(Opinion) Horrible Workout Days

fatasstobadass
fatasstobadass Posts: 24 Member
edited July 2015 in Health and Weight Loss
I'm having a horrible workout day. I'm on my way to the gym because the park didn't do it for me. I have no motivation, I work out by myself, and all the support I have from my family and friends feels very phony. I say this because if it they really supported me, they would offer to workout with me. I'm utterly discouraged today.

Does anyone else have these type of days? If so, how do you kick it?

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  • kk_inprogress
    kk_inprogress Posts: 3,077 Member
    I've had those days! Unfortunately, the only way I can kick that feeling is by working out. You can do this! You'll feel better when you get done.
  • Merkavar
    Merkavar Posts: 3,082 Member
    Want me to insult/motivate you?

    Like an army drill sergeant?
  • kshama2001
    kshama2001 Posts: 28,052 Member
    @fatasstobadass - it looks like you've lost 120 pounds - is that right? Way to go! Did your friends and family workout with you that whole time? None of mine have ever worked out with me. Well, I had an ex who almost killed me on the tennis court, but that doesn't count...

    But, yeah, lots of times I don't want to and force myself. Like today. It was really hot and the last thing I wanted to do was garden. But I got out there anyway and am glad I did.
  • mccindy72
    mccindy72 Posts: 7,001 Member
    fatasstobadass wrote: »
    I'm having a horrible workout day. I'm on my way to the gym because the park didn't do it for me. I have no motivation, I work out by myself, and all the support I have from my family and friends feels very phony. I say this because if it they really supported me, they would offer to workout with me. I'm utterly discouraged today.

    Does anyone else have these type of days? If so, how do you kick it?

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    I wouldn't think so. I work out regularly and my hubs supports my fully in that activity. He knows how much I enjoy it and how much it means to me. He, however, does not enjoy working out and is not into it. Doing it with me would not make him very happy. When he's ready to work out, I will support him by working out with him, because I do enjoy it. See the difference?
  • arditarose
    arditarose Posts: 15,573 Member
    Why do you expect family and friends to workout with you?

    I have these days too. I just go and do what needs to be done. I have a specific routine, so if I miss a workout I'm going to have to cram in a leg or upper body day somewhere else in the week. And I don't want to do that.
  • Francl27
    Francl27 Posts: 26,371 Member
    I have them a lot. Typically I just have low energy and get exhausted. Honestly I'd much rather workout alone than with anyone anyway.
  • nutmegoreo
    nutmegoreo Posts: 15,532 Member
    fatasstobadass wrote: »
    I'm having a horrible workout day. I'm on my way to the gym because the park didn't do it for me. I have no motivation, I work out by myself, and all the support I have from my family and friends feels very phony. I say this because if it they really supported me, they would offer to workout with me. I'm utterly discouraged today.

    Does anyone else have these type of days? If so, how do you kick it?

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    I think you should reevaluate your expectations of your friends and family. Their schedule and plans do not revolve around yours. It looks like you have come a long way, but at the end of the day, this needs to be about you and for you. Be proud of yourself for going to workout on your own. It's hard to not have the support you want, but you do have support. Just my opinion, be more gentle with them.
  • i6Shot
    i6Shot Posts: 51 Member
    Watch any Youtube vid of Ronnie Coleman. Surely he will get you Psyched!
  • PAV8888
    PAV8888 Posts: 14,209 Member
    edited July 2015
    fatasstobadass wrote: »
    I'm having a horrible workout day. I'm on my way to the gym because the park didn't do it for me. I have no motivation, I work out by myself, and all the support I have from my family and friends feels very phony. I say this because if it they really supported me, they would offer to workout with me. I'm utterly discouraged today.

    Does anyone else have these type of days? If so, how do you kick it?

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    You go work out because you want to and because you want the results more than you want the day off.

    Other people should work out with you if they really support you?

    no my friend.

    You are losing weight and exercising for yourself, not anyone else.

    Supportive friends and family are ones who do not actively create impediments.

    Be glad if everyone around you is that supportive!
  • debubbie
    debubbie Posts: 767 Member
    You may need to create a support group to help you, that you feel is truly encouraging. My significant other refuses to work out with me and it can be discouraging at times not to have someone to workout with. I joined a local running group and now have a network of encouraging friends who have similar fitness goals as me. I still have solo workouts throughout the week, but having that group to "brag" or complain when I am struggling has been a huge help to keep me motivated.
  • Ready2Rock206
    Ready2Rock206 Posts: 9,487 Member
    Eh. No one works out with me. But some days are just crummy. Power through - I love kickboxing I can punch out all my frustrations. Does your gym offer classes? I serious love boot camp at my gym - killer workout and you have a lot of other people with you supporting you even if you don't know them. And of course I belong to the other kickboxing gym too.
  • malibu927
    malibu927 Posts: 17,562 Member
    Other than a few times I've convinced my father to join me on walks, I always work out alone. And that's what I prefer to do. Not joining you doesn't equal not supporting you
  • z304
    z304 Posts: 84 Member
    I think about how much better I'll feel after I've worked out, physically and mentally/emotionally. As soon as I get up to put my sneakers on I start telling myself I'm really glad I'm working out and it's going to be good.

