Anyone ever lose a very close pet?
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mjohnson1twenty wrote: »i'm so sorry for your loss... i understand how painful it is to lose a fur baby as i lost my kitty baby this February. it took me a week to stop crying over his passing and another three to get back into a workout routine again. even now i still think of him. and occasionally i still cry. but, i know he's not in pain and is in a better place. just hang in there and time will ease the pain for you. much love and hugs to you...
thank u & it will get better not sure how and when. The pain won't go away but it will get easier as time goes by. Time may not heal every pain and hurt but its def. possible it will for me. I am hopeful. I am taking my time TY<30 -
I can relate we were joined as well. But then cancer made him weaker and tired he lost the full mobility of his right leg, he had the tumor for a while b/c i thought it was thigh bone sticking out not …well i def. don't see any animamals in the next few years as i need time and solace for my beloved. His memories wil keep him alive and me going for a very long time.I lost my best friend Clyde (put him in my profile pic so you can see him) a little over two years ago. We were joined at the hip for 17+ years, since he was a teeny baby in a barn. He was perfect in every way and loved me completely. When he was really little he used to come in the shower with me, then when he got old I kept the litterbox next to the toilet and he used to poop whenever I did. He fetched balls and he loved dogs and he also faked having a sore leg once to get sympathy from me.
It's still hard - I have not been able to get another pet so far - but time does ease the pain. I remember at first every time I walked in the door and he wasn't there I broke down completely. This is the price we pay for real love.
I'm really sorry that you lost Marshmallow. I'm really happy for him that he was so well loved and cherished during his life.
Its indeed the price we pay for real love-very deep and i like that quote
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I had to put my dog Bailey down a couple of years ago. I adopted him from the pound when I was in college. He was my best buddy and a great companion for those years I lived on my own. He had a great life and a relatively long one considering he was a bigger dog...he made it to 12 and most big dogs don't make it past 10 or so.
My wife and I scattered his ashes in the mountains near one of our favorite camp sites. We go back every year to say hi.
I have another dog that we adopted to keep my Bailey company and I think it did prolong his life...my baby girl is getting up there now and we're considering getting her a friend to play with...but we have our hands full with a 3 y.o. and 5 y.o. so it's difficult to find the time for training, etc....0 -
I think you need a complete memorial in honor of your beloved rabbit.
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If, eight months from now you are still having trouble eating or enjoying life, I suggest a counselor to help you put context to your feelings.
Death used to be "normal"; people didn't put so much stake on life. But now with health improvements, we really are shocked to lose those closest to us. But I am positive that you have a great deal more to offer to others in your life, and that there are many more things for you to do.0 -
hugs I'm in tears now too -your fault :]AllOutof_Bubblegum wrote: »We had to put our family dog, Jemima, down about a month ago. We got her for free off the side of the road when we were kids as a tiny puppy in Guanajuato, Mexico 17 years ago, and she became a member of the family.
She was obviously really old, and had been declining in health for some time, (we knew she had cancer, but operating would have only bought her a little time as she was so old) but it was still so much harder to say goodbye than I thought it would be, even though we all had ample time to prepare.
A vet made a house call for us, and all of us were able to be there and gather around her doggy bed and pet her. I held her head in my lap and told her to go to sleep as she got the injection. You think you're ready, and you never really are. It destroyed us all, all grown adults with our own families, even my 65 year old parents were sobbing. My dad made her a little wooden casket in the garage that night, and the next day we all met again to bury her in the backyard. The grandkids lost it when they saw us lower her into the ground. It's still hard to remind myself that she won't be there to greet us at the door when I go to my mom's house. The sweetest little dog ever. Did we ever love her. Damn it, now I'm crying again.
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cwolfman13 wrote: »I had to put my dog Bailey down a couple of years ago. I adopted him from the pound when I was in college. He was my best buddy and a great companion for those years I lived on my own. He had a great life and a relatively long one considering he was a bigger dog...he made it to 12 and most big dogs don't make it past 10 or so.
My wife and I scattered his ashes in the mountains near one of our favorite camp sites. We go back every year to say hi.
I have another dog that we adopted to keep my Bailey company and I think it did prolong his life…my baby girl is getting up there now and we're considering getting her a friend to play with...but we have our hands full with a 3 y.o. and 5 y.o. so it's difficult to find the time for training, etc....
