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I just deleted a bunch of friends.

wwstewart

Why? Because they lost their drive. They haven't logged in in a few months.

The truth is that seeing people who have logged in for 100+ days is extremely motivating to me, because it *almost* feels like a competition.

So...if you want to be motivational, then shoot me a friend request.

Replies

Genome88

Hey, I'm at 171! I friend requested you.

salembambi

im at 558 streak because im a bad *kitten*

MostlyWater

A few months? After 6 days, they're history. I don't want a thousand friends here, I want active friends.

Xo_c_e_b_xo

I've only been on here a short while but I've logged everyday (even on bad days) feel free to add me : )

Haggishare

Add me if you like

cuckoo_jenibeth

I just passed my 1 yr mark without a missed day! I believe in MFP & in myself too much to slack off! Plus, we all need one another; you never know which day may be the day that you affect change!

Gska17

I'm on day 98! I'll send you a request.

Azurite27

I'm at 600+ days and maintaining a large loss. Feel free to add me.

cuppykat

I deleted a few friends myself the other day. I'm only on like day 65 but if anyone wants to add me feel free!

jesusarolon

I delete friends after about a week as well. I need friends for the long haul, not a list of numbers and profile pics.

I do try to message them first though and it helps when they mention before hand that they'll be on vacation or something for a few days.

Soopatt

I don't consider it anyones job to motivate me. People are free to slack off as much as they like, I will motivate myself. It is nice to have friends that post often and I really enjoy those who do, but I am not going to punish others for not being as noisy as I would like. Maybe they think you were supposed to motivate them and they blame you for their failure because you didn't post interesting enough motivational monologues or intriguing enough exercise?? Seems like a slippery slope. Some people are just quiet. I does not mean they are failures or quitters.

I can only see myself pruning back my friends list if I start to miss the updates of those I enjoy because my feed is too full.

wwstewart

Soopatt wrote: »

I don't consider it anyones job to motivate me. People are free to slack off as much as they like, I will motivate myself. It is nice to have friends that post often and I really enjoy those who do, but I am not going to punish others for not being as noisy as I would like. Maybe they think you were supposed to motivate them and they blame you for their failure because you didn't post interesting enough motivational monologues or intriguing enough exercise?? Seems like a slippery slope. Some people are just quiet. I does not mean they are failures or quitters.

I can only see myself pruning back my friends list if I start to miss the updates of those I enjoy because my feed is too full.

You are correct about that...it is our own job. It's not that I'm trying to punish anyone for not being nosy...actually, it's not the interaction that motivates me, it's seeing that others are fighting for their goals. That motivates me to fight because if they can do it, there shouldn't be a reason that I can't do it as well.

Quiet is one thing. Not logging in for a long time is another. Why have friends who aren't ever there?

JohnBarth

After a week, I try to send a note of encouragement. After two weeks with no contact, they're history. Like many others, I want active, engaged friends and try to return the favor.

Bellodesiderare

MostlyWater wrote: »

A few months? After 6 days, they're history. I don't want a thousand friends here, I want active friends.

Right there with ya! I've deleted my own Mama and my best friend. LOL

Jackie9950

I have logged for 117 days so far. Anyone feel free to add me to your friends list. It gets boring when the friends you do have either don't log in or never post anything. I need communication!!

punkrockgoth

I am super liberal and open with adding friends, but am also quick to delete them. If they're not logging on or are bad for commenting with pseudoscience and Dr. Oz diet advice, I delete them.

enterdanger

I just lost my streak at 340 days, but I was kind of half assed logging anyway. I don't usually delete anyone. Sometimes, life kicks you in the *kitten* and weight loss/healthy lifestyle takes a back seat. I get that, and I'm happy to welcome them back. However, I will post my mistakes in addition to my triumphs. I was unfriended by someone recently for posting that I lost control and binged on jalapeno cheese curls. lol.

seiffertrk

wwstewart wrote: »

Soopatt wrote: »

I don't consider it anyones job to motivate me. People are free to slack off as much as they like, I will motivate myself. It is nice to have friends that post often and I really enjoy those who do, but I am not going to punish others for not being as noisy as I would like. Maybe they think you were supposed to motivate them and they blame you for their failure because you didn't post interesting enough motivational monologues or intriguing enough exercise?? Seems like a slippery slope. Some people are just quiet. I does not mean they are failures or quitters.

I can only see myself pruning back my friends list if I start to miss the updates of those I enjoy because my feed is too full.

You are correct about that...it is our own job. It's not that I'm trying to punish anyone for not being nosy...actually, it's not the interaction that motivates me, it's seeing that others are fighting for their goals. That motivates me to fight because if they can do it, there shouldn't be a reason that I can't do it as well.

Quiet is one thing. Not logging in for a long time is another. Why have friends who aren't ever there?

I get what you're saying. I'm at 120+, open diary, but mostly quiet. Add me if that works for you!

slideaway1

wwstewart wrote: »

Why? Because they lost their drive. They haven't logged in in a few months.

The truth is that seeing people who have logged in for 100+ days is extremely motivating to me, because it *almost* feels like a competition.

So...if you want to be motivational, then shoot me a friend request.

I cant believe you deleted me you Swine! I thought we had something! :'(

MarshaGividen

@ enterdanger. None of us are perfect. It's like learning to ride a horse. When you fall off, you back back in the saddle and ride again. I am not without flaw, and will not delete a "friend" for falling off. It's up to us to help keep each other motivated. Get back on and ride friend. I too have missed a day here and there, but those days have been planned well in advance . . . kind of like a vacation. There is no guilt for me following my planned days out. I just get back on and ride again.

ayreka7

I also just deleted a bunch of people who stopped logging. I have noticed a lot of my friends seem to only go on to log in so they don't lose their streak. I could use more active friends too! Add me if you'd like.

slideaway1

ayreka7 wrote: »

I also just deleted a bunch of people who stopped logging. I have noticed a lot of my friends seem to only go on to log in so they don't lose their streak. I could use more active friends too! Add me if you'd like.

Will everyone please stop deleting me! I'm beginning to take this personally now.

killerqueen21

lol

amc29

Only been back for about 4 days, after going to WW and losing 50lbs, but I have logged everyday. I have another 30-40lbs to lose so I plan to be around a while! I sent you a request!

Calliope610

Are 872 days motivational enough?

bago08

Ive been on for 30 in a row and lost 16 lbs. Im motivated for sure after seeing the results.

ayreka7

slideaway1 wrote: »

ayreka7 wrote: »

I also just deleted a bunch of people who stopped logging. I have noticed a lot of my friends seem to only go on to log in so they don't lose their streak. I could use more active friends too! Add me if you'd like.

Will everyone please stop deleting me! I'm beginning to take this personally now.

So sorry

TheRoadDog

I never get past 5 days. I don't log in to the computer on the weekends. I guess I am a bad friend.

cindyangotti

I have a 166 day streak that I am proud of! That is 166 days of food logging!! Yay me!

blacquehawk

This whole post is amazingly motivating. I just started and finally hit 30 days, it nothing compare to 100+, but seeing this post just makes to that much more motivated