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beckygammon

Hey guys I really need some support. I have had the worst week. I don't have many friends, especially because of my weight and also I am quirky and sometimes people find me annoying. Basically my week started with my dad telling me that starving myself and being too skinny would be better than being too fat. Then just tonight my best and only friend asked for my advice to make a decision but said she couldn't tell me what it was about. So I helped her and asked if she could tell me. She said yes but only in person. We live 2 hours a way from each other and I will be going to her city soon but it will be to complete a major field assignment for one of my unit at university and it is work 100% of our marks. She got upset that I couldn't find time to come and see her and I tried to come up with so many options but there were problems with all of them. Just everything combined with this week being my second week of my lifestyle change was too much for me.... and I ate stuff I shouldn't have the last 2 days and did not exercise. I feel crappy.

Thanks for listening.

Kalikel

Blessing in disguise! As you go through life, things are going to come up that will rock your world, so it's good (for your weight loss, anyway) that you have hit a bad patch. You learn how deal with stuff by dealing with it.

So, you stumbled and overate. So what? Most people have days where they overeat and most have stumbled on their weight loss journey. Nobody accomplishes huge things without any problems, I don't think.

Figure out how to get back in the groove. Commit to being focused on your weight loss. Next time something rotten happens, you'll be better prepared to get through it.

beckygammon

Thanks Kalikel! I really just need some support from people who have similar goals to me. I really need to get better at making friends too.

jgnatca

Sounds like repressed rage eating. I want to throttle your father and your supposed friend. I am sure her drama is big for her, but you had a big thing going on too!

First of all, I'd put your dad on the MYOB list. He's not helpful.

Second, every day and every hour is a fresh start. If you've had a bad day like this, take a pause and figure out why. You've done that which is good. What other ways can you express or comfort yourself that does not use food? I had a rather bad day recently and I used a meditation YouTube clip to calm me down. I don't think I could have calmed down enough to sleep otherwise.

Give yourself options and have a strategy for next time.

Love your quirky self.