What was your 'I finally need to lose this weight' moment? (And was it as bad as mine?)

kerrisallen

sophomorelove wrote: »

Mostly pictures and health reasons. Socially I don't feel fat or out of place (most of the time) but my knees are not happy with all the extra weight. Plus shopping sucks now. I am tired of being "the fat sister" in the family.

I can relate to the fat sister comment im the middle sister and 50lbs heavier than the others. My little sister is getting married in august so I decided I didn't want to be the fat sweaty sister in the wedding. I should have started sooner but some progress is better than no progress.

ManiacalLaugh

I really do like this thread. It's not a matter of schottenfruede, it's a matter of reading what everyone else has been through and knowing that I'm not the only one.

I had so many of these moments, I don't think I can pick just one.

• Realizing I was too fat to ride a ride at Six Flags (and the guy with the gut next to me was not)
• Realizing my fat pants were too small to fit
• Seeing pictures of myself that I didn't recognize
• Not being able to take a decent pic of myself, even with utilizing all of the angle, lighting, and Photoshop tricks I know

Each one of these spurred a little moment of motivation, but motivation is fleeting, and so I would quit.

It didn't really permanently "click" with me until the last semester of college. I knew I was the heaviest I'd ever been, but with a full-time job and being a full-time student, I felt sort of helpless, so I just let it go until after I graduated. I was making a trip out to New Orleans to visit a friend after graduation. I couldn't wear anything except my work slacks because none of my jeans fit. I spent the entire time looking at some of the grossly obese people who live in that region and wondering if I was heavier, or if that was going to be me some day. I loved seeing my friend, but needless to say, the trip itself wasn't very fun.

After I got back, I just - I don't know - decided that it was the right time to give it a go and that I wasn't going to give up this time, no matter how hard I tried.

So, it's kind of funny. After all the "aha" moments I've had about my weight, I guess the moment it clicked was due to a slow boil. That was in 2012. I've lost almost 90 lbs and counting since then, but my greatest sense of achievement comes from the fact that I've managed to keep losing (although slowly) through a family death, a move accross the country, and a new relationship. Aside from a little hiccup during the move, it's still sticking.

messiahs

Honestly, I never had an exact moment. I've been bullied or at least teased by everyone I've ever met in real life about my size and my appearance at some point in time, except for family like my Aunt, grandma and grandpa, cousins, etc, probably purely because we never spoke long enough to get into it. Every friend I've had has said something nasty, unintentionally or not, at some point in time.

Getting called a whale by people I considered friends, getting told 'I didn't think you needed pizza' when I asked why I wasn't invited out with friends at lunch, teased and jabbed at with subtle 'you're so much bigger than me' comments, down to being told by family that my motivation for things revolved around food even when that wasn't the case. Never mind the disgust any other kid would openly show when our friends teased us about one of us liking the other. Typical kid stuff that bloomed into something humiliating incredibly quickly.

This isn't a sob story, it's just how it's always been; I've been "big" since I can remember. I wasn't a fat baby, though. I guess it really clicked for me when I became so painfully self-aware in High School. Every thing I did was awkward. When I walked I lumbered. When I ate I felt like a cow. But there wasn't any single moment when I told myself "I need to lose weight". I tried and tried again with diet and exercise since I was thirteen but didn't make any permanent changes. It was just a feeling at the back of my mind that lingered and grew stronger constantly until I finally made the decision to get serious.

Laurenjenai

I know this discussion is kind of old but for me, it was when I bought a pair of size 14 shorts to wear, without trying them on. Just looking at them I just knew it would fit cause they looked huge, but when I got home to put it on for my little brothers waterslide bday party I couldn't even get them past my thighs. I was mortified! I hid the shorts in my closet due to the pure shame. After that I started my lifestyle change.

PickwickTheDodo

When I was walking home from work and a random stranger sniggered "look at them thunder thighs" as I walked past. I was in tears all the way home.

tiffyland21

mine was so similar to yours. It wasn't even close to being fat, I'm in the healthy range, some even said I was pretty skinny and just not super skinny. Asians just have unbelievable level of skinny that it is nice to be as skinny as in the unhealthy range like 170 cm ( 5'8 or so ) and at 110 is good.

babyshme

After healing from Cancer and a hysterectomy and gaining all my weight back that I had lost before treatments.

I am week 14 post surgery and cancer free. I have the ok to everything. So I started back up.