Thought about scattering ashes at a park* that we visit a whole bunch every year so he can be with nature and give to earth but I'm greedy and want him closer to me as possible and maybe scatter them when we settle in a house and after i create a beautiful garden possible koi pond in the backyard and scatter them there but even then i want his remains if i can't have anything else along with the memories, if i can't have him alive. 12 years is awesome and her here to long living pets.
And understand when pets go sooner than they should-that is very difficult.0 -
AllOutof_Bubblegum wrote: »We had to put our family dog, Jemima, down about a month ago. We got her for free off the side of the road when we were kids as a tiny puppy in Guanajuato, Mexico 17 years ago, and she became a member of the family.
She was obviously really old, and had been declining in health for some time, (we knew she had cancer, but operating would have only bought her a little time as she was so old) but it was still so much harder to say goodbye than I thought it would be, even though we all had ample time to prepare.
A vet made a house call for us, and all of us were able to be there and gather around her doggy bed and pet her. I held her head in my lap and told her to go to sleep as she got the injection. You think you're ready, and you never really are. It destroyed us all, all grown adults with our own families, even my 65 year old parents were sobbing. My dad made her a little wooden casket in the garage that night, and the next day we all met again to bury her in the backyard. The grandkids lost it when they saw us lower her into the ground. It's still hard to remind myself that she won't be there to greet us at the door when I go to my mom's house. The sweetest little dog ever. Did we ever love her. Damn it, now I'm crying again.
The best comfort is reminding yourself what you did to make your pet's life happy. If you know you did right for your little bunny, or dog, or cat, and that you gave them a good life, it eases the pain a lot. I know we gave our Jemima a long and extremely lucky and happy life, and in the end isn't that all you can do for an animal you love?
that made me laugh I absolutely adore that. Yea he was a spoiled bunny. He shunned us quite a lot-literally would be facing us when we give him a treat, we would turn away and he has (completely) became comfortable facing the other way. It made us laugh every time because we just say now THAT is a spoiled Rabbit. He got what he wanted -most times and plenty of it. When he can turn his head to food and get better food? oh that was our bunnbunn ^__^
He was extremely healthy aside from his cancer-vet commented how strong his ticker was and blind in one eye and an occasionally mild irritable gut nothing major. I hate cancer. i HOPE YOU GO TO hELL CANCER -WHERE YOU BELONG-I damn cancer to hell-As it should be because thats where it came from and thats where it belongs-dammit>:(
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My first pet died in my bedroom at the age of 17. I grabbed his little corpse and buried him in the backyard because there was no way I'd let anyone else do it. I ended up spending the rest of that day rearranging things to keep myself busy.0
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That was sweet of you to do. I would have it seemed to know it was dying and it chose your room for its final resting place because of the peace/comfort it felt from you and/or your room.spacequiztime wrote: »My first pet died in my bedroom at the age of 17. I grabbed his little corpse and buried him in the backyard because there was no way I'd let anyone else do it. I ended up spending the rest of that day rearranging things to keep myself busy.
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I spent the first 72 hours putting together a Web Album and writing up a memorial web page. It helped a bit. Hugz.0
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I'm so sorry for your loss, I have a 14 year old "puppy" that I cherish every moment with.0
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PAVV8888-That is a good idea. Im in finals week and still have restricted time so to be able to find to cry is difficult alone. When I have time I might. I had these awesome photos i took a year ago of him hunched over on his toy in distress because the spot NEXT to was blocked off who he couldn't mark anymore-he looked just pitiful in the cutest way ever and the picture gone because my phone decided to go to factory mode one day. </30
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mistikal13 wrote: »I'm so sorry for your loss, I have a 14 year old "puppy" that I cherish every moment with.
Yes cherish him please even when u can't or don't feel like it. Many times I forced myself to bond longer with him and that would 30 minutes more than normal to pet and massage him but other times 20 minutes was really all i had to give to him because of school and my mom or i was sick and very tired form a a bad day at work. I would go in his pen and just pet him but def. had to touch ever day-he was an instant stress reliever. I wish he didn't have to reside in a pen his last 5 months of his life but we didn't have litter boxes set up and he was marking stuff more or just couldn't control his bladder and make it to his cage on time. I loved how i allowed him to have the house to roam free most his life.
