What do you do when others aren't "supportive"?

slideaway1

If you know your going to your parents for that day/evening etc then just save your calories so that you can be polite and eat with them guilt free. It might be a different story if your hitting macro goals etc as well but this can be worked around. I have to religiously visit my parents twice a week and each meal is realistically 1500 cals. I just beudget for it and enjoy. It has never hindered progress and a beautiful thing when someone cooks for you.

mom42677

My mom wasn't supportive of me dieting or exercising either and your story sounds very similar to mine. What I did was just ignore her rude or discouraging remarks and would eat but only the good part of the meal. I'm mexican so rice and beans and homemade tortillas always appear at the table --I would avoid the rice and tortilla or just have small portions. Once I got closer to my goal weight she began to respect me for it and would tell my sisters to look at how far I have come and how good I looked --at that point it was motivating to go have dinner at her house. She even started cooking healthier when she would invite me. What I learned is mommas never stop feeding us....lol just avoid the carb intake, you will be able to do fine.

giannigreco83

JoRocka wrote: »

you don't.

You don't "handle" them at all.

Set your eyes on a goal.
Pick a path that leads you to your goal.
Focus ONLY on that.
Ignore people who doubt you.

Drive on.

you need no other support but your own pure sheer force of will determination. Want it more than life itself and make it happen.

Disregard them- their words require ZERO action on your part. So don't engage.

Pretty motivational stuff here. very true... Amen

Mr_Knight

hbarnesccs wrote: »

I love my family and don't want to make this a situation that is ALL ABOUT ME, but how do y'all handle people that aren't exactly supportive?

You're only two weeks in - it's a bit early to be complaining like this.

IMO, etc.

PaytraB

The 20 pounds will disappear in time and family is here to stay for always. You'll often find yourself in situations where the food choices aren't the best and one of the tools of maintenance is learning to balance those times with the rest.
Perhaps look at this as a learning experience and enjoy the dinners for what they are. Could you perhaps work on a weekly calorie allotment (instead of a daily allotment) and calorically plan for these dinners so that you eat a reasonable (to your mom) portion and not a tiny one that she will notice and comment on? Maybe eat a bowl of salad or some steamed veggies before going over so that you get some balance to what your mother will serve?
Situations like this will happen throughout your life. Since your mom's dinners are pre-planned, you may be able to plan around them and still meet your goals.
Good luck. You can do this.