'stop' dieting, or some combination thereof.

    Being able to lose or maintain in the real world means learning coping skills like portion size estimation, making smart choices at a restaurant or a buffet or a party, practicing moderation with the foods you enjoy, and not stressing out over food or viewing it as 'bad' or 'evil'. Calories are just calories. You can have chocolate, chips, french fries, pasta, bread, beer and wine, you name it. Just have less of it.

    Everything in moderation. (Including moderation, sometimes. LOL.)

  • Chrysalid2014
    Chrysalid2014 Posts: 1,038 Member
    edited March 2015
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    Liftng4Lis wrote: »
    Being with your grandma and eating, because it makes her happy, is part of it.

    I have to say I can't agree with this. Eating because someone else expects you to, when you don't really want or need to, is never a good reason to eat. It's nobody else's business what you put in your mouth and if they care about this, or even notice, it's their problem, not yours.

    You wouldn't expect a reformed alcoholic to drink Grandma's home-made wine just because she made it, or an ex-smoker to join Grandpa for a rollie out on the back porch just because that's what they always used to do, so why should someone who's made a commitment to healthier eating eat junk just because someone else demands it.

    That's just screwed up. Family get-togethers don't have to be about eating!



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