Heckling!

Jme2209

Sorry ahead of time for the vent!

I never thought that I would need to use the word heckling in reference to myself. Yesterday while I was out BRISKLY walking my dog in my subdivision (it was my off day for C25K) I was heckled by a group of pre-pubescent girls!

Here is what happened: As I was walking, I passed a young group of girls, I nodded, smiled, and politely said hello as they rode their scooters. Shortly after I passed them they started SCREAMING "YOU ARE FAT" "HEY GIRL WITH THE DOG YOU ARE SO FAT". I did not give them the privilege of acknowledging their heckling and just kept walking with my head held high. I tried not to let their words get to me, but there was still a little bit of hurt caused by these young girls.

What I want to know, is how are these little girls being raised? Why do they think it is ok to publicly shame an adult who is out obviously trying to become fit?

I know they are young, but I still do not find this acceptable coming from any person, young or old.

Here are my stats:
Height: 5'8.5
SW: 248
CW:203
GW:165

nicola1141

I'm sorry they said that - awful. You're right, there's no excuse. We've all said horrible things or done horrible things at some point in our lives. Most of us grow up to cringe horribly and regret them, hopefully that's the case with these girls. (Although unfortunately there's probably a ringleader in the group who will continue to grow up horrible). They're young, they thought they were cool and wanted attention.

ncahill77

Personally I would have picked up a rock and pegged one of the little *kitten*.

astrampe

You are a better person than what I am - I would have turned around and gave them a talk like their mothers (hopefully!) should have had with them a long time ago....
Unfortunately basic manners is becoming optional in a culture of "free choices"......
Take it from who you got it from - a bunch of uncouth little brats with brains the size of peas....And keep on doing what you are doing - it's for YOU, not the rest of the world....:flowerforyou:

shrinkingWITS

You are a much better person than I am...

Sadly they learn these things from all places...even well raised good kids can be mean.

Robin_Bin

Sorry to hear about that.
Sorry for the girls -- they're probably already in a world of pain about their own bodies.
Wondering about the people raising them to think that kind of behavior is even close to acceptable, never mind a bit of common courtesy and kindness.
Your progress is great! And good for you on keeping your head high and not acknowledging their behavior. It's hard, but try not to let it hurt you... they are obviously rather ignorant and imature, so their opinion shouldn't hold much weight (no pun intended). Unfortunately, we all know even false accusations when we're secure can hurt, and it's even more difficult when they hit a point that we are working hard to improve, but not there yet. So hard as it is... try to replace the memory of that heckling with the wonderful work you're doing by walking, the improvements to your health, the love of the dog that gets to go for walks with you, how much better you feel now that you've made some progress and many more good thoughts.
Glad you were brave enough to vent (share) here. Some people wouldn't be able to do that and would hold that hurt inside and let it make them feel worse. Hope the responses help you know how great you're doing!
Best wishes to you!

(Edited to correct a bit and add a bit. ).

singlefemalelawyer

That's horrible - sorry this happened to you. Unfortunately, it seems to be the cool thing to bully other people. Guess it makes them feel better about themselves. I never understood people who take pleasure in hurting others. Just keep doing what you're doing and know that you are wiser than they are. You handled the situation rather well. Even though it was hurtful, use it as motivation to keep going towards your goals.

blondageh

That is horrible! You aren't even fat! You are at a nice size for your height. Stupid little tramps will see what is coming in a couple years when they start packing on the pounds. Good for you for holding your head high. Sucks you had to experience that. I am terrified every time I go to our community pool that the teenagers that hang out there are going to make barfing noises when I get out. The other day they all sat down right next to my stuff so I stayed in the water hoping they would leave but when they finally didn't, I had to get out so I just mustered up the courage, got out and grabbed my towel that was 2 ft away from them. Strange how these little turds can have so much influence on an adult that should be respected.

iAMsmiling

Fear not.

They'll hit high school and go through a living hell of body image crisis and put downs from the beautiful people.

In other words. Time wounds all heels.

nope31

I don't know why your surprised. Girls are mean.
If you did say anything to them, that would have fueled more razzing.
It is what it is.
This is why we are considered grown ups and they are considered children.
Children tend to emulate the behavior of others.
They learned it somewhere.

sullykat

I can assure you, if their mothers were around, they would not act the same way… at least I hope they wouldn't. I don't think it is a "how they are being raised" issue, I think it is a girl issue.

Girls are typically mean to one another. Rather than pick each other up, we tear each other down. Self esteem issues usually. That heckling had NOTHING do to with you, and 100% to do with how they look in front of their friends. Have you ever read some of the message boards around here? Mostly to girls who are super skinny - they get mocked, told that they are too thin, or what have you.

