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shrinkingletters wrote: »yopeeps025 wrote: »shrinkingletters wrote: »yopeeps025 wrote: »shrinkingletters wrote: »Davisrjessica wrote: »shrinkingletters wrote: »Online dating has actually made me a few friends. Although there was no romantic click with them, we still got along afterward.
I still f***ed some of them just to be sure, though.
Understandable. Way to be thorough.
You gotta be sure there's really nothing there, you know?
I wasn't kidding though, I'm friends with pretty much all the good dates I had that didn't end up being romantic-feely.
Was there ever nothing there?
Not really, no. Some of them there was an attraction, obviously, and we got along well, but it wasn't right for various reasons. So in those cases, we got the physical thing out of the way and...I dunno. I'm friends with them. We'll go out to movies or hang out, chat on facebook occasionally, but it's not weird and it's really casual.
You sound like someone I know. It surprises me that some women can keep things really casual.
It shouldn't. We're all different, just like men.
I am now just starting to find the ones who want to keep it casual.
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I am now married to my last online "dater" . I agree with Nomad5326. It's either there or not. Don't over-analyze.0
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G) Married the first guy I met on there. So far so good.0
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soldiergrl_101 wrote: »So I had my worst "Online dating" experience yesterday it was hilarious....The 5'9 stud showed up at a surprising 5'4 weighing approx 70lbs soaking wet (meaning I would break this guy if ever). Then 10 minutes into the date he asked me if I had ever been to the Porn Star awards in Las Vegas..I said no, I dont really know any porn stars well enough to care. He proceeds to pull out his phone and show me pictures of each of his favorite porn stars and tell me their names! From there it gets worse. He goes on his little explanation on why each one is so great for 20 minutes before he decides to tell me how his favorite film is a porn slasher or leather face slicing and dicing and then getting jiggy with the bodies :0. Mind you this entire time I have still yet to comment at all because I was so dumbfounded I didnt know what to say, I kept waiting for the "Im kidding" to come out. After the gazzilionth time of trying to change the topic and failing, I stood up and grabbed my keys signaling that I am taking off. But not quick enough before he had the chance to say "Hey if your interested the back seat of my Jeep folds down..." WOW ha-ha that's a new one. CHECK!
Lol! Sounds like he only wanted to reanct a porn film. What a creep!0 -
yopeeps025 wrote: »
I believe that you need to be physically attracted to someone to have a successful relationship. Doesn't mean they need to be conventionally physically attractive, just that you need to be attracted. And I believe that attraction can grow.0 -
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Alatariel75 wrote: »yopeeps025 wrote: »
I believe that you need to be physically attracted to someone to have a successful relationship. Doesn't mean they need to be conventionally physically attractive, just that you need to be attracted. And I believe that attraction can grow.
Elaborate?
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yopeeps025 wrote: »Alatariel75 wrote: »yopeeps025 wrote: »
I believe that you need to be physically attracted to someone to have a successful relationship. Doesn't mean they need to be conventionally physically attractive, just that you need to be attracted. And I believe that attraction can grow.
Elaborate?
I mean that there needs to be an element of physical attraction between 2 people for the relationship to work. Neither have to be 'conventionally' attractive. It doesn't matter if anyone else ever finds either person attractive in a "wow, he/she is hot" way . But there need to be a level of "I look at you, and I want to be on you" for things to work. I've dated people I have adored and admired intellectually, but just haven't been physically attracted to and it just doesn't work. I've also been very physically attracted to people that the general consensus would say "ew, really?". Physical attraction is a very personal thing, but I think it needs to be there.0 -
My friend had given me my ex boyfriends number when I was 13 and we chatted for a bit , became friends, fell in love, dated for 6 years , broke up due to indifferences , but we're still friends. I guess u could say it was like online dating since I met him after speaking to him on the phone . however we both knew of each other through mutual friends and our schools played against each other in various sports and stuff0
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Alatariel75 wrote: »yopeeps025 wrote: »Alatariel75 wrote: »yopeeps025 wrote: »
I believe that you need to be physically attracted to someone to have a successful relationship. Doesn't mean they need to be conventionally physically attractive, just that you need to be attracted. And I believe that attraction can grow.
Elaborate?
I mean that there needs to be an element of physical attraction between 2 people for the relationship to work. Neither have to be 'conventionally' attractive. It doesn't matter if anyone else ever finds either person attractive in a "wow, he/she is hot" way . But there need to be a level of "I look at you, and I want to be on you" for things to work. I've dated people I have adored and admired intellectually, but just haven't been physically attracted to and it just doesn't work. I've also been very physically attracted to people that the general consensus would say "ew, really?". Physical attraction is a very personal thing, but I think it needs to be there.
So we agree and I am sure a lot of people who say looks don't matter really mean how you explain it. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. That doesn't mean I don't care about looks if the general public finds the partner unattractive.0 -
yopeeps025 wrote: »Alatariel75 wrote: »yopeeps025 wrote: »Alatariel75 wrote: »yopeeps025 wrote: »
I believe that you need to be physically attracted to someone to have a successful relationship. Doesn't mean they need to be conventionally physically attractive, just that you need to be attracted. And I believe that attraction can grow.
