Feeling jealous

msosei

In recent years I have become more and more jealous of my friends and there ability to remain healthy mentally and physically while I struggle. I have a bad habit of wanting to be pitied which is horrible I no. But I am not used to being over weight I was skinny most of my life till I graduated high school started college got my first job which was McDonald's and got a bf all in the same year. I am 22 60 pounds overweight and I struggle to exepect myself. I'm sorry if this is all jumbled up but I guess my question is how do u stop being jealous?

jasonraygagnon

Hit the gym hard. It will work wonders on your confidence :-)

yopeeps025

1) Make a plan
2) follow through with plan
3) finish the plan.

spoganski

Every body is different! Just do the best you can do. Don't compare yourself to others.

katimorris87

I have some quotes that help me.
'You can't compare your behind the scenes, with their highlight reel'
((Everyone only wants the world to see their best self, their successes. You see that in your friends and it's easy to forget that they have behind the scenes lives too. They struggle, you just don't see it like you see it in yourself)
Similarly, 'you can't compare your chapter one, to their final chapter'
((you're likely in different stages of your healthy lifestyles, it's unfair to yourself to think you have to measure up to someone who didn't gain the weight and doesn't have to lose it))
and finally, 'comparison is the thief of joy'.
((just don't do it. Look at the good in your life. You are you and you're trying and you're fighting for it and no amount of wishing and feeling sorry for yourself will help. Focus on the positive in your OWN LIFE, not theirs))

terri_mom

Even happy stress is stress. Also, there is a difference between jealousy and envy. How can you turn it into healthy envy? How can you increase your oxytocin level? Exercise, sunshine, laughing, all come to mind. You are young still (I am 50 already), so go out and get what you want in life. Make it happen. Would you rather have someone look up to you for what you have that is going well in your life? Or have pity because your life is so terrible (which it is not, I'm sure, but it's an easier route to follow)? Hold yourself accountable, and make the best of what life has to offer. Be the wonderful person your friends think you are (because your frienship is a choice they have, not a requirement). I know you can do this. Plus, there is no shame in asking for assistance. Seek counseling, medication, whatever you need to move onward and upward in life. Let me know your progress, because I would rather see you succeed.