Loss of my mom, a new job, and getting married.

Ambeltz2016

Hello all, My name is Amanda and I recently lost my mom 3 months ago to liver failure. In this time I have started a new job and have gotten engaged to a wonderful and supportive man. While I never got the chance to tell my mom about getting married my fiance tells me that she knew. All this being said somedays I am perfectly fine and other days I feel like I am meeting myself at the door. I have recently decieded that I want to try to lose weight especially this time before I get married. I am 27 years old and I am tired of being over weight. I have seen what it did to my mom and I dont wan't to end up like her. I have made a few changes in my life already such as I have stopped smoking and my new job is less stressful. So now I am just looking for support in my journey to becoming healthier.

T1DCarnivoreRunner

I'm sorry to hear about your mom. My dad died a month ago (7/13), his funeral was on 7/20 (which would have been my parents anniversary, and was the day before father's day).

It is great to hear you are in a less stressful job now and in a great relationship. Those are things that will help (I assume, but not that I would know because I have a stressful job and am also a grad student with a stressful class right now... not been in a relationship for years).

Anyway, with mostly positive things going in your life, I'm sure you will find success.

AddieOverhaul

I am sorry for your loss, but glad that you are using it to help motivate you to lead a healthier lifestyle and have already taken steps by getting a new job. Feel free to send me a friend request - I am an active user and will be a cheerleader for you!

azulvioleta6

That's an awful lot to deal with at once!

Be kind to yourself and take it slowly. Gradual changes are the ones that tend to stick.

Good luck to you.

janiceclark08

Sorry for the loss of your mom, I lost mine almost 18 years ago, its hard to believe its been that long, I know its hard sometimes, but it sounds like you have already made some positive changes. Start logging and move alittle everyday, dont do anything drastic or you'll quit. When you get full stop eating, you dont have to finish your plate. Good luck, I know your mom would be proud of you, wanting to get healthier.

T1DCarnivoreRunner

midwesterner85 wrote: »

I'm sorry to hear about your mom. My dad died a month ago (7/13), his funeral was on 7/20 (which would have been my parents anniversary, and was the day before father's day).

It is great to hear you are in a less stressful job now and in a great relationship. Those are things that will help (I assume, but not that I would know because I have a stressful job and am also a grad student with a stressful class right now... not been in a relationship for years).

Anyway, with mostly positive things going in your life, I'm sure you will find success.

Duh... a month ago on 6/13 and 6/20. Apparently my brain went on vacation.

lisalewis7588

I'm so sorry for your loss I lost my dear, dear younger brother 2 years 1 month ago (6/14/13) so I know the pain of losing someone close to you. Congrats on making positive changes in your life! I'm sure your mother would be very proud of you.

Take this new journey one day at a time. Try to walk a little more and eat a little less to begin with. Small changes add up over time. Don't give up after a bad day. They will happen, but you just gotta brush it off and get back on the horse, so to speak. Feel free to add me! Best of luck

tottie3912

I am so sorry for your loss!! I lost my mom unexpectedly when I was 27. Nothing prepares you for that! Definitely keep loved ones near and give yourself time to grieve. I am so proud and happy for you in that your taking control and making changes in your life health-wise! I would be happy to add you and cheer you on!