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jazzine1

kinkyslinky16 wrote: »

jazzine1 wrote: »

Sometimes its just great sex, lots of great sex. I usually tell a guy I don't want a relationship when I truly don't want to be exclusive, I want to leave my options open. BUT that doesn't mean I don't enjoy his company and being pampered, hugged, kissed. I can like a guy but yet not want a relationship with him. A woman knows when she falls deep for a guy and when she does she wont hesitate to be official.

Yep. This. She doesn't want a relationship with you, just wants to *kitten* and have someone to cuddle with. I had cuddle buddies when I was single. Guy friends that would cuddle, sometimes we had sex and they always spent the night, but we were most definitely not dating exclusively in any way shape or form in my opinion.

And you could not see her as often and she will probably ask you why and miss you. But it's probably because she got lonely and noticed you were missing........ from my perspective, you are a cuddle buddy....

Yes you are a cuddle buddy! Great way to put it. Might not be what you want to hear OP but you have to take it for what it is. Enjoy the sex but do limit the time you spend with her since you are catching feeling because you might end up getting hurt. Stop reading too much into how she acts with you and what she allows you to do for her and LISTEN to her words, she doesnt want a relationship. I had a guy tell me once "you say you dont want a relationship but your actions say otherwise"...well I had to stop seeing him all together because I really did not want a relationship WITH HIM even though sex was good and I did like the attention he gave me and just feeling wanted by him.

Hybrice

Thanks guys, not what I wanted to hear and definitely doesn't make me happy to read, but I appreciate honesty with which your advice is given.

yopeeps025

jazzine1 wrote: »

kinkyslinky16 wrote: »

jazzine1 wrote: »

Sometimes its just great sex, lots of great sex. I usually tell a guy I don't want a relationship when I truly don't want to be exclusive, I want to leave my options open. BUT that doesn't mean I don't enjoy his company and being pampered, hugged, kissed. I can like a guy but yet not want a relationship with him. A woman knows when she falls deep for a guy and when she does she wont hesitate to be official.

Yep. This. She doesn't want a relationship with you, just wants to *kitten* and have someone to cuddle with. I had cuddle buddies when I was single. Guy friends that would cuddle, sometimes we had sex and they always spent the night, but we were most definitely not dating exclusively in any way shape or form in my opinion.

And you could not see her as often and she will probably ask you why and miss you. But it's probably because she got lonely and noticed you were missing........ from my perspective, you are a cuddle buddy....

Yes you are a cuddle buddy! Great way to put it. Might not be what you want to hear OP but you have to take it for what it is. Enjoy the sex but do limit the time you spend with her since you are catching feeling because you might end up getting hurt. Stop reading too much into how she acts with you and what she allows you to do for her and LISTEN to her words, she doesnt want a relationship. I had a guy tell me once "you say you dont want a relationship but your actions say otherwise"...well I had to stop seeing him all together because I really did not want a relationship WITH HIM even though sex was good and I did like the attention he gave me and just feeling wanted by him.

That was the uh oh I was thinking about and I agree that this is happening.

Spnneil06

Being in a long term relationship for so long myself, I would wait more than six months to make it serious! However if it works for you!

authip85

Tomm88 wrote: »

6 months is pretty fast after you've both been in long term relationships man. Don't take my word on it but if it seems like she's keeping you at arms lengh she might just not be ready, you taking her out and buying her stuff, meals etc might make her think that you are ready, which might scare her off a bit. I'v been through this before and gave too much too soon. Then again everyones different. best of luck!

I agree with Tomm..especially after being in a serious relationship she's keeping you at arms length. Continue to have fun and just enjoy each other's company!