I am not happy about the 30lbs I gained Bc of hormone treatment. So now I am on a mission to lose it for once and for all.

lokistrouble

I technically had two aha moments...the first one was I had to go on a business trip on a plane for the first time in 15 years...the way there was uneventful but on the way home I found out I couldn't buckle my seat belt. I was on a packed plane too embarrassed to ask for the seat belt extension holding the two ends together and praying we didn't hit turbulence. My second moment was when this guy I was seeing dumped me for a much younger,much skinnier woman. He never said weight was an issue to him but to me it was an issue. So I'm down about 115 pounds and have about 50 more to go but have been platued for about 6 months

Danixkm

I was very overweight when I was at school so I was living with that realization of needing to lose weight thanks to name calling and needing larger sizes. I yoyo'd from there for a long time. I guess though what made me realize this time (to change to healthy eating and fitness) was the fact that my weight would rise up every time I finished a diet. My fitness level had never really improved either so I knew then I needed to make changes.

sheppeyescapee

It was a combination of things for me. I was told that I needed to lose weight for surgery, which I'm only 1lb away from. I was in the biggest size that they sold at my local clothes shops at the time. I went up to 250lbs and am now back down to 178lbs. Got about 30-35lbs until my ultimate goal weight. Surgery goal is 177lbs. I've gone from a 48"-50" waist in trousers to 32"-34". I'm now having the opposite problem in that most of the local clothes shops don't sell anything below 32" waist trousers so am going to run out of clothes to buy. I was on a load of meds just to get by, now I hardly take any now.

DesereFarmer2015

That was really rude of that guy. I'd probably smarted something back at him.lol Those people will always be ugly on the inside, which makes them ugly on the outside. In my opinion. Mine was when I saw my dad and what diabetes did to him. He lost his muscle mass and has inflammation. To the point of having to help him up and put his shoes on. My dad has always been a strong stout man. This disease has taken a lot from him. He was diagnosed at the age of forty. I'm 30 and afraid if I don't lose the weight that I'll be in this situation soon. I weight 199 and struggle with eating right and now just exercising 5 days a week for 30 minutes. I have Poly Cystic Ovarian Syndrome and on medication for that. Plus high blood pressure. I'm not a "healthy type" of person when it comes to food and how much to exercise. I need some advice and help with all the above. I want to better myself that way I can live longer and feel better. Thanks for reading this. It feels nice to let it out.

francoistxo

My moment was when I realized I was hiding from all my friends and society because I felt everyone would make fun of me and judge me. I became extremely depressed , aloof , and dangerously insecure. I knew if I didn't lose the weight, I'd be suffering depression most of my life.

LieneBrante

I have new "guy" and he is in to healthy eating gym and lifting and all that . So one day we stand afront of a mirror I'm in my underwear and he's holding me kissing my neck and I observed the picture in it. Yes I didn't look bad... But when his arms was around I was thinking how nice would it look if I would also look as fit as he does . Plus my eating habits are sometimes really bad. Then I don't eat at all ( fainted at work) forgot to eat for 4 days . Yes full four days! Then I eat nonsence : like cheesecake or sponge top it with some smoked salmon with avocado and some nice roasted . It's the choises I make that puts me a bit over the weight I should be . I'm not on the heavy side it's just few kg. but of course every one wants to look at its best ! And my motivation is to make better choises in food in general change my lifestyle and work out. Get that body in bikini shape even in winter!

keezo1

I was comfortable being fat until my two moments came just a few days apart about two months ago.I knew i was overweight and in the past few years i gained a lot of weight really fast.But i did not care, i just kept buying bigger clothes whenever the old ones stop fitting.I have only brothers so i was always active and even overweight i still enjoyed my life.But two months ago i went with my brother to the gym and decided to weigh myself while i was there.I found out i weigh 310 lbs i could not believe that was possible,that was my first moment.My husband works overseas and while he is away he insisted i stayed with my brothers.My brother fell asleep on day and i told him i was going out but i guess he did not hear me.When i got back home,i was told he woke up in a panick when he did not see me and ran into the bathroom thinking i had fallen in the tub and could not get up.I understood his worry cause i fell in the tub last year.I later found out they all worry when i shower without someone else at home.Hence the reason my husband insist I stay with my brothers.Iwill never forget the look on my brothers faces.I had no idea the impact my weight gain had on my family.So i decided to lose weight not just for myself but for the people who love me.

smantha32

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couponlamamama

My sweet little seven year old boy laid his head down on me and,"You're soft like a pillow." I know he was being so innocent and complimentary, but I don't want to be a pillow anymore.

bringon30

I had a few: Photos that showed me how I really looked. (The camera does not add 10 pounds. 10 pounds adds 10 pounds.)
I was having to unbutton my clothes when I sat down. (I'm clothing 4 growing kids. I shouldn't be the one spending money on bigger clothes)
I reviewed my health file from my GP online and there was a red flag by my weight.
I just got plain tired of being embarrassed for my own husband to look at me!

To those of you who were hurt and embarrassed by people's remarks, I'm sorry!! People are just beyond rude sometimes.

kat_princess12

When some of my favorite wardrobe staples (a pencil skirt, a couple dresses, and an almost-new top) stopped zipping. I've learned not to care that much about societal expectations for my appearance, but I WILL NOT sacrifice all my cute clothes!