Elaborate?
I mean that there needs to be an element of physical attraction between 2 people for the relationship to work. Neither have to be 'conventionally' attractive. It doesn't matter if anyone else ever finds either person attractive in a "wow, he/she is hot" way . But there need to be a level of "I look at you, and I want to be on you" for things to work. I've dated people I have adored and admired intellectually, but just haven't been physically attracted to and it just doesn't work. I've also been very physically attracted to people that the general consensus would say "ew, really?". Physical attraction is a very personal thing, but I think it needs to be there.
So we agree and I am sure a lot of people who say looks don't matter really mean how you explain it. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. That doesn't mean I don't care about looks if the general public finds the partner unattractive.
I guess I figure that if I really like the person, I don't give a damn what the general public thinks.0 -
Alatariel75 wrote: »yopeeps025 wrote: »Alatariel75 wrote: »yopeeps025 wrote: »Alatariel75 wrote: »yopeeps025 wrote: »
I believe that you need to be physically attracted to someone to have a successful relationship. Doesn't mean they need to be conventionally physically attractive, just that you need to be attracted. And I believe that attraction can grow.
Elaborate?
I mean that there needs to be an element of physical attraction between 2 people for the relationship to work. Neither have to be 'conventionally' attractive. It doesn't matter if anyone else ever finds either person attractive in a "wow, he/she is hot" way . But there need to be a level of "I look at you, and I want to be on you" for things to work. I've dated people I have adored and admired intellectually, but just haven't been physically attracted to and it just doesn't work. I've also been very physically attracted to people that the general consensus would say "ew, really?". Physical attraction is a very personal thing, but I think it needs to be there.
So we agree and I am sure a lot of people who say looks don't matter really mean how you explain it. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. That doesn't mean I don't care about looks if the general public finds the partner unattractive.
I guess I figure that if I really like the person, I don't give a damn what the general public thinks.
But I'm talking about looks that have nothing to do with anyone else. Which like you said still matter. Looks matter to everyone but it's and still be less attractive than the personality. Which I found out after the best date that I wrote about in one of these forums. She wasn't the prettiest girl I dated. She did have the best personality I dated so I was upset when she said let's keep things casual.
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ahhh its all stories, laughs for the future, none of em are bad.
I once set fire to my gloves when trying to be romantic, and when i came to the
part, we just kept hitting teeth!! 0 -
Mr_Stabbems wrote: »ahhh its all stories, laughs for the future, none of em are bad.
I once set fire to my gloves when trying to be romantic, and when i came to the part, we just kept hitting teeth!!
You never had a bad online date. That is pretty nice. That means you pick them well. Or they pick you well.
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I only had one bad one. He was just a complainer. That was several years ago before I met my late husband...online. I'm trying it out again and so far, I've gotten quite a few messages from men in their twenties. Some looking for sex and some trying to get me to see that age is just a number. A few messages from married/involved men looking for something on the side. There's also a few that are gentlemen.0
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wolfsbayne wrote: »I only had one bad one. He was just a complainer. That was several years ago before I met my late husband...online. I'm trying it out again and so far, I've gotten quite a few messages from men in their twenties. Some looking for sex and some trying to get me to see that age is just a number. A few messages from married/involved men looking for something on the side. There's also a few that are gentlemen.
Well age is just a number when both parties are an adult. Actually my worse date I wrote about in another thread was a date of someone six years older than me.
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yopeeps025 wrote: »wolfsbayne wrote: »I only had one bad one. He was just a complainer. That was several years ago before I met my late husband...online. I'm trying it out again and so far, I've gotten quite a few messages from men in their twenties. Some looking for sex and some trying to get me to see that age is just a number. A few messages from married/involved men looking for something on the side. There's also a few that are gentlemen.
Well age is just a number when both parties are an adult. Actually my worse date I wrote about in another thread was a date of someone six years older than me.
Well, for me, that's not necessarily true. I'm a widow with an adult child and two children at home. Someone in their twenties would not be able to understand the dynamic of my family nor relate to most of my experiences. Plus, I'm not going to date someone so close in age to my adult son. That said, I did give a 27 year old a chance and ugh! He attached himself to me like white on rice and made me very uncomfortable.
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wolfsbayne wrote: »yopeeps025 wrote: »wolfsbayne wrote: »I only had one bad one. He was just a complainer. That was several years ago before I met my late husband...online. I'm trying it out again and so far, I've gotten quite a few messages from men in their twenties. Some looking for sex and some trying to get me to see that age is just a number. A few messages from married/involved men looking for something on the side. There's also a few that are gentlemen.
Well age is just a number when both parties are an adult. Actually my worse date I wrote about in another thread was a date of someone six years older than me.
Well, for me, that's not necessarily true. I'm a widow with an adult child and two children at home. Someone in their twenties would not be able to understand the dynamic of my family nor relate to most of my experiences. Plus, I'm not going to date someone so close in age to my adult son. That said, I did give a 27 year old a chance and ugh! He attached himself to me like white on rice and made me very uncomfortable.
That I do understand. When I was 23 I did go on a date with a 39 year old who first child was very very very close to my age.
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