I'm SO shocked...Right now...Doctor?!
LittleMsEva
Posts: 76 Member
Hi,
Many people have been criticizing my diet, I have an ED, but now i am getting much better. However, today i finally mustered up the courage to see the doctor (been saving for a while because I didnt have insurance). Didn't tell my parents (from where i come from, there is no such thing as an "ED") They won't think I'm lying, they might just think it is an act, i don't know, regardless, I had the money, saw a doctor, and this happened:
I told her about my bad relationship with food, sometimes eating below 500 calories, always less than 1,2k cals, and told her a day or two ago i consumed 107 only, and she nodded her head, told me it was "okay". With a smile. I am so confused, but it's so shocking? She was certified, I am just so shocked?
Many people have been criticizing my diet, I have an ED, but now i am getting much better. However, today i finally mustered up the courage to see the doctor (been saving for a while because I didnt have insurance). Didn't tell my parents (from where i come from, there is no such thing as an "ED") They won't think I'm lying, they might just think it is an act, i don't know, regardless, I had the money, saw a doctor, and this happened:
I told her about my bad relationship with food, sometimes eating below 500 calories, always less than 1,2k cals, and told her a day or two ago i consumed 107 only, and she nodded her head, told me it was "okay". With a smile. I am so confused, but it's so shocking? She was certified, I am just so shocked?
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Hi,
First of all I want to congratulate you on taking the first few steps.. Which is not only admitting you have a problem - but actually allowing yourself to be vulnerable enough to open up to a stranger tell them your problem. That's very commendable, and the first step to success - so you should be proud of yourself!
That couldn't have been all she said?
Did she discuss what to do in the future? Developing an eating log and increasing your calories slowly? Discussing what developed your eating issues or anything!?!?
There is no way that's okay. You know it..0 -
it seems counter intuitive but just like interviewing someone for any kind of job you do need to interview your doctor or your therapist as well! If they don't sound like they know what they are talking about go see someone else!
I can't stress how important this is. I had some back problems and had to see 4 different physical therapists before I could find someone who could help me. And now my back is fully recovered. The first person just told me to work out more and that would magically fix it (no). You need to be proactive about your own health, which it looks like you are doing. Keep at it until you find a doctor as committed to your health as you are.0 -
it seems counter intuitive but just like interviewing someone for any kind of job you do need to interview your doctor or your therapist as well! If they don't sound like they know what they are talking about go see someone else!
I can't stress how important this is. I had some back problems and had to see 4 different physical therapists before I could find someone who could help me. And now my back is fully recovered. The first person just told me to work out more and that would magically fix it (no). You need to be proactive about your own health, which it looks like you are doing. Keep at it until you find a doctor as committed to your health as you are.
lol I once had a doctor tell me that the low blood sugar episodes I was having were migraines without the headaches...thankfully I knew that was not the case
it is true that not every doctor is a great doctor
is it possible that the doctor was trying to be supportive? ie "That's okay that you slipped and ate less than you should , but it is good that you recognize it isn't healthy and we need to make a plan going forward for how to deal with the ED?"0 -
Unless she provided more information like "Okay. Let's work together and establish the best goal for you." then that certainly is an issue. By viewing your diary, I do think you have your ups and downs. Some days are very balanced around 900-1000 calories and then the one with only 107. This is a cause for concern. Please know that we are here to support you. However, the correct step is to see a doctor. Please feel free to reach out in the mean time for assistance.0
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all doctors are the same only there for money..off topic but if there was a decent doctore around i wouldve been able to give birth..screw healthcare..we are no moe than a cow in the herd...good luck n props for tryinh to get help0
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First, congrats on taking the 1st step. That's half the battle.
This doctor needs to refer you to at least a dietitian. They can help you set up a healthy eating plan and go through things with you. Not all docs are horrible, not all are great. But, you need further help than just a nice nod and an okay. Blood work should also be done to make sure you're not anemic or have low vitamin levels that need to be addressed as well, among other issues. Starving yourself can cause lots of issues, as you obviously know, so lots more needed to take place at that visit. You should NOT be charged for what you received yesterday, and personally I would call the clinic manager and speak to them about it and get back to see another more qualified physician.
Good luck!0 -
What kind of doctor was it? Most doctors are not trained in nutrition.
I think you'd be better seeing a therapist, expert in ED, to understand and deal/treat your behavior.
Good luck! You should be proud of you for admitting that you have a problem and want to change your life. :flowerforyou:0 -
Your from CANADA, why did you need to save money?? Doctors are free....??? And I would suggest if that's really what happened you find another one0
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Your doctor may not have known what to say. ED's are hard to manage on your own, but at least you've taken the first step, and admitted you have one. If you'd like to talk, you can message me. Good luck!0
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Yes. Good for you for having the courage to get help!Your doctor may not have known what to say. ED's are hard to manage on your own, but at least you've taken the first step, and admitted you have one.
