Stalled. What do I do next? HELP

Beploveshomer

I don't know what to do!? I have been on a weight loss journey for over year now. I went from 215 to 172 and now I am back up to 175. I have been going up and down a couple pounds for months now, and it's not because I don't know what to do, it's because I'm not doing it!
I need to eat around 1400-1600 cals and get some cardio in everyday, or keep my cals at 1200 and not exercise. The thing is I can't seem to do it! I can't seem to eat less than 1700-1900 cals and if I do it is PURE TORTURE. I am muscular person and 5'8" and I just have a big appetite.
I am pretty active all day just putzing around the house being a stay at home Mom. I try to walk but my jogging stroller is loaded with almost 100 pounds of kids and is sooo hard to push on the hilly roads. I can't seem to make myself do exercise DVD's. Maybe I'm just lazy.
I am only technically 11 pounds overweight and I keep second guessing myself, "Maybe I should just be happy where I am, I am healthy!"
BUT THEN, I look in the mirror and I am not happy with what I see!
I mean I am wondering where the tipping point is? I am maintaining perfectly, but I don't want to maintain, but I don't want to try any harder!!! My next goal was 170 when I get to buy new clothes like "underthings" and a new body slimmer, and some cute new capris. Also my suit is about one size too small and swimming season is coming fast! I need to do something, ugh.
Anyone else push through this? Any advice?

cosmichvoyager

Congrats on how far you have come!
Now it's time to work on your mental state. If the weight thing (# on a scale) is bumming you out, try a new goal for a while: strength, balance, endurance, etc. Look realistically at how these goals could fit into your life. Put a kettlebell by the bathroom and do 10 swings every time you go to the bathroom...that kind of thing. Can you sign up for an exercise class you enjoy 1 or 2 nights a week if you have someone to watch your kids?

Also, looking at yourself and thinking "ugh"? maybe you are being too hard on yourself in general. You look great to me and how much time and energy are you spending on self-flagellation or overly critical self-analysis that could be spent enjoying your successes. I say eat at or around maintenance and work towards holistic, self-care oriented goals for a bit.

Beploveshomer

cosmichvoyager wrote: »

Congrats on how far you have come!
Now it's time to work on your mental state. If the weight thing (# on a scale) is bumming you out, try a new goal for a while: strength, balance, endurance, etc. Look realistically at how these goals could fit into your life. Put a kettlebell by the bathroom and do 10 swings every time you go to the bathroom...that kind of thing. Can you sign up for an exercise class you enjoy 1 or 2 nights a week if you have someone to watch your kids?

Also, looking at yourself and thinking "ugh"? maybe you are being too hard on yourself in general. You look great to me and how much time and energy are you spending on self-flagellation or overly critical self-analysis that could be spent enjoying your successes. I say eat at or around maintenance and work towards holistic, self-care oriented goals for a bit.

Thank you! I didn't even know what I wanted to hear, but that was it!

strong_curves

IIRC the smaller you get the more diligent you have to be with your food intake. Look into getting a food scale to make sure you're not eating more than you realize. Reading and re-reading these threads helps me keep my eyes on the prize:

http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10012907/logging-accuracy-consistency-and-youre-probably-eating-more-than-you-think/p1

http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1296011/calorie-counting-101/p1

this thread is my favorite, in fact almost anything that @stroutman81 keeps me focused and helps with my own personal weight loss goals:

http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/113609/relatively-light-people-trying-to-get-leaner/p1

weavingtheweb

I think you may have set your weekly calorie goal set too aggressive for the amount of weight you have to lose. Do you have it at 1 lb a week? I am 5"9, 178 lbs and and with .5 a week I am allowed to eat 1550 before exercise and I am sedentary.
Also, as strong_curves said, your logging should be really tight for these last lbs to get rid of.