What's the point??

T00GlaM0r0US

Does anyone ever feel like giving up, thinking what's the point in even trying? It's so hard sometimes. I know I can eat what/where I want if I stay in my macros, but sometimes I just want to eat a whole gallon of icecream along with 30 burgers! That will never fit my macros lol.

Cheat days for me are too hard, I always give in and cannot get myself back on track.

What are some things you do to help overcome this type of feeling?

lithezebra

That sounds like emotional eating, and the way to overcome that is to find other ways to meet your emotional needs.

MireyGal76

What is it that you want? What are your goals? You need to have a vision in your mind that is stronger than your desire to overeat.

Focus on that goal.

And sometimes... having an icecream and burger day is ok. But a gallon of it, and 30 of them... less adviseable. :-P

jaga13

T00GlaM0r0US wrote: »

Does anyone ever feel like giving up, thinking what's the point in even trying? It's so hard sometimes. I know I can eat what/where I want if I stay in my macros, but sometimes I just want to eat a whole gallon of icecream along with 30 burgers! That will never fit my macros lol.

Cheat days for me are too hard, I always give in and cannot get myself back on track.

What are some things you do to help overcome this type of feeling?

I once read that the desire to eat a whole gallon of ice cream (or whatever, but in mass quantity), is a way to dive into an abyss....to completely escape. I agree. I have used large quantity of foods in the past for the feeling of delving into something (or I guess away from something). It feels good at the time (but awful later). I've mostly stopped doing that. There used to be times when my family would leave the house and I'd think "score! now I can dive into (insert food)". Then one day it dawned on me that I'm not winning anything by doing this. So I found other things to do when those instances came up: go for a walk, fold the laundry, watch a mindless reality show (without food), read.

Sure, I still eat whatever food I want, but I eat them for the taste, and in reasonable portions. For the most part I rarely eat them just to eat a "whole lot of food".

good luck!

seska422

What's you current calorie goal? Is it set too low? You may want to ease yourself into things by eating at maintenance for a while, then adjusting your deficit lower a bit at a time.

I don't like having a "cheat day" because, as you said, they get me off track. If I really want something, I'll have a "treat meal" once every two or three weeks.

Doing anything is better than giving up. If you can only handle losing 0.5 pounds per week, that's still better than gaining.

You can do this!

richandmarieb

Yes I've felt like that many times. I'm almost 60 years old, so I've been to this rodeo many times. I've probable lost and gained 5 people. Is it emotional eating? Probably sometimes. I see it more as an addiction, like heroin. Food makes me feel good, at least while I'm eating. But why keep trying? Because you're so worth the effort. We are more then the burger or ice cream. I've weighed as high as 226lbs, and I'm only 5'2". I am currently 156lbs. Why keep trying? Because if you don't keep trying you'll get much heavier, and much less healthy. It's a life long battle, but a battle that is worth fighting. If you had a potentially fatal disease that you had to fight repeatedly and for the rest of your life, wouldn't you continue the fight?
And I know this sounds simplistic, but the battle is won by the basics. Healthy diet and exercise. No tricks, no pills, no gimmicks. Eat less, exercise more. Another thought. I had bariatric surgery at my heaviest, I had a sleeve. I lost 100lbs. But I gained back 60 of it within a year. Why? Because even surgery is not a total solution. It is only a tool. I've returned to good old fashioned diet and exercise. I have become a vegetarian, and I find that that is extremely helpful. I log every bite, and I exercise. I know my danger foods (nuts, peanut butter, dry cereal), and use real caution when tempted to inhale them.
I wish you well. Never give up. Fight on!

T00GlaM0r0US

lithezebra wrote: »

That sounds like emotional eating, and the way to overcome that is to find other ways to meet your emotional needs.

I definately struggle with this.

T00GlaM0r0US

Thanks everyone for all of the great posts. I know for sure I deal with my emotions in the wrong way; I can def. relate to wanting to eat whatever i see in the house when everyone is in bed or gone, and if i dont have that one thing to satisfy me, I keep eating. That is my biggest struggle. Sometimes I don't want to try, but I know I do have to. Thank you for the suggestions.

jaga13

Additionally....there were times when the kids went to bed and my husband went to bed early...I would be thrilled with the idea of eating. Now? When my husband goes to bed early, I join him.

lithezebra

T00GlaM0r0US wrote: »

I can def. relate to wanting to eat whatever i see in the house when everyone is in bed or gone, and if i dont have that one thing to satisfy me, I keep eating. That is my biggest struggle. Sometimes I don't want to try, but I know I do have to.

