Does this make me shallow?
Gozzfitness
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Initial attraction goes without saying..
But when you only want to date people who are fitness driven and track their nutrition, does this make you a shallow person?
I can't be the only one who sometimes pictures their future significant other to be a macro tracking gym nut, who's life without food scales is just unthinkable, right!?
Someone make me feel normal :')
But when you only want to date people who are fitness driven and track their nutrition, does this make you a shallow person?
I can't be the only one who sometimes pictures their future significant other to be a macro tracking gym nut, who's life without food scales is just unthinkable, right!?
Someone make me feel normal :')
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I think it is a bit shallow. My husband has not jumped onto my food tracking fitness train (He is not as fit as he once was), but I'm okay with that. You love the person for who they are not what they look/looked like.0
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having something like that be an absolute requirement is hilarious to me
probably shallow too yeah
but oh well people want what they want in a partner and thats ok
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No not at all.
I totally understand wanting that. But it's gonna be hard to find a chick like that (especially in America) and I'm sure it's gonna be fierce competition for her, so ya better bring your A game! 0 -
It depends of why you want that. If you simply want to date someone because they're hot and won't consider someone who doesn't fit in that definition of beauty, then yes it's shallow. If, like me, you want to be with someone who strongly believes that health is important and should be a priority, who can understand and support your choices and that you can also play that role for them and it will be perceived as motivational as opposed to pressure... Then you're just looking for someone who has enough in common with you to have a sustainable relationship.
My ex had a great body composition but was not health/fitness minded at all. He smoked, didn't exercise and always, always had junk food at hand; which sabotaged all my efforts as he would go so far as to laugh at me if I exercised. My husband has to work hard for his great body, and he does and we do it together and it's great. I like that we have the same values and want to achieve our fitness goals together. I don't believe it's shallow.0 -
It being a deal breaker, I think that is a bit much. But them supporting and knowing it's an important aspect of your life would be a great quality in a partner.0
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Everyone has preferences and it's not anyone's job to judge you. They have to accept it and move on0
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Gozzfitness wrote: »Initial attraction goes without saying..
But when you only want to date people who are fitness driven and track their nutrition, does this make you a shallow person?
I can't be the only one who sometimes pictures their future significant other to be a macro tracking gym nut, who's life without food scales is just unthinkable, right!?
Someone make me feel normal :')
I'd say no.0 -
I don't think it's shallow. I would want someone who was fitness driven Bc that's what I enjoy and it's something we can do together. Not to mention living healthy is a lifestyle so it would be much easier if both people wanted that lifestyle!0
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Who cares if it's shallow or not?0
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The requirements you set are yours and yours alone. If you don't feel you'd be a good match/compatible with someone that doesn't possess certain qualities why waste either of your time?
There were certain requirements I had, then let some slide. Guess what issues have been completely demolishing my marriage? Yep, those dismissed requirements. Never again.0 -
According to Urban Dictionary, 'shallow' is judging people by their looks, monetary status, clothes or car, rather than looking deep inside at their heart, personality, etc.
Sounds like you are not shallow since you date by personality - specifically a dedicated gym nut personality, but personality versus a superficial genetic trait like...oh I don't know...let's just say thigh gap.
Interesting question though - Is being shallow bad when it makes you happier?0 -
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Gozzfitness wrote: »Initial attraction goes without saying..
But when you only want to date people who are fitness driven and track their nutrition, does this make you a shallow person?
I can't be the only one who sometimes pictures their future significant other to be a macro tracking gym nut, who's life without food scales is just unthinkable, right!?
Someone make me feel normal :')
Its your priority why WOULDNT you want to date people who have the same PRIORITIES as you.0 -
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Personally :- Sometimes, opposites attract.... Which is a good thing. You get to have ur personal "me time", and meet up and talk about ur day etc.
if ur both into everything the same, I would find that boring.
You can both b totally different, and different interests, and have a good, happy, healthy life.0 -
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Not that I can see? It seems to be that you want to have a lifestyle in common with someone, if that's what you really getting at.0
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blueyellowhorse wrote: »
thigh gaps have nothing to do with the heart. that is strictly physical and so shallow0 -
Eh, whatever floats your boat. Though, you'd probably just fight over half reps vs full reps, and whether the tofu burger was 4.3 oz or 4.1 oz.0
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Everyone, everyone has a "wants" list in their potential partner. Not shallow, it's smart. Know what you want, sure. But be prepared that someone special may knock you on your *kitten* & that list will get thrown as far as you can pitch it. You can always try to influence them into fitness...and then it all works out, right. Normal.0
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newfutures wrote: »blueyellowhorse wrote: »
thigh gaps have nothing to do with the heart. that is strictly physical and so shallow
The heart has nothing to do with emotions either...0 -
asflatasapancake wrote: »Having similar interests is important. Nothing wrong with it. They have to be good in bed though too. You're normal.
haha!! XD
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Nah.0
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Wow some great replies!!!
I am in no way concerned, and it's not the physical traits that come with the fit and healthy lifestyle.. It's more the being on the same page, having complete understanding and being there to support and relate to one another! This whole thing has been influenced by having many "none gym goers" Make comments like "how can you live life counting calories etc" and "I couldnt be with someone like you" haha! I do see where people are coming from and I respect their opinions, But I also feel that there are plenty of people out there, men and women who live their lives the way I do, and like me, are very happy with it 0 -
There are many over weight beings that are fitness driven and track their nutrition. You may want to redefine what you really want. I want someone with a nice big booty, a small waist, nice boobs, and pretty face. But she also has to be smart and must have a good heart. If that makes me shallow, who cares? At least I'll be happy.
So you want the perfect woman... who probably doesn't exist or at the very least will be hard to find. Nobody has a perfect body. Very few women have bodies like how you described, and even fewer will also be smart and kind, or fit your personality.
You probably won't ever be happy if you don't compromise on you 'must have' criteria, because if you don't, you probably won't find who you're looking for.0 -
I agree coCindy4FunFit wrote: »Everyone, everyone has a "wants" list in their potential partner. Not shallow, it's smart. Know what you want, sure. But be prepared that someone special may knock you on your *kitten* & that list will get thrown as far as you can pitch it. You can always try to influence them into fitness...and then it all works out, right. Normal.
i agree completely!0 -
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