"Obsession" Causing Problems

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  • marfhutch
    marfhutch Posts: 50 Member
    Just wanted to say thanks for all the great replies :) in the end this evening went ok as I went for pudding with them...so did half my normal gym and had healthy dinner, but still got to have fun and all within my daily calorie goals!

    I think your all right on the advanced planning though, as this would mean i could remain in control of my exercise and food. So for next week ive asked them to plan ahead so I know that I need to be low cal one day this weekend haha :)
  • tigersword
    tigersword Posts: 8,059 Member
    So... You insist on going to the gym, and refuse to ever possibly skip a day to hang out with your friends, but then you're complaining you feel cut off from them?

    Either make plans with them on the weekends when you aren't obsessing, or rearrange things during the week. This is the rest of your life. Taking a day or two here or there to hang out with your friends is not a bad thing. Intentionally pushing them all away is a bad thing.
  • MarianneC93
    MarianneC93 Posts: 60 Member
    I was worried about this when I started - and then all my friends decided they wanted to join MFP too and go to the gym as a big group in the morning! Tell them how your feeling ? Or ....go out, have a lovely time with them, and work extremely hard at the gym the next day :)

    Go and have some fun - you don't have to get drunk and eat chips and fried food etc. If needs be, tell them you're on antibiotics so cant drink etc at the moment. Or that you don't want to anymore because it's going to stop your weight loss. You might find the first excuse easier to start with until you feel like you can be more honest.

    Best of luck - don't let anyone or anything stop your amazing progress!
  • Lesa_Sass
    Lesa_Sass Posts: 2,213 Member
    I would like to add that I ALWAYS find that treating people like I want to be treated works out for me best in the long run.

    I hate being lied to, therefore I feel the truth is always better and never comes back to bite me in the *kitten*.

    There is never a reason to have to lie for an excuse, the truth is best and if a person can not handle the truth, its time to re evaluate the reason that person is in my life. Most people do not care if we drink or not, it is only those who have a problem with alcohol that have issues with others not drinking. Alcoholics can not fathom a person being able to have fun with out alcohol and that is why we push it on other people. When that happens with me, I simply say, I do not need alcohol to have fun, do you? Do you think you may have a problem? That typically sends said person across the room and away from me the rest of the night. I am coming up on 6 years sober, trust me, all you have to say is no thank you.
  • marfhutch
    marfhutch Posts: 50 Member
    As I said, I wish my friends were all still dedicated to MFP+gym, as it used to mean we could do both (socialise and gym) without problems, but the naturally slim people I know seem to have less motivation than me :P

    I agree on the excuses front. When I said "find reasons that I can't go out", they are still valid, truthful reasons (such as needing to squeeze in some work in the evening alongside the gym). Its more that I feel I can't use the gym as the main reason anymore without having some sort of comment being made about my 'addiction'.

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