I know that feeling well. It might sound like an indirect approach, but seeing a therapist to talk about my feelings, and find other ways of dealing with them, rather than eating, helped me a lot.

TamLam99

T00GlaM0r0US wrote: »

Does anyone ever feel like giving up, thinking what's the point in even trying? It's so hard sometimes. I know I can eat what/where I want if I stay in my macros, but sometimes I just want to eat a whole gallon of icecream along with 30 burgers! That will never fit my macros lol.

Cheat days for me are too hard, I always give in and cannot get myself back on track.

What are some things you do to help overcome this type of feeling?

YES, I often ask myself if all this hard work is worth it. You know what, IT IS. I am getting healthier and learning how to have a better relationship with food. Getting back on track after a bad day or unhealthy meal is difficult, I get it. When it happens I just accept it, try to figure out where I went wrong, and move on. I no longer let a bad day derail me, it just pushes me to work harder. You can do it.

Gitana

I've struggled with that as well. I think sometimes you just need to talk it through with someone who isn't going to judge and who gets it. I'm available if you ever need. I know it's embarrassing and shameful to disclose to people close to you.

pmm3437

I have my days, where I just don't care, and eat what I want. I accept the fact that every day isn't going to be a perfect day, that fits into my overall plan. I recognize it, own it, and then move on.

I try to limit the number of "stumble" days, but I realize they are going to happen, and I don't allow a misstep to ruin my attitude longer then momentarily. If you do, it becomes dissatisfaction, which then becomes discouragement.

TamLam99 wrote: »

T00GlaM0r0US wrote: »

Does anyone ever feel like giving up, thinking what's the point in even trying? It's so hard sometimes. I know I can eat what/where I want if I stay in my macros, but sometimes I just want to eat a whole gallon of icecream along with 30 burgers! That will never fit my macros lol.

Cheat days for me are too hard, I always give in and cannot get myself back on track.

What are some things you do to help overcome this type of feeling?

YES, I often ask myself if all this hard work is worth it. You know what, IT IS. I am getting healthier and learning how to have a better relationship with food. Getting back on track after a bad day or unhealthy meal is difficult, I get it. When it happens I just accept it, try to figure out where I went wrong, and move on. I no longer let a bad day derail me, it just pushes me to work harder. You can do it.

^ Insightful and useful advice ^

Mouse_Potato

I definitely have my "eat all the things" days, but no, I am never tempted to give up. For me, it has to do with self-identity. I see myself as a healthy, fit person who let her weight get away from her, not as an overweight person who wants to be fitter and healthier. To me, giving up would be like succumbing to illness or believing that I have no control over my own life. So, I keep going, through good days and bad days. Yesterday I was 300+ calories over my goal. Today will be better. Who knows what tomorrow will bring? But I know I will keep working toward the body (and life) I want.

tibby531

T00GlaM0r0US wrote: »

Does anyone ever feel like giving up, thinking what's the point in even trying? It's so hard sometimes. I know I can eat what/where I want if I stay in my macros, but sometimes I just want to eat a whole gallon of icecream along with 30 burgers! That will never fit my macros lol.

Cheat days for me are too hard, I always give in and cannot get myself back on track.

What are some things you do to help overcome this type of feeling?

I have eaten the gallon of ice cream and 30 burgers. ...and didn't feel any better. and then I feel ever worse for wasting all those calories and it didn't even fix anything. and then I have that feeling of "all that for nothing," and I hold tight to that feeling. and then, when I think a box of oreos might fix everything... I remember it probably won't and only have a couple to curb the craving.

I eat ALL the emotions!

ThomasWright1997

Cheat days make it hard to get back into things? Don't have them then, or reduce them to once a month or something.

Kalikel

Just don't. The longer you don't eat like that, the easier it gets. Eventually, you won't even want to.

Bad habits really ARE hard to break. I just touched my way through it.