I wished pet owners were more that way. It felt good to hear the vet last night to tell me he wished more rabbit owners were like me. It was very sad to know that a vet can say that with ease how rabbit and other pet owners don't keep their pet in healthy and happy states well being. So many people lock critters up and I ALWAYS ask WHY? Its not a question to be answered but to make us think. If I personally who lives paycheck to paycheck and is burdened with family problems and career life then how can others with no time like me not be able to give a gift of a good life-space, love, playtime, enough fresh food/water. If you can't allow a pet to roam free-why do you have it even? just give it away because you'll do him/her a favor. I would never had a rabbit to just keep in his cage all day. not even over night. If i don't want to be in a cage why would someone i "love". Anyways its my pet pieve no pun intended and had to rant over that and hope who ever reads it that is caging unnecessarily their critter(s) I hope they are convicted through my words/experiance to reconsider free roam. If one has rabbits outside-then all i have to do or say is just shake my head. I could never have any type of rabbit in any condition outside-thats cruel too like cages are.
I was able to do that of my bunny. Sorry for the long reply. I didn't have much and my time was little to none and gave a life to a rabbit may pets would be jealous of. It shouldn't be this way. If one truly loves their pet-they will give that freedom to them.
Congrats keeping your pet around that long. I wish mine was around still. But vet said he may have been over bread due to his caterax condition and for a rabbit destined to live shorter than longer I get a pat on the back for giving him a longer life even if it meant sleepless nights for me so i could comfort him when he was ill (a year ago) I did because he needed me and i saw it.0 -
Wanted you to know that I'm still checking in on this thread. How are you doing today?0
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mistikal13 wrote: »I'm so sorry for your loss, I have a 14 year old "puppy" that I cherish every moment with.
The "puppy" in my profile pic is 14 now, too, and we also cherish every moment we can with him. We thought a couple of weeks ago that it might have been the beginning of the end, but it was just a bad couple of days.
It will be very hard to say goodbye to him and I dread that day. We didn't have children, just a dog who's been loved to pieces.0 -
Carly-thank you for checking on me.
Im doing better. I seem to be feeling pieces of my old me again in-between the sorrow.
Im not feeling the need to cry and cry. But the pain has gotten a little worse.
I feel the need to cry has been replaced by intense pain. I think it is a step up though. I may or may not cry a little just in a moment at any given moment. i did twice driving yesterday and today almost did. When i cry outside my home its very brief but sufficient to let it out. I actually giggled yesterday some and today. Been trying to move and making sure i take care of myself. Still no makeup. I tried mascara yesterday and wiped it of before I got out of the car *to walk to class. Theres a war in me on whether or not to move on and thats what will be dealt with until the decision is made. Life just isn't the same as i do experience light moments without him. I had met several people in school that recently lost theirs and one lost hers last year and they are grieving so i find comfort in being open with what I'm dealing with because it is crucial for me to get through this and its nice to know I am not alone and maybe i can return the same to someone whose lost their first pet/loved one. i don't want to get depression because of this when i can just grieve how long i need to and move on. just deep sadness now. staring off to space and trying to feel him close to me.0 -
mistikal13 wrote: »I'm so sorry for your loss, I have a 14 year old "puppy" that I cherish every moment with.
The "puppy" in my profile pic is 14 now, too, and we also cherish every moment we can with him. We thought a couple of weeks ago that it might have been the beginning of the end, but it was just a bad couple of days.
It will be very hard to say goodbye to him and I dread that day. We didn't have children, just a dog who's been loved to pieces.
Its difficult. It will be more difficult than you already know.
I hope this isn't your first lost loved one as it is my first time ever to experiance a real loss and sucks that first loss was not a hum a where i could have too but a pet. But i am glad it kinda was because pets rock and they love unconditionally and forgive us and still love us and listen to us. We can be a hero to a pet.0 -
I really need to clean up that room-it was originally my homework/marshmallows room (not in* my profile pic-thats my last apartment where he made the sliding door HIS spot and where he ate/licked/ate and scratch at the window* and licked the window. To see a cute bunny licking and biting the window is like the best show on earth and wished he did it long enough to grab some popcorn. He was so awesome. He licked anything near him he was hanging out at.
But yeah his pen does need to go and the didning table needs to leave the living room to make space and go into that room but i can't. I will spare a double negative and say I want to be able to see his old bedding mixed with his hay and how everything was the day he left still. I am worried that I will replace my rabbit with his pen and pretend he is here and think the pen can stay because i don't want to part….but knowing my love for cleaning won't let that happen so Im fighting with that-everything is a fight. my husband asked:'wait, your not collecting his poopies are you"? I said stop giving me ideas…i can say to my guests and here is my collection of the last remains of my bunnies poopies he made in his cage before he passed… and laughed then said no j/k to which he replied well, its none of their business (pun possibly intended) but i did think of it. but they will mold…i seen them get moldy.
