Something is wrong with my brain!

zoomtech16

I still look in the mirror and see this huge person, but I saw a picture of me today and I was like is that skinny person me? The other day this guy was flirting with me, and all I was thinking is that he's just being nice because he's skinny and I'm fat, (not that he might LIKE me!) so I did't know what to do... How do I become the new skinny me? When do you get the confidence you're supposed to have with weight loss?

worstcaster

Confidence is a matter of perception and attitude rather than a state of being based on your weight. If you want to feel more confident try to change your state of mind by acting confident until you are actually confident. Make an effort to look people in the eye when speaking and use a tone of voice that suggests confidence even if you don't really feel confident. As you practice this you will start to feel actually confident.

dramaqueen45

It does take a while for your brain to catch up with your body because you have seen yourself as a certain size for so long. Now that you have lost weight you are getting attention, and right or wrong, people can be nicer, flirt more and just pay more attention to you.

mrsfabbanks

No matter what size we are ladies we have to see ourselves as the beautiful women we are. Sometimes this is easier said than done. Lol. I wasn't taught to be confident growing up but I learned to find other women I admired and imamatated them. I guess kinda faking it until you make it. Lol. As you start to understand the awesome things that make you special, you'll be able to walk in confidence.

ElvenToad

I am going through this exact same thing, although I would not consider myself skinny quite yet haha. I think the answer you're looking for is time. When I look in the mirror I see how much farther I still have to go, as opposed to how far I have already come so I get it. I still think of myself as this huge wide person who takes up so much space even though I'm not anymore. Our brains need time to catch up.

As far as confidence goes, I think the answer is the same. In time you will find it if you haven't already.

LisaFlag

Same. I think when people flirt that they didn't take a good look at me so they didn't catch my flaws the first time around. Or that they weren't really flirting.

jesusarolon

dramaqueen45 wrote: »

It does take a while for your brain to catch up with your body because you have seen yourself as a certain size for so long. Now that you have lost weight you are getting attention, and right or wrong, people can be nicer, flirt more and just pay more attention to you.

This!

I'm currently dealing with this as well. I can see maybe half the weight that I have lost when I look in the mirror. But when I look at myself in pictures I see the full weight loss.

I think it might depend on the mirror as well because I constantly find myself checking myself out in the frozen food section (of all places) and while I'm walking by shops with dark reflective windows.

zoomtech16

LisaFlag wrote: »

Same. I think when people flirt that they didn't take a good look at me so they didn't catch my flaws the first time around. Or that they weren't really flirting.

Yes its very weird. I have guys texting me now which NEVER happened before in my entire life, and I have no idea what to do. Being an introvert has always come with my being big, so I really don't even know how to act or how to text somebody! Its a good thing, but I guess I just never prepared for it.