Having a wobble
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And I thought, you know I'm pretty sure I come across as cocky and confident on here, because I've hit maintenance and learned a whole lot from a whole bunch of amazing people and I like to pass it on.
So I thought I'd take a moment and say even now, a year down the line, 3 months into maintenance, it would be so easy to fall back into being the person I was.
Yesterday I grabbed a jam doughnut, and snarfled it, not even sure I enjoyed it that much...I just did it cos it was there...ok so I still hit my maintenance calories but in the evening I was hungry and thinking "feck it, can't be bothered"..I have no issue with doughnuts in my diet, I just didn't particularly want it or enjoy it and yet whoomph it was gone in under 30 seconds
Anyhow I'm going to try to focus on doing it anyway ...even though right now I don't wanna and my head is going "meh, you're fine you can relax the weighing and logging and just go for it"
I've spent a few months thinking "I got this" and right now I'm thinking oh bugger you so don't
So I thought I'd take a moment and say even now, a year down the line, 3 months into maintenance, it would be so easy to fall back into being the person I was.
Yesterday I grabbed a jam doughnut, and snarfled it, not even sure I enjoyed it that much...I just did it cos it was there...ok so I still hit my maintenance calories but in the evening I was hungry and thinking "feck it, can't be bothered"..I have no issue with doughnuts in my diet, I just didn't particularly want it or enjoy it and yet whoomph it was gone in under 30 seconds
Anyhow I'm going to try to focus on doing it anyway ...even though right now I don't wanna and my head is going "meh, you're fine you can relax the weighing and logging and just go for it"
I've spent a few months thinking "I got this" and right now I'm thinking oh bugger you so don't
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So many of us got to a point of needing to lose weight, not from being crazy pigs and eating our way through life but with a series of not so great but not in themselves significant choices. It's so damn easy to make those choices again if you aren't vigilant, hey?
PS: you're fecking awesome ;-)0 -
I want to give you a big hug.
I think you're awesome, and will do my best to keep you motivated since you motivate me so much.
Well done for noticing your "error". It was only once, but things can add up.
I don't want to preach "eternal vigilance", but a weekly weigh-in and conscious correction if necessary is my aim when I get to your situation.0 -
I didn't have to log jack....back when I was exercising 15+ hours a week. LOL. (Serious competitive dancing + running!)
I'm coming face-to-face with the fact that if I want to look like I did 15 years ago and not exercise like I did 15 years ago, I can't EAT like I did 15 years ago.
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You so do got this! Look at how far you've come..its amazing! Im in wobble mood at the minute but I know its just a wobble after being so consumed with studying and *kitten* but ill get back on track...wobbles are part of this (I want to say journey but its just too much cheese on toast for me at this time of the morning lol).
Your amazing ..dont forget that!0 -
If anything this post only makes me love and appreciate you more.
You're human, you're a damn inspiration and I'm glad you scoffed that doughnut.
I need say nothing else. You rock.0 -
we all have those days...while losing, maintaining and I have to assume gaining too...where we just say to hell with this...
I've had them during maintenance...and I start in on it...and sometimes I stop and realize what I am doing and other times I don't...and then I feel like crap.
It's like when we are losing...log it and move on...one day isn't going to derail us....
My only advice and it's the advice I give myself is...what made me say feckit...tired? stress? grumpy? hungry?happy? celebrating?
Find out the reason and you might be better able to recognize the signs next time...
For me it's boredom or celebrations..0 -
Maybe set a new goal? Do you run? Train for a 5k or to hit some new numbers lifting. I get like this all the time and I'm still in the losing phase. Exercise goals usually help. Or maybe a new exercise routine. Something to make you feel badass and not want to ruin your progress.
Some people like buying new clothes. But I'm kind of self destructive and will tell myself "see how small you are? You look great in that dress! Eat all the donuts, you'll never be fat!!"0 -
You've proven by posting that you've arrived though. The mindless patterns were always cumulative in the past without any course correction or any notice for me.
I don't think the goal of maintenance is to be perfect, I think the goal is to find balance between moments like you had and compensating for them so you stay where you want to be.0 -
You've made amazing progress. I've been in maintenance for only 7 weeks and have found I have had a few days like that. So, congrats! Like Lis said, maybe a logging break? I considered it but just couldn't let go.0
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See, you guys are frickin' awesome
And last night I was thinking I didn't need this place any more. Doh!0 -
It is awesome how you have that insight into your own mind, your own thoughts that don't serve your goals. The lies we tell ourselves.
I do that at times.
I think it is part of being human. Part of the baggage from a bad relationship. A bad relationship with food I had.
But it is changing for the better each month that goes by. It isnt perfect and won't be. But as you pointed out seeing it for what it is, that is the difference for me.
And last night I had my favorite indulgence within my limits, pizza and some extra cardio.
Yeah... It was good. It wasn't defeat. It was pleasure well managed.0 -
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I think what's bothering you is the complete 'randomness' of your donut-scarf. Just when you think you've got this sucker licked, then BAM.
And it's not about the donut, it's about why the feck you just mindlessly inhaled it in the first place. And I, for one, know exactly how that feels! I've hoovered things I shouldn't have, spur-of-the-moment, and when done, was pretty astonished/disappointed/mad at myself for having eaten that whatever it was with no regard whatsoever. 
It's one thing to plan for a dinner of fries and a cheeseburger by off-setting what you eat for breakfast and lunch that day, but it must have given you a wee bit of a wtf when you mindlessly chose to gratify an instantaneous craving for a donut that you, in turn, neither savoured nor were able to refuse.
I think we all remain vulnerable to old habits, regardless of how long we've been at this journey. The proof that you're sooooo much further ahead is that you were sufficiently surprised by it that you started this thread.
You rock.
