Why is it when you want something, it seems to be happening to everyone else.

Chezzie84

Sorry to post this.
I don't have anywhere else I can vent.

Why is it that when you want something, it seems to be happening to everyone around you?
I am nearly 31 and my partner and I have been trying for a baby for 13 months. Ok, I know that's not a long time and in comparison to the length of time others have been trying is miniscule.

I have been quite laidback about the whole thing up until a couple of weeks ago when there was a big thing on the news about women over 30 struggling to conceive and once you get to 35 don't even bother because the likely hood of it happening being almost zero.
Couple that with at least 6 people on my Facebook announcing either theirs, their partners or their daughters, daughter in laws pregnancy, it's beginning to get me down.
I want this so badly and it hurts to see it happen to others, no matter how happy I am for them.

My sister has a child (he is 3), I love my nephew and I love spending time with him even if it is for a couple of hours. He's a cheeky monkey.
I hate it when she takes him home. I miss having a child in my house, even if it does look like a bomb has hit it.
I even get emotional at nappy (diaper) adverts.
I feel like a nutter.

My other half doesn't understand, don't get me wrong, he wants a baby too but his attitude is it will happen when it happens.

Thanks for reading and indulging my attack of the nuttys.

whatatime2befit

My DH and I tried for over a year on our first. Same thing as you, all our friends/co-workers were happily announcing their great news. All I can say is that it will happen if it is meant to. Can you go for testing to make sure that everything is ok? Sometimes a little extra help in the way of medical help may be needed.

Also, the added stress you are putting on yourself is probably not helping. The month that I took a new job, and was too caught up in that, that it took my mind off conceiving, that is when I got pregnant. When I told my doctor that, he said that happens often. When you are not worried about it, manically planning every time to try to conceive, etc, is when the pregnancy will happen (if nothing is medically wrong).

I do understand, believe me. If you haven't been tested, after a year of trying, you should. If nothing is medically wrong, then just keep trying, but try not to obsess about it so much that it makes life miserable for you and your DH.

BTW I now have 3 kids, after being in your shoes before the first.

{{hugs}}

Chezzie84

whatatime2befit wrote: »

My DH and I tried for over a year on our first. Same thing as you, all our friends/co-workers were happily announcing their great news. All I can say is that it will happen if it is meant to. Can you go for testing to make sure that everything is ok? Sometimes a little extra help in the way of medical help may be needed.

Also, the added stress you are putting on yourself is probably not helping. The month that I took a new job, and was too caught up in that, that it took my mind off conceiving, that is when I got pregnant. When I told my doctor that, he said that happens often. When you are not worried about it, manically planning every time to try to conceive, etc, is when the pregnancy will happen (if nothing is medically wrong).

I do understand, believe me. If you haven't been tested, after a year of trying, you should. If nothing is medically wrong, then just keep trying, but try not to obsess about it so much that it makes life miserable for you and your DH.

BTW I now have 3 kids, after being in your shoes before the first.

{{hugs}}

Thank you for your kind words. I will take your advice and book an appointment in the morning.

whatatime2befit

Chezzie84 wrote: »

whatatime2befit wrote: »

My DH and I tried for over a year on our first. Same thing as you, all our friends/co-workers were happily announcing their great news. All I can say is that it will happen if it is meant to. Can you go for testing to make sure that everything is ok? Sometimes a little extra help in the way of medical help may be needed.

Also, the added stress you are putting on yourself is probably not helping. The month that I took a new job, and was too caught up in that, that it took my mind off conceiving, that is when I got pregnant. When I told my doctor that, he said that happens often. When you are not worried about it, manically planning every time to try to conceive, etc, is when the pregnancy will happen (if nothing is medically wrong).

I do understand, believe me. If you haven't been tested, after a year of trying, you should. If nothing is medically wrong, then just keep trying, but try not to obsess about it so much that it makes life miserable for you and your DH.

BTW I now have 3 kids, after being in your shoes before the first.

{{hugs}}

Thank you for your kind words. I will take your advice and book an appointment in the morning.

Should have also added. I was 29 on my first, 38 when my 3rd was born. We only tried for a month on our 3rd, when I was 37 and trying to conceive. So it is very possible to have perfectly healthy children after 30.