    & I'd say that you're on your way to the gym means you are motivated, even if it doesn't feel like it.
  • blossomingbutterfly
    blossomingbutterfly Posts: 743 Member
    I don't think that you should expect them to work out with you. This is your journey and your choice, not theirs. They can be supportive in whichever way is best or easiest for them, not you. You need to find motivation from within. You have lost a lot thus far, you can continue to do so.
  • VintageFeline
    VintageFeline Posts: 6,771 Member
    I honestly prefer doing my own thing, I work out at home alone, sure some days I'd rather not but I do it and it's over with before I know it. You're doing a great thing for yourself, take pride in that and enjoy it, you soon won't need the validation of others who aren't on the same path or in the same place as you right now.
  • Liftng4Lis
    Liftng4Lis Posts: 15,151 Member
    Why on earth would you need anyone to work out with you? You need to decide to do this for you, because of you and not because you want or expect a reaction from someone else. Did the support you while you were gaining weight?
  • pearso21123
    pearso21123 Posts: 351 Member
    I prefer to work out alone; I don't want anybody else seeing how pathetic I am. However, I did just recently get a new puppy who is going to be my new jogging buddy. I like dogs better than people, and I won't worry about being judged by her.
  • CipherZero
    CipherZero Posts: 1,418 Member
    I had exactly NO support at all for my workouts or goals; my wife and mother in law thought I was losing weight too much and too fast - at dropping to ideal weight and a pound a week on average.

    If you're in the similar boat, do it for you. NOTHING is harder because I'm more fit, and a lot of things are easier.
  • azulvioleta6
    azulvioleta6 Posts: 4,195 Member
    I'm not sure that I understand where you are coming from or exactly what the problem is.

    My feeling is that any day that you are physically able to work out is a good day!
  • jennifer_417
    jennifer_417 Posts: 12,344 Member
    edited July 2015
    The fact is, no one is obligated to support you. Would it be nice? Sure. But it's not fair for you to expect it, and you are setting yourself up for disappointment if you do.
  • Alatariel75
    Alatariel75 Posts: 18,190 Member
    your friends and family can support your goals without having to hold your hand. If you want people to work out with, ask them to join you. But don't belittle the support they have for your by stating that somehow if they don't work out with you, they're phony. That's just insulting and, sorry, but makes you sound like a bit of a baby.
  • fatasstobadass
    fatasstobadass Posts: 24 Member
    Hey guys!

    Thanks for all your feedback. I just got back from the park (the gym was a no-go), and I got a good workout in. I'm aware that it's nobodies responsibility to help me lose weight. After all, I lost 120+ lbs on my own, without the help of anyone. But when I lost the weight, I had a plethora of friends and family reach out to me and beg me for workouts; so I teach a fitness class for them every Saturday at our local park. At first, the classes were full, and they began to be my motivation; but overtime, they stopped coming. And those same ones are liking my FB weight loss pics, yet won't respond to my messages about working out. I guess I got used to their company. Hope that adds a little clarification. I'm not dependent, just thought I had some permanent workout buddies.

    I do feel better after that workout. Thanks so much for all the feedback. I read all your messages :)

    Keep up the great work guys, it's a battle! :wink:
  • fatasstobadass
    fatasstobadass Posts: 24 Member
    kkenseth wrote: »
    I've had those days! Unfortunately, the only way I can kick that feeling is by working out. You can do this! You'll feel better when you get done.

    I wanted to let you know that I read your message and hopped right out of my chair. Thanks for your encouragement :)

    Just now seeing all the other responses!
  • fatasstobadass
    fatasstobadass Posts: 24 Member
    edited July 2015
    Merkavar wrote: »
    Want me to insult/motivate you?

    Like an army drill sergeant?

    Haha :blush: I'm a fitness trainer, but I feel low sometimes too. I got it together, Sargent.
  • fatasstobadass
    fatasstobadass Posts: 24 Member
    kshama2001 wrote: »
    @fatasstobadass - it looks like you've lost 120 pounds - is that right? Way to go! Did your friends and family workout with you that whole time? None of mine have ever worked out with me. Well, I had an ex who almost killed me on the tennis court, but that doesn't count...

    But, yeah, lots of times I don't want to and force myself. Like today. It was really hot and the last thing I wanted to do was garden. But I got out there anyway and am glad I did.


    Thanks for your encouragement!
  • fatasstobadass
    fatasstobadass Posts: 24 Member
    Francl27 wrote: »
    I have them a lot. Typically I just have low energy and get exhausted. Honestly I'd much rather workout alone than with anyone anyway.

    :)
  • strong_curves
    strong_curves Posts: 2,229 Member
    I've been working out by myself for the past 3.5 months. In fact, I prefer to work out alone, working out with others turns into more socializing than working out and I'm not here for that.
  • fatasstobadass
    fatasstobadass Posts: 24 Member
    jennifer_417 wrote: »
    The fact is, no one is obligated to support you. Would it be nice? Sure. But it's not fair for you to expect it, and you are setting yourself up for disappointment if you do.

    You're absolutely right.
  • arditarose
    arditarose Posts: 15,573 Member
    fatasstobadass wrote: »
    Hey guys!

    Thanks for all your feedback. I just got back from the park (the gym was a no-go), and I got a good workout in. I'm aware that it's nobodies responsibility to help me lose weight. After all, I lost 120+ lbs on my own, without the help of anyone. But when I lost the weight, I had a plethora of friends and family reach out to me and beg me for workouts; so I teach a fitness class for them every Saturday at our local park. At first, the classes were full, and they began to be my motivation; but overtime, they stopped coming. And those same ones are liking my FB weight loss pics, yet won't respond to my messages about working out. I guess I got used to their company. Hope that adds a little clarification. I'm not dependent, just thought I had some permanent workout buddies.

    I do feel better after that workout. Thanks so much for all the feedback. I read all your messages :)

    Keep up the great work guys, it's a battle! :wink:

    Wow. That's extremely cool of you. I'm sorry your friends and family dropped out of your class! I'd join ya.
  • fatasstobadass
    fatasstobadass Posts: 24 Member
    malibu927 wrote: »
    Other than a few times I've convinced my father to join me on walks, I always work out alone. And that's what I prefer to do. Not joining you doesn't equal not supporting you

    True :)

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