looking for others whose families don't understand

lyraluss

I really wish my father understood what I'm doing. He says we are going out for lunch today because my mother said to. We go to a fish fry place with NOTHING that wasn't deep fried -.- It stresses me out a bit when all I eat for lunch is fried scallops. I need veggies!

Does anyone else's family life consist of family members not understanding or making fun when you eat something like hummus and carrots?
I'd really love support or coping mechanisms for how to handle your family's lack of understanding.

ew_david

I don't try to reason with my family, as I am an adult and capable of making my own choices. I don't really care what they think in terms of my diet or workouts. My sister once yelled at me (at 35 years old) for not eating breakfast. I nodded and that was the end of it.

That said, when we go out to eat I'm a little more lax with my diet. I enjoy myself and make better choices the next day.

nineteentwenty

The best way to convince them that you're right is to keep going and lose the weight right in front of their eyes Your hard work is important to YOU, not them, which makes it hard for them to understand. But one day, you'll be standing in front of them with your brand new body. that's what matters, not how they feel you should be eating.

If it's hard to make healthy choices, cut down your portions and fill up on veggies later when they're within reach. If someone makes fun of you for eating rabbit food, make it a joke and see if they let it go. Don't fight- it just draws you into a discussion you don't wanna have in the first place. You can also try not mentioning your diet, if you think they might see you as judging them. It's not fair, but it will make the ride easier on you.

Good luck!

lyraluss

Kkallisti wrote: »

If it's hard to make healthy choices, cut down your portions and fill up on veggies later when they're within reach. If someone makes fun of you for eating rabbit food, make it a joke and see if they let it go. Don't fight- it just draws you into a discussion you don't wanna have in the first place. You can also try not mentioning your diet, if you think they might see you as judging them. It's not fair, but it will make the ride easier on you.

Good luck!

Thanks girl , and you totally get that rabbit food bit! My dad uses that on me all the time. It makes me even more quiet and I barely talk about my eating habits now. I just quietly write everything down after I've eaten. He seems to think this joke never gets old and sometimes I feel like shouting at him. I'm sorta glad to know that other people know this stuff though, because I figured he was the only immature family member out there keeping an old joke alive.

veganbettie

I say this with kindness, you really just need to grow thicker skin OR just not be around people like that if you can't handle what they are saying. You can't change people.

I'm the only vegan in my family, and group of friends. The jokes get old. I can't even tell you how many damn bacon jokes i've heard. As time has gone on I've learned to let it roll off my back....once in a while i'll response super angry like, and that will normally shock people into apologizing, but in the grand scheme of things it's not worth the energy.

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radiosilents

At first I thought that maybe you were a teenager and had no choice as to what and where you eat... but since you are technically an adult, maybe you can take care of your own food needs? I'm not saying this to be obnoxious, but when I saw your age it just seemed like a really obvious solution.

GreenIceFloes

Everybody I know (fat and thin alike) laughs whenever I use my food scale, even though they've been watching me do it for over a year now. I laugh along and continue to use it. It's not that big a deal, really.

sunshine4040

In my family, it is primarily my husband who does not understand my food choices. He has the sweet tooth of a kid, and can down a box of cakes, or a dozen cookies. It does not seem to affect him at all. But if we go out and the kids want ice cream, and he wants ice cream, and I say sure, but don't get any myself, he makes a big deal out of it. Or trying to feed me sweets, cakes, cookies, etc....because he is eating them. Or in general trying to make me eat, even when I plainly state, I am not hungry, I have eaten enough that I am full. He is insecure with me losing weight. I don't think he deliberately tries to derail me, and I am sure it stems from caring, but sometimes I just feel REALLY pressured. I had been caving in when he pressured me, but I stopped this weekend. I've withstood his attempts to stuff me every day so far this week. I really don't have any tips for dealing with it, other than to explain yourself and stand firm. As an example, my birthday is the 24th of this month. I have told him repeatedly that I did not want a cake. I don't. I am fine with cakes and stuff for my kid's birthdays, but I don't want one for mine. He is bound and determined I am going to have a cake. Finally I told him he could get one for the kids and himself, but I would not be eating any of it, and that while I appreciated the thought, I really did not want the temptation. So, We'll see.

GreenIceFloes

sunshine4040 wrote: »

I would not be eating any of it