Losing a Relationship = Losing Weight

zaj17

Any time one of my relationships breaks up I tend to lose weight. At first its because my nerves are so bad I can't eat. Then I start to feel better and am always 15 pounds lighter. Sure wish I could keep myself at a healthy weight when I'm in a relationship. I always lose myself until we break up and then I start eventually taking really good care of myself. Do you ever find yourself in a situation like this?

smalls9686

OMG, this is soooo me! Lol, I always joke you can tell when I am single...I loose a man I loose weight! Three years ago I was at my largest over 200 I am only 5 foot 1! I lost about 70 pounds then found what I thought would be my last relationship... That ended in January after I realized I had gained back about 20-25 pounds.

Since January 15' I've list 25-30 pounds and counting and would love accountability! I am looking for new mfp buddies and Instagram friends as I post pics of food/ recipes and body ect.

Anyone interested in following: DurhamFED

Needtobeonthebeach

I haven't gained any weight in my relationship of 2 years. I'm in a really healthy and happy relationship. I think that if I were unhappy I would be more inclined to " let myself go" but I have never really gotten there. I try to keep myself in shape for me and for my boyfriend. He got together with me when I was an athletic size 2, and I plan on staying there or even getting more toned and in shape. I feel you can use your relationship as a way to motivate you to stay on top of things so long as you are happy and are mainly doing it for yourself. Good luck :-*

suruda

I have seen many girlfriends go through this...I call it the "divorce diet", it doesn't look appealing as it usually comes with much sadness!

scb515

Why, hello, emotional eater. I lost a lot of weight after my last serious relationship ended - I came out of that realising how important it is to look good and feel good for my own benefit. There's a temptation to overeat because you don't think your partner is looking elsewhere, or if you're unhappy and are trying subconsciously to punish them. But if you completely separate your relationship (or lack of) with how you feel about yourself, it gets easier.

I am seeing someone now, but how I eat is still all about me. I've learned a hard lesson and I'm not letting go of it. I know I like food, but I know when I'm a healthy weight, it makes me happy - people can see the confidence. Of course it's nice to make an effort for a partner, but the driving force has to be making yourself feel good. Take care of yourself all the time - you're important!

MikaMojito

Nope, doesn't happen to me. I tend to gain weight rather than lose it because I just stuff my face eve more than I usually do. I did lose weight in all my relationships when my partners were losing, too. I do much better when I get support. Currently I'm exercising and eating right and while my boyfriend doesn't exercise, he IS very supportive of my eating habits. Before I started to make changes, he always had crisps and cookies around but he's stopped buying them so I don't get tempted.

arditarose

I don't know. I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now and I've lost 30 pounds. I also eat X amount of calories when I'm not with him, so that I can eat above maintenance when he wants beer and burgers (and I do too). I have watched friends gain weight when getting into a relationship though, and I'm sure I have in the past.