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EmmieBaby

my moment was when my mom ended up in the hospital with a long list of problems that could of all been avoided if she had been living a healthy lifestyle. I remember having doctors keep telling me "she is so young to be having X" and I looked at her with so much anger...how could she let herself go like this!

then I realized I was living the same way, I was going to end up like her.

I refuse.

another "wake up" was the amount of people that mistook me for pregnant (i carry most of my weight in my stomach) I've had people compliment my preg glow, I've had a woman ask my due date while touching my belly...I've even had a homeless man tell me that "its going to be a girl and that I will be a great mom"

Livenonstop

Three straws broke the bank:

I followed weight watchers 15 years ago and reached my goal weight. I kept it off for a while, then went up & down, and recently crossed over that "I will never weight this again!" number.... I've been hovering around the number, but finally hit it.

We have an annual vacation trip & every year on the way home I tell myself "Next year, when they see me, they will be so impressed at the weight I've lost". I just booked our rental for the vacation and I'm the same weight I was last year. Booking the vacation made me think of my empty promises to myself from the prior years.

Finally - I just booked a girls cruise with AWESOME friends! I can't wait to go. Except for the fact I'll be in a bathing suit 50% of the time and be taking pictures the rest of the time. I want to feel great, look great and have great pictures to remind myself of this trip!

I think this last one really did it, because I have successfully tracked for 7 days in a row. I know 2-3 weeks is all it takes to form a habit & I'm half way there. I started to feel a bit wavering & found the community message boards. I think I'll be reading and posting more, just to keep motivated.

This time - its for me. This time - it's for my health. This time - I'm going to succeed!!!!

31 weeks to the cruise and 20 pounds to lose. I can and will do this!

eilxxnh

I was at a dance, having a good time for the first few hours with my friends. But as we sat down to take a break a couple guys walked over to us and asked both of them to dance completley ignoring the fact that I was there. They said yes and left me there sitting feeling mortified. I've struggled with my weight my whole life. I've always been the "fat friend". It's time to change that.

lindarpolk

I was the last one to leave work as usual. While I was in the restroom, I noticed that I had a 6-inch hole running along the seam in the back of my pants. All I had with me was a big sweater, so I think it covered me in back on the way to the car. I put off getting new clothes if I can because I want to lose weight so I can wear the ones in the closet instead of buying bigger sizes.

Another time I was getting out of a friend's car. I didn't realize that my girdle made my pants slip down easier. My friend informed me that I was losing my pants. Fortunately, he was able to forget about it because now he's my boyfriend. I appreciate him loving me for who I am.

There have been other times when people thought I was pregnant.

Steam_Powered_Awesome

The last straw for me was when I hit 180p on my 5'4" - 5'5" frame and wanted to cry every time I saw myself plus the negative effect it had on my already bad health. Changed my diet dropped around 15p. Then joined a gym and lost 26 more pounds. Now I'm at 139p

MFP stats are only based on when I joined my gym.

Imadorkable

We were supposed to go on a cruise and 9 months and I wanted to feel good about my self for the cruise. I ended up losing 30lb with about a 100 more to go and I found out I was pregnant with our first (we didn't think we could have kids too.) So weight loss was put on hold for the time being. We ended up missing the cruise because I was too far along. What kept me motivated to continue afterwards was what happened during my second trimester. My husband and I were out walking around the mall and a car full of teenagers pulled up and said, "Wow, you have a fat a**" and drove off. Lucky for them they were in a car because my husband tried to chase them down and teach them some manners.

kryss247

The moment was when I went on my first date when I was 22 and he was embarrassed to be seen with me. I was almost 300 pounds

musicismymotivation

I had lost 20 pounds last year, with 153 being the lightest I had been in a very long time. I had this new found confidence, got a new boyfriend- things were great. Then a few weeks ago I got on the scale an I was at my all time high, 175 lbs at 5'7. I'd always been the bigger girl growing up and that always made me self conscious. My mother is overweight and I wanted to do something before I grew into her shoes. I love her so much, but not always her style in health.

Mark_Joseph

After gaining a significant amount of weight, that I worked my butt off to lose, I realized that this is my reality. From being an everyday proactive being, to disliking the very thought of even working out/exercise. Then Eating poorly everyday from the chips, to the ever so often ice cream consumption, and finally junk food that my sister would buy every other day. I realized that the choices I made til the "final moment" proved to me as individual that I was comfortable with this sedentary life and poor choice of nutrition. I was either quitting on myself or pointing fingers to others. The most ridiculous part of it was that I accepted this. My depression had nothing to do it with it. It was the mere fact that I running away from everything and not taking responsibility of my actions. I did this to myself and it is about time I take my life back.

marthaelisa80

When I seen this pic of myself 10 years ago this month!

x_blackrainbow

When my mom said "I hope you're just bloated and that's not anything else," implying that I looked pregnant. Following up with "I didn't mean no offense" didn't make it any less offensive.