Unsupportive Sister

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  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    You know, after glancing over the "motivation" forums, I realized that I didn't need or want motivation or support from my friends and family. I needed to rely on myself. Motivate myself. Pick myself off of the couch when I needed to go exercise. i liked the support from MFP, because we all decided to be in this together. But my friends and family didn't decide to do this with me, and I wasn't going to drag them into it just because I was doing it.
  • Mischievous_Rascal
    Mischievous_Rascal Posts: 1,791 Member
    K_saine wrote: »
    I know I don't need my sister's approval and It only slightly matters to me what she thinks. That being said it just bothered me that I couldn't just say what I am doing with my life and let it be left at that. Her thing is that she doesn't eat certain meats and never drinks soda and blah blah. Well it doesn't really work in my opinion she still looks as much overweight as she always has been. But I don't tell her that her selective-vegetarianism is a terrible way to lose weight.

    I just wish I could have had more facts to support this weight loss method. I don't have results yet because this is new to me and I just started.

    I don't really care what she thinks because majority of her methods of doing things make me shake my head. I just want to be able to say something that makes her be like "okay maybe my sister has this figured out and doesn't need my opinions."

    I've lost almost 100 pounds and one of my friends STILL bashes calorie counting. I just don't discuss weight loss with her anymore, period. You just have to learn to pick your battles and carry on doing what's best for you.
  • Capt_Apollo
    Capt_Apollo Posts: 9,026 Member
    You know, after glancing over the "motivation" forums, I realized that I didn't need or want motivation or support from my friends and family. I needed to rely on myself. Motivate myself. Pick myself off of the couch when I needed to go exercise. i liked the support from MFP, because we all decided to be in this together. But my friends and family didn't decide to do this with me, and I wasn't going to drag them into it just because I was doing it.

    why aren't we friends?
  • jgnatca
    jgnatca Posts: 14,464 Member
    You live in your body 24/7. Quietly do what you like because you live with the results. Thank your sister for her concern (comes out badly, but isn't that what family is for?) and move on.
  • RuNaRoUnDaFiEld
    RuNaRoUnDaFiEld Posts: 5,864 Member
    Just do your best Mrs Browns voice and say "That's nice". This even works with my staff lol
  • dubird
    dubird Posts: 1,849 Member
    Steph38878 wrote: »
    dubird wrote: »
    Honesty, learn to smile and nod, the go about your business. Now, I'm a snarky person, so I'd be preparing some smartass remarks, but that doesn't work for everyone. XD You know you're not going to get her support, so it doesn't matter what she says. Keep changing the subject and eventually she'll stop. Well, mostly.

    I agree. I'm very much like you.

    I learned it dealing with my dad. Don't get me wrong, he's a great dad and I love him dearly, but he's a retired Navy officer. His advices sounds like he's telling you what to do instead of just some helpful suggestions. Once I figured that out, I realized that it's eaiser to just let him say his piece, say thanks, I'll keep that in mind, and go about my business. Don't know of OP's sister will react the same way, but it's worth trying.

    Or just start telling her wild things you'll be "trying", like leaving the cookies on top of the fridge because calories are afraid of heights and see what happens. XD
  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    You know, after glancing over the "motivation" forums, I realized that I didn't need or want motivation or support from my friends and family. I needed to rely on myself. Motivate myself. Pick myself off of the couch when I needed to go exercise. i liked the support from MFP, because we all decided to be in this together. But my friends and family didn't decide to do this with me, and I wasn't going to drag them into it just because I was doing it.

    why aren't we friends?

    you're not accepting new friends.
  • Capt_Apollo
    Capt_Apollo Posts: 9,026 Member
    edited May 2015
    You know, after glancing over the "motivation" forums, I realized that I didn't need or want motivation or support from my friends and family. I needed to rely on myself. Motivate myself. Pick myself off of the couch when I needed to go exercise. i liked the support from MFP, because we all decided to be in this together. But my friends and family didn't decide to do this with me, and I wasn't going to drag them into it just because I was doing it.

    why aren't we friends?

    you're not accepting new friends.

    i have that there to deter certain people
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