Told by OBGYN I couldn't have kids due to weight....

Smallc10

Justygirl77 wrote: »

Not nonsense, thanks. I've had a little more experience than you, I am guessing. It's not about competency or schooling. It's definitely my personal preference!

No still nonsense. Picking a Doctor should be all about competency, and yes bedside manner is important but bedside manner has little to do again with gender. I'm pretty sure if the OP asked a female doctor if her weight could be a problem the female doctor would have said the exact same thing - YES, being obese increases your chances of having a higher risk pregnancy. If your doctor didn't say this, especially when prompted you should find a new doctor because you know, facts are helpful in the medical profession. Now if the OP had asked if people preferred a female or a male OBGYN then your personal preference would have been fine, but stating that she should change doctors based solely on her doctors gender is well, nonsense. Sorry.

Also you have no idea about my experience so guessing about it isn't going to change the facts that gender doesn't make a good doctor. A good doctor is a good doctor regardless of gender. Sorry you have had bad experiences with male ones but that doesn't make them all horrible.

DaneanP

I'm a community health nurse who does a home visiting program that serves pregnant and postpartum women. I've done this for 16 years. It is infinitely more risky to be pregnant when you are obese. It can also greatly impact the postpartum period. Healing tends to take longer, there are more skin infections (especially if there is a C-section), and it can just be much harder to take care of an infant with near constant needs. Do yourself a favor, take the time to drop some weight before you get pregnant. You'll be ever so much ready to be a great mom. (Not that obese women can't be great moms - NOT saying that - of course they are.)

And yes, being obese can impact your baby. http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2621047/