Recently lost both my parents & need all the motivation & support I can get right now

tpt42087
tpt42087 Posts: 313 Member
edited November 15 in Motivation and Support
Well like my title says, March 2014 lost my Aunt my dads twin to liver cancer,Aug 2014 I lost my mom/best friend to ovarian cancer, October 2014 I had a miscarriage, Last Monday I lost my dad/best friend to liver cancer, I caught a virus Monday and found out today I'm having a missed miscarriage this time with twins....I'm such an emotional mess. I haven't ate anything this week like literally a few crackers here and there. I ended up in the emergency room due to flank pain all they found was my liver is enlarged so I'm freaking out about that now too! The spot over my liver and right kidney is so tender it hurts to lay on my right side or even my back. This pain is beyond any pain I've ever had and with such a screwed up back I know way to much about pain. It's almost 1am here and I'm just tossing and turning. I'm very dehydrated again I can feel it from 12pm to 7pm I was given 4bags of fluids at the hospital and my body sucked it up so fast. I just am looking to see if anyone has an a situation like mine where you've lost both parents so close together, I just need some support and motivation that life will eventually be OK and that I won't doe of a broken heart because I seriously think I have a broken heart from everything that's happen the pass year to me, he'll the pass 7 months have been purr hell day in & day out. I'm sorry for rambling I just had to get everything off my chest. I hope everyone is having a fabulous day/night!!

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  • Hearts_2015
    Hearts_2015 Posts: 12,031 Member
    I'm so sorry Hon <3 It's hard at painful times like this but try and keep you in mind and stay as healthy as you can right now. If you can't eat at least see if you can push yourself to drink more water to keep from getting dehydrated again. Even broth and crackers are foods that can get you by until your appetite returns. A grief group is what helped my Sisters and I get through the loss of my Dad. It helps so much to know others are going through similar pain/loss.

    Healing Hugs,
    Hearts <3
  • NanaBird05
    NanaBird05 Posts: 2 Member
    I'm so sorry for all your losses. You're really going through difficult times right now and I'm sure you're in a lot of pain, both physically and emotionally. Its not surprising that you feel like you might die from so much heartache, but the pain will ease with time. Eventually, you will smile when you think of them and memories will bring comfort more than pain. You will work through this tremendous grief and be an even stronger person on the other side. You're in my prayers. Please take care of yourself.
  • RodaRose
    RodaRose Posts: 9,562 Member
    So sorry to hear about the recent miscarriage and your other losses. I hope that you have generous support of family and friends. Even if you do, connecting with a counselor can help. 'Wishing you health and wellness. :heart:
  • kalbo798
    kalbo798 Posts: 58 Member
    No person should have to go through what you've gone through. All I can say is put one foot in front of the other and hopefully time mends these wounds.
  • Whitezombiegirl
    Whitezombiegirl Posts: 1,042 Member
    OMG- my heart goes out to you. I lost my Mum to ovarian cancer in Sept 2013. She was my best freind too and I can't comprehend how she is there one minute and not the next. I'm an aetheist so there is no comfort there. I can assure that it it does get better- slowly. My father is in poor health so that is a worry and my brother is an alcoholic and has just had a nervous break down- because he can't deal with the greif. I'm so sorry for all the pain you are going through will all the other stuff. Take care of yourself, even if it's hard to do- you are worth it.
  • juhishringi
    juhishringi Posts: 79 Member
    No wrods to say any thing...abut allof ur pen. Well filling vrey bad to hear about ur recant misscarage ...it's a verry hard time to spend ...buy u hv to live ur life strongley ....slowey by the time past u will be fill beter ..I do lots of prayers to god for u..coz ther is a big powers in prayers. ..god will help u to come out from all this...take care..
  • CoachJen71
    CoachJen71 Posts: 1,200 Member
    I am so sorry! *hugs* I have lost both my parents, other close loved ones, and pregnancies too. It always destabilizes my bipolar and throws me off the deep end. The good news is that I have found over time that I can live with the "new normal." I'm not happy to be without those people in my life, but I do have happiness with the loved ones who remain, and I cherish them. And I have chosen to believe that my lost loved ones are still with me at some level. That also makes it easier.

    You won't die. I promise that as much as it hurts, you won't die from your broken heart. *hugest of hugs*
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