issues u face being obese ??
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professionalHobbyist wrote: »kshama2001 wrote: »professionalHobbyist wrote: »Women often say they want to be loved as they are, and that is often said by women a bit heavy.
But....
Most women won't talk to fat guys
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It is a different world after losing 125 lbs. I quietly note and observe it. Never say anything, but it is a huge difference.
Nobody wants a fat person it seems. Harsh but aside of talking with another fat person it feels like being a social outcast.
It has made me more thankful for the couple of people at the gym that helped me when I got started on this long road. I try and encourage new people at the gym now.
I lost weight for me. And that was enough. The other social interaction changes are there too. Sometimes that feels nice although I know how superficial it is.
I'm just curious if you relate to women differently at all after losing 125 lbs? (Congrats, BTW!)
I know that when I was at a high weight and just getting back into the dating scene I had less confidence than I did a few years later.
It is a very legit question
I do and it is evolving.
I know I get treated differently. I'm having fun with it.
I still always speak to the new overweight person at the gym.
I don't ever want to treat people different because of weight.
But I will go back and say MOST women don't have anything to do with a fat guy, not all.
I don't notice this. I know women dating or married to larger men. (I don't know what it is, but all of these men are really confident and cool and smart and usually pretty hilarious. I don't know if I'm confirming my own bias, or if they're consciously trying to live up to the "jolly fat person" stereotype as a kind of defence mechanism, or if the people I know are just pretty great. Personally, although I've never happened to date anyone who was overweight, I've definitely wanted to, it just wasn't returned in those cases)
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