Yeah i need help? maybe….but it hasn't been a week so too early to tell. I will be ok But man i am forever changed. I do not like that. I don't like ihow i have to remember the happy moments as a superficial existence to replace him….i feel this is forced and i am angry. to talk about helps greatly and love all your listening ears…hugs hugs hugs and a round for everyone. wine does sound good but as i like my alcohol i have been doing really good not giving in to it to drown the sorrows out. It has been tempting. I don't want to attach bad habits that make a bad situation possibly worse by addiction. Addiction was apart of my past and not a part of my future. oh guys torn. Like you all are. Not the same like you all are. Will be better like you all are. smh miss rrrrrabbit, lil furry forest creature. I could talk n talk and talk about him to him for hours and be so entertained and it would humor me so much by his lack of movements because he was enjoying our bonding and it would keep tickling me pink ever more and the joy would burst to laughter and I would close my eyes and a tear would trickle because because one day we would be torn apart by reality and would wipe that tear and continue petting him laying on the ground next to him or in front of him watching his nose twitch every 10 seconds (he was so relaxed/and or sleeping his nose twitches have different rhythms) and would continue to just be myself with him. awesome times.0 -
RedArizona5 wrote: »Carly-thank you for checking on me.
Im doing better. I seem to be feeling pieces of my old me again in-between the sorrow.
Im not feeling the need to cry and cry. But the pain has gotten a little worse.
I feel the need to cry has been replaced by intense pain. I think it is a step up though. I may or may not cry a little just in a moment at any given moment. i did twice driving yesterday and today almost did.
I almost made it my first day of no crying, then I saw a man waiting to cross the road with a beautiful brindle greyhound (just like mine!) when I was driving home from work....and it set me off. :'-(
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Oh no >.<
I hate that too. When you want to but don't its so frustrating-Idk if small very short bursts of scrunched face and deep gasps of air counts with mildly wet eyes. Today may be my first day then if they don't-if they do then it may be a while before i have day with no tears…w8 that WILL make me cry here 321….dammit
I understand because i will feel that when/if i see a rabbit like mine in real life. Mine isn't as common as a breed as yours is so probably not BUT it could be ten years and if i see someone with a d.brown/tan/whit floppy eared flat faced holland mixed rabbit like mine (i see them on you tube-im like hey thats my rabbit) but in real life-i will bawl-promise hand stamped with full guarantee
maybe not then and there and maybe then and there but def. sometime after. if i feel another rabbit now that mine passed -i will just have to pet a rabbit and will tear up. But seeing one may trigger some tears.
Oh it stinks. I miss all his bad behaviors even-his pulling on the carpet, flinging pee on the wall-he managed to get poop on
the ceiling. Yep I felt like sounding off one of those horns in sports like he made past a goaley or something. But at the time my husband and i just looked at each other with mouths open like how.in THE WORLD first of all does A RABBIT get poo-on the CEILING? I never got angry- I knew he had the ability to make crap fly…it didn't happen often though guys. Just once in a while when he wanted attention and he used bad behavior to get it. He was royalty in my home. The little furry BUTT got his way. He was such a good boy though .
He had the house to himself when we left for church service and as usual when we leave-come back and hasn't moved an inch.
Hubby exclaims if you threw a rabbit party well you had some dark good cleaners to help you or something along those lines cause he was creature of comfort.
He didn't want to play, he didn't want to misbehave. He would sit and lay, eat and poo/pee in his cage come out and eat and wait for me. His number one joy in life was me. His eyes lit up with me near him. And would start grooming himself so he would extra cute for me-little flirt. Thats why he was special he was bonded to me specifically and not toys or anything but me. Sometimes he refused food not to get better food but to get my attention. I know that cause i would get something else he usually will take from me and didn't but when i put my hand on him he just plops himself further to the floor kinda like in the profile pc (i just groomed him so its why he is all sitting fancy for me-it was a pleasure for my presence to be next to him and petting him)0 -
I haven't updated my wall yet. I have a description about having a 5 pound holland mixed rabbit and now will have to say i miss my holland mixed>.< don't wanna yet. i will cry. not ready to cry. i feel like crying but won't. maybe thats why your all cried out. idk. (sigh)0
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