Realisation I'm not thin and need help changing

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  • PetiteChiChi
    PetiteChiChi Posts: 7 Member
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    Thank you all for commenting.
    The photos were taken an hour ago and honestly it's not an April fool's or anything I have just become really paranoid recently with my weight gain and the fact a personal trainer came up to be a few days ago commenting how he'd noticed I'd put on a a bit of weight and asked if I wanted any advice or a session.
    It's just made me really unnerved and conscious of how my stomach sticks out so much. The other women at the gym have totally flat stomachs and I do weight training and everything but nothing seems to change except get bigger?

    I see YouTube fitness women with super flat stomachs and I just become more aware mine seemingly bulges out immensely in comparison (as the image below shows, mine seems to swell comparatively)
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  • Daiako
    Daiako Posts: 12,545 Member
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    Don't compare yourself to YouTube fitness girls.

    Besides front shots and side shots are different. I look rounder from a side view and flatter head on.
  • Ang108
    Ang108 Posts: 1,711 Member
    edited April 2015
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    ndj1979 wrote: »
    this is either of the following..

    april fools
    eating disorder
    body dysmorphia …

    I am going with C ….
    I am under 5 feet tall and my ideal weight goes up to 54.5 kg. That 10.5 kg/22 pounds more than the OP weighs now and I am average boned....so I do not have the " heavy bone structure " excuse.
    Also, I wonder why the OP in both pictures sticks her stomach out in such a unnatural way ? To make her imagined point, because she is really slender and has no fat on her stomach.

  • brianpperkins
    brianpperkins Posts: 6,124 Member
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    Stop comparing yourself to fitness models. Understand that you are at the borderline of a BMI at the edge of underweight.

    GO TALK TO YOUR SPECIALIST!
  • MynameisJerryB
    MynameisJerryB Posts: 168 Member
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    Your beautiful as you are. Don't compare yourself to others as everyone is different.
  • maidentl
    maidentl Posts: 3,203 Member
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    PetiteChiChi wrote: »
    Thank you all for commenting.
    The photos were taken an hour ago and honestly it's not an April fool's or anything I have just become really paranoid recently with my weight gain and the fact a personal trainer came up to be a few days ago commenting how he'd noticed I'd put on a a bit of weight and asked if I wanted any advice or a session.

    You need to go to his boss. That's not OK. Tell him that the ding dong trainer is telling a person with a borderline underweight BMI that she's put on weight as if it's a bad thing and he needs to be dealt with immediately.

  • ana3067
    ana3067 Posts: 5,624 Member
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    ndj1979 wrote: »
    this is either of the following..

    april fools
    eating disorder
    body dysmorphia …

    I am going with C ….

    personally I'd go with b and c combined.
  • ILiftHeavyAcrylics
    ILiftHeavyAcrylics Posts: 27,732 Member
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    Daiako wrote: »
    Don't compare yourself to YouTube fitness girls.

    Besides front shots and side shots are different. I look rounder from a side view and flatter head on.

    Definitely this, and also bodies are not all shaped the same way. I have a large rib cage compared to those girls. It doesn't mean there's something wrong with my body just because it doesn't look like theirs.
  • PetiteChiChi
    PetiteChiChi Posts: 7 Member
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    ILiftHeavyAcrylics wrote: »
    Daiako wrote: »
    Don't compare yourself to YouTube fitness girls.

    Besides front shots and side shots are different. I look rounder from a side view and flatter head on.

    Definitely this, and also bodies are not all shaped the same way. I have a large rib cage compared to those girls. It doesn't mean there's something wrong with my body just because it doesn't look like theirs.
    I've always wondered if a large ribcage was possible - I have a very large ribcage and I've always wondered again if I was just making excuses for something or if it was a thing some other women had too. It's cofmorting to hear it is a thing.

    I'm really so sorry if my post has upset or offended people I'm just genuinely unnerved and I needed to talk to people about it. It's been keeping me up all night and I don't haven anyone to ask for help or opinions of - I live in this country alone from any family or friends and I just have no one to ask or talk to it about. I am sorry if it upset people though but I do really appreciate your time to comment so thank you
  • Camo_xxx
    Camo_xxx Posts: 1,112 Member
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    Work on improving your posture then reevaluate.
  • brianpperkins
    brianpperkins Posts: 6,124 Member
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    You are underweight ... your posts reveal either body dismorphia or a continued disordered behaviors ... get the help you obviously need.
  • ILiftHeavyAcrylics
    ILiftHeavyAcrylics Posts: 27,732 Member
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    I really think you should be talking to a therapist. You say you're recovered but your posts strongly indicate otherwise.
  • ROBOTFOOD
    ROBOTFOOD Posts: 5,527 Member
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    You're thin.
  • runnrchic
    runnrchic Posts: 130 Member
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    Stop looking at YouTube and marketing models. You look fine.
  • Hearts_2015
    Hearts_2015 Posts: 12,031 Member
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    savvyfantastic wrote: »
    Woah woah woah.

    It is not for ANYONE, ESPECIALLY strangers on the internet to judge how 'drastic' your stomach is, or make a comment on your 'thinness.'

    You note you are a recovered anorexic - I would strongly suggest considering discussions about negative views of your body should continue/remain in this forum, rather than on an online one. I note you use the term 'horrified' early on, which makes me concerned.

    We cannot, and should not, make comment on how different your body is to what it is before. You are 23, your body is and will continue to change as you grow and age. That is ok, that is life. Don't benchmark yourself against the past- focus on loving your body, its potential, and what it can do for you. Focus on what it could be in the future, in the most positive ways you can.

    Good luck x

    ^
  • rainbowbow
    rainbowbow Posts: 7,490 Member
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    My only comment would be to work on your Anterior Pelvic Tilt.

    F#$% the trainer who said that to you. It's their job to go up and get new clients to people they often see in the gym. I doubt very seriously he was being personal. He more than likely wanted to neg you into thinking you need his services.

    Focus on your health (mental and physical), happiness, and the rest will work itself out. If you're coming from a disordered past, the last thing you need to do is start restricting again.
  • zoeysasha37
    zoeysasha37 Posts: 7,089 Member
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    Stand up straight , your bending awkwardly in the pics so its making your stomach stick outward.
    You are thin and look fine , besides your posture. Work on your posture
  • Smallc10
    Smallc10 Posts: 546 Member
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    Def work on you posture! If you fix that it will help 1. how your stomach looks and 2. with back problems later in life.
  • PearlAng
    PearlAng Posts: 681 Member
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    I know during my first few months of recovery, I was constantly bloated. My stomach looks -generally- flatter now, but not always. I think part of it is just how I'm built really. But that may not be the case for you.

    Like others have said, incorporating weight lifting is probably a good idea to consider. It made me feel better about myself and I toned up a bit.

    You are not overweight, though you may feel that you are/think you look like you are, but please believe us.

    Good luck in all that you do
  • jennifershoo
    jennifershoo Posts: 3,198 Member
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    OMG. Talk to your therapist as soon as possible.

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