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asflatasapancake wrote: »Chances are you heard every standard answer before. Chances are you know and have applied your knowledge and obviously have been successful at doing so. That doesn't mean you're immune to temptations and "screwit" meals or days. Just last night, I ate over my goal. I knew I was going to and didn't give sh1t. I try to get right back at my routine the next day and that usually keeps me on track. I also think about it and, to be quite honest, it would take monumental overeating and non exercise lasting weeks, maybe even a few months to get back to the slob I once was. So I guess my standard answer is:
PS. No one is a bigger jagweed than me on this forum. Just so we're clear.
Yeah ...I had to look that word up on urban dictionary ...you c'n have it0 -
cwolfman13 wrote: »
This surprises me ..and is somehow good to hear
Doesn't surprise me quite as much as there being a place for Rick Astley on this thread though ...0 -
It would take a strong, strong man not to wobble.0
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Yesterday I grabbed a jam doughnut, and snarfled it, not even sure I enjoyed it that much...I just did it cos it was there...ok so I still hit my maintenance calories but in the evening I was hungry and thinking "feck it, can't be bothered"..I have no issue with doughnuts in my diet, I just didn't particularly want it or enjoy it and yet whoomph it was gone in under 30 seconds
Doughnuts are my downfall as well.
I actually did Tesco shopping online the other day and added some Apple Doughnuts. I then thought nah, better not chance getting them, so deleted them from the checkout cart.
Well i thought i deleted them!
When the Shopping turned up the next day......what was the first thing i saw in the Bags. Yep,.... Apple Doughnuts. Lol
I had one yesterday and one today. Why?.... Well why not?!
We all work hard doing all this exercise, so if we feel we can't have a doughnut (or 2) every so often....what's the point?
I wouldn't worry about it OP, just carry on doing what you're doing and you'll be fine!
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cwolfman13 wrote: »
This surprises me ..and is somehow good to hear
Doesn't surprise me quite as much as there being a place for Rick Astley on this thread though ...
Nooooobody expects the Rickish Imposition! 0 -
We have a saying in the martial arts. "Fall down seven times, stand up eight."
Nothing wrong with having a setback or a doughnut. What matters is that you don't let that stop you from getting back up and trying again.
I know I will be one of those people who will never really be able to walk away from having to track everything I eat. And I am okay with that if it gets me to where I want to be.0 -
That's why I joined a gym years ago. So I could have treats and not feel guilty and it worked. Until I quit the gym and exercising, then it fell apart. So now I'm back! Unless your in competition, I don't think it will hurt if your are fit and exercising. I am restricting my diet right now, but when I hit my goals, I can go out have a few beers or have a big dinner occasionally, then turn it into muscle the next day at the gym. Only time will if my theory still works? Your mileage may vary.0
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Ugh - thank you for that moment of honesty. Yesterday, my boyfriend got news that his grandad isn't doing well and is in the hospital. I started thinking about everything I could do to help him and his family and then realized it really isn't my place. That got me remembering my own grandma's death a couple of years ago.... and then all of a sudden, I was stress eating. I ate 550 calories in Veggie Straws... -___- which is almost 1/2 my daily intake limit.And I thought, you know I'm pretty sure I come across as cocky and confident on here, because I've hit maintenance and learned a whole lot from a whole bunch of amazing people and I like to pass it on.
So I thought I'd take a moment and say even now, a year down the line, 3 months into maintenance, it would be so easy to fall back into being the person I was.
Yesterday I grabbed a jam doughnut, and snarfled it, not even sure I enjoyed it that much...I just did it cos it was there...ok so I still hit my maintenance calories but in the evening I was hungry and thinking "feck it, can't be bothered"..I have no issue with doughnuts in my diet, I just didn't particularly want it or enjoy it and yet whoomph it was gone in under 30 seconds
Anyhow I'm going to try to focus on doing it anyway ...even though right now I don't wanna and my head is going "meh, you're fine you can relax the weighing and logging and just go for it"
I've spent a few months thinking "I got this" and right now I'm thinking oh bugger you so don't
I ended up eating to maintenance, thankfully, not over. But it would've been sooooo easy to say **** it and eat whatever crossed my path for the rest of the night.
I've been successfully losing for three years now - and I still can't break some of the old habits.0 -
I screw up on a daily basis, so I'm not done my journey yet!
P.S. @rabbitjb You are pretty awesome regardless of a slip! 0 -
But can you do it for life ?0
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But can you do it for life ?
Well because it's about vigilance and there are habits formed in terms of logging and checking in here I hope so ...tell you what though @yarwell I can do it for today ...and whatever I grab and snarfle isn't going to massively screw with my water weight by dint of it being something I've excluded for months like when I was doing low carb ...so all I can do is hope0 -
But can you do it for life ?
Well because it's about vigilance and there are habits formed in terms of logging and checking in here I hope so ...tell you what though @yarwell I can do it for today ...and whatever I grab and snarfle isn't going to massively screw with my water weight by dint of it being something I've excluded for months like when I was doing low carb ...so all I can do is hope
True. And you're aware of your body's response to an "over" day, which helps a lot. Like the time I scarfed down an entire pizza (small one, but still big enough). It took a week, but staying on track the whole time after put me back on the same trendline.0 -
I would suggest trying not to "snarf", or gobble it down like you know you're doing something wrong. The next time take it slow, and tell yourself you're going to eat it and enjoy every bit. Take away the guilt, stay in control, and walk away from there. Then do what we tell all the noobs--start over.0
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But can you do it for life ?
Statistically the odds are against us. But I think we improve our chances by being aware of the fact that achieving our weight loss goal isn't the end game. That is why OP's post struck a cord with me. I recognize that it would be very easy to fall back on my old habits. So we wobble onward one day at a time.
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