It's all about self esteem and how comfortable people are in their own skin. Unfortunately, it's all a life lesson. Some learn it, some don't. The only thing we can control is ourselves, and how we choose to act and react towards others.

You did a good job not feeding into their insecurities. Keep that chin up, you're doing great.

celtbell3

That is horrible - society today is really sinking to new lows when children feel it is acceptable to talk the way they are allowed to towards adults. The 'rights' issue is muddled, IMO.

michellechawner

I would have followed them home and yelled at the parents. And I would have had no problem chasing after them to find out where they lived.

Unfortunately, kids these days are being raised horrible - last night we had our meeting and we go to a restaurant and meet over dinner... the kids next to us were SCREAMING the entire meal, we couldn't even talk over it - finally I turned around and said "please manage your child, this is a restaurant, not a playground." And the parents ignored me. When the server said it, they ignored her. You know what, this is a public place. Control your damn kid or don't come out in public.

Basic manners are hard to find now a days. It's horrible.

GnomeLove

I dunno man...yesterday some little brat in my neighborhood climbed up on top of her moms car and started stomping the roof as hard as she could with her feet when her mom told her to get off.

If that was my kid I would have brought the Hammer of Thor down on him.

They are raising them wrong these days. Spoiled little ****s think they can do whatever they want.

EmmieBaby

saw a poor big girl (aprox 13-16 years old) get harassed on the bus by two same aged girls (one was tubby herself and the other was a stick)

a mom stood up and gave the tubby girl a jar of cake frosting and told her "please put that on your muffin tops and sit your butt down"

best ride ever.

verptwerp

They do it because they can, with no consequences :grumble:

Maybe someday someone will do it to them ....... payback is a b*tch !

In the meantime, continue to hold your head up high & keep on truckin' !

ninerbuff

Sorry ahead of time for the vent!

I never thought that I would need to use the word heckling in reference to myself. Yesterday while I was out BRISKLY walking my dog in my subdivision (it was my off day for C25K) I was heckled by a group of pre-pubescent girls!

Here is what happened: As I was walking, I passed a young group of girls, I nodded, smiled, and politely said hello as they rode their scooters. Shortly after I passed them they started SCREAMING "YOU ARE FAT" "HEY GIRL WITH THE DOG YOU ARE SO FAT". I did not give them the privilege of acknowledging their heckling and just kept walking with my head held high. I tried not to let their words get to me, but there was still a little bit of hurt caused by these young girls.

What I want to know, is how are these little girls being raised? Why do they think it is ok to publicly shame an adult who is out obviously trying to become fit?

I know they are young, but I still do not find this acceptable coming from any person, young or old.

Here are my stats:
Height: 5'8.5
SW: 248
CW:203
GW:165

What's ironic is that lots of these little girls end up being the big girls in 20-30 years. Karma.

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Jme2209

Thanks everyone for your positive feedback! I am trying to keep my head up and losing a pound this morning certainly helped!
It just makes me sad that this happened at all.

HollisGrant

Sorry ahead of time for the vent!

I never thought that I would need to use the word heckling in reference to myself. Yesterday while I was out BRISKLY walking my dog in my subdivision (it was my off day for C25K) I was heckled by a group of pre-pubescent girls!

Here is what happened: As I was walking, I passed a young group of girls, I nodded, smiled, and politely said hello as they rode their scooters. Shortly after I passed them they started SCREAMING "YOU ARE FAT" "HEY GIRL WITH THE DOG YOU ARE SO FAT". I did not give them the privilege of acknowledging their heckling and just kept walking with my head held high. I tried not to let their words get to me, but there was still a little bit of hurt caused by these young girls.

What I want to know, is how are these little girls being raised? Why do they think it is ok to publicly shame an adult who is out obviously trying to become fit?

I know they are young, but I still do not find this acceptable coming from any person, young or old.

Here are my stats:
Height: 5'8.5
SW: 248
CW:203
GW:165

I find kids like that scary. They could actually hurt you if they decide to do it, now or later. I consider it sociopathic to try to humiliate a stranger in public.

I live near a large recreation park with swings, outdoor exercise equipment, benches, etc. My dog loves the rec park because of the squirrels and the other dogs, but I try to walk elsewhere in warm weather because sullen teens sometime hang out in groups -- I don't know if they're doing dope or what. The point here is some preteen girls heckled me last year, too. I have a lovely collie that attracts a lot of attention, 99 percent favorable. It's fun owning her because people stop to chat all the time. However, last year, after we walked by a group of preteen girls, one screamed something like "... about the DOG!!... about the DOG!!" They didn't mention my weight (I am somewhat overweight, but not that much), but they frightened me. I ignored them and kept walking. Kids can be rotten.... they could throw rocks at you and in rare instances do much worse.