If you don't mind me asking, what else did the doctor say/suggest? You obviously don't have to answer. I'm just wondering if she was trying to convey more that You are/will be okay, and you aren't "damaged" because a lot of people with ED feel like they are bad people for it.0 -
If you live In Mississauga, you should be covered by OHIP. you don't need to pay for a doctor. I would suggest you see someone else.0
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Your from CANADA, why did you need to save money?? Doctors are free....??? And I would suggest if that's really what happened you find another one
Game changer - I didn't read where you are from.
Why don't you have provincial coverage? Did you just move there?
*ETA - Call your doctor and ask for a referral or find another doctor if you aren't happy with the one you have0 -
She was certifiable
fixed that
I would ask for a refund - she obviously has no knowledge or experience on how to help someone with an ED.
ETA - Wait, WUT? You don't have to pay, or need insurance, to see a Doctor here in Canada. What kind of doctor was this?!?0 -
What kind of doctor was it? Most doctors are not trained in nutrition.
I think you'd be better seeing a therapist, expert in ED, to understand and deal/treat your behavior.
Good luck! You should be proud of you for admitting that you have a problem and want to change your life. :flowerforyou:
What she said. I applaud you for coming out, talking about your problem and trying to fix it.0 -
She was certifiable
fixed that
I would ask for a refund - she obviously has no knowledge or experience on how to help someone with an ED.
ETA - Wait, WUT? You don't have to pay, or need insurance, to see a Doctor here in Canada. What kind of doctor was this?!?
Dieticians and nutritionists are not covered by OHIP, unless you have diabetes or some sort of medical problem.0 -
eva,
i just wanted to say i think you are BEAUTIFUL, i've seen you around before and creepily checked out your photos and thought "i hate being a generic white girl!". please know people look at you and go hot damn, she is gorgeous! cause that's what i did.
that is all!0 -
eva,
i just wanted to say i think you are BEAUTIFUL, i've seen you around before and creepily checked out your photos and thought "i hate being a generic white girl!". please know people look at you and go hot damn, she is gorgeous! cause that's what i did.
that is all!
She certainly is. One of the most beautiful girls I have ever seen to be honest. Wish she saw what we all saw!0 -
You know they call the person who graduates last in school class Doctor too right?
Keep looking for a good dietician at least, and take care of yourself. Good luck0 -
Since this was your first visit with the Doctor, I expect that she was simply information gathering at this point to establish a foundation of who you are, where you're at with nutrition, etc. While she may have smiled and said "Okay", I'm hopeful the okay was simply an acknowledgement of hearing what you have said, and the smile an expression of empathy for you while she took note of your history with calorie intake. The smile may even be an expression of happiness that you acknowledge ED, acknowledgement of an ED is half the battle which you've clearly already won and exceeded by taking the initiative to seek out professional assistance. That alone is a HUGE accomplishment in and of itself, I hope you're proud. I'm proud of you and I don't even know you!
If only for peace of mind, I would encourage you to reach out to this Physician for additional clarification. It's quite possible this was a misunderstanding so I wouldn't write off this experience just yet. Give her a chance to show you how she can help, she may surprise you.
Take Care,
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For the other posters: Maybe OP is from Canada but currently living in the States?
For the OP: Anyway, I've seen my share of idiot doctors, and I've known a few great ones. Doctors are just like everyone else. There are bad apples in every bunch. If she REALLY thought that your disordered eating was just fine, then she's one of the idiot doctors. See a therapist that specializes in eating disorders instead.0 -
My doctor once told me he didn't care if I ate nothing at all as long as I was taking a good vitamin.0
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I've had my share of unhelpful Drs. (with other issues- not food), and I've learned that just because there's a "Dr" in front of someones name does not mean they are good at their job.
Its unfortunate when you have to pay it by yourself but the sad truth is that you have to shop around and find someone who truly understands your problem and that you feel comfortable with.
I'm so happy that you took the first step- don't let this bring you down.0 -
Doctors sometimes are clueless and ignore the food issues.
I'm impressed that you have gotten help and know you have an issue. You obviously a strong, intelligent, beautiful person. Keep working with your ED and keep working on the food issues.
My daughter has issues with food, stomach problems, etc. Her issues are the opposite, she thinks she is too thin, but at the same time doesn't eat when stressed, etc. It is hard for others to understand her issues.
I totally understand yours and everyone here has some sort of issue with food or we wouldn't be here. Some of us eat too much, some eat too little and some binge. So you are not alone and your doctor was an *kitten*!!! Get a new Doctor or just don't bother talking to the Dr about your nutrition. Just get blood tests and other things to make sure you are generally healthy.0 -
While I was doing my residency, I did my research on family medicine physicians and attitudes and knowledge about EDs. The results were surprising. Many did not have significant knowledge about EDs and some even blamed the patient. On the other hand, there were some that were extremely knowledgeable. Most, fortunately, did know who to refer patients to though. My advice would be to find a doc out there that specializes in EDs, see a psychiatrist (who works with EDs), or go to a nutritionist.
Not all physicians are uncaring and ignorant about EDs. There are bad apples in all occupations.0
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