i desperately need all the help i can get to lose 95lbs

BlessedLah

hi my name is Lah and have only joined MFP this June '13. i am so worried that i will not be able to lose weight at all as i sometimes cave in to food. like yesterday was my worst MFP day ever as i found myself more than 500 calories over my daily allowance of calories. i really need a lot of support and all the help i can get so am looking for friends to push me and encourage me while i will also do the sae to the. i am now so scared to have my weekly weigh in on sunday, i am worried i would have gained instead of losing.

at times i look at the 95lbs number and think can i ever lose all that? what i know is i am sick of being overweight and unhealthy and i am ready to change that. please feel free to add me as your friend, i need you

Kabijots

Hello Lah and welcome!

Firstly as someone who has to lose about the same amount as you - I know how you feel. 95lbs seems a huge mountain to climb.

But no-one has to climb Everest in a day. So start with a small goal. Maybe to lose 5lbs or to change one thing in your diet to a better option.

This journey has to be for life - its not a sprint - in fact you are better off taking it slowly and one step at a time.

Good luck and feel free to add for mutual support. :flowerforyou:

pawheeler1

Welcome, althought what you face right now may seem impossible, remember to take it one day at a time. It will be hard but in the end it will all have been worth it. And your MFP family will be here to support you, Add me if you like!!

julieyeshnowski

You can do this, sometimes it's one hour at a time, one meal at a time, one day at a time. Yesterday is over, start again today. I won't tell you it's easy but I will tell you it's worth it!

aliann30

I am with you!!! I have lost 40 lbs and have 100 to go. It's a long journey, and at times so so difficult. The only thing you can do is keep going. You will fall, make mistakes, just keep getting back up. Learn from your mistakes, and what triggers the bad decisions. It's a learning process. Just don't give up! :flowerforyou:

Dianimal68

We all have one of "those" days...one off day won't undo the several good day's you've had - keep your chin up and keep tryin'!! Maybe setting smaller goals would help - don't look at the whole 95lbs - you know, set a 15lb goal...when you reach that, set the next one for 25lbs.

Dianimal68

haha - I really should change my picture...it's not very lady-like - but, in my defense, I only have one friend on MFP (and she knows how I am) - and, I didn't expect to be commenting on anyone elses posts...

Roludy

Hi Lah

Nice to meet you :-)
I too have joined MFP this June and have lots to loose... (70lbs)
I have fought this weight loss battle for so so SO long that at times I really feel like its a battle that I am never going to win so I wanted to encourage you and say "WE CAN DO IT!"
Having a bad day can really depress us and make us feel worthless but I say its ok.... "So what if you have had a bad day, today is a new day and you can do it"
I have given myself small goals as I know 70lbs just feels unachieveable... so for now my goal is to go down one dress size and 14lbs :-)
I also measure myself so knowing that I am loosing inches/centimeters makes a difference.
You are not alone...

Ciao for now

BeckyMBisMe

I know how you feel, been there over and over again myself. Here I am again trying to get my act together. :blushing: If I don't track everyday then it's too easy to fool myself into thinking I haven't eaten that much. :noway:
I will add you as a friend if you will accept. I haven't added anyone I know yet.

GiveMeCoffee

Hi there Lah,

Glad you joined, and I can understand the struggles your having. I have a lot of weight to lose. Because of that, I set mini goals for myself cause in the beginning if I thought OMG you have to lose 140 lbs I would have given up. But, if I think of 10 pound increments it's not such a scary thing.

Also, I try to focus more on health, nutrition and fitness goals more. I set monthly goals of where I want to push myself fitness wise. Each time pushing a little further. When I focus on my health, nutrition and fitness the weight takes care of itself. Those things mean a lot more to me then a number on the scale. I can breath more, I can walk further, I can lift heavier, etc.

You can do this, just focus on making small changes and small goals at a time.

Have a wonderful day

Jen

melanieell07

Hi Lah I know how you fee, l I will give you some advice that was given to me, never weigh in on a weekend, change your weigh in day to a friday, I used to weigh in on a monday and of course the weekend is always bad because of family gatherings and such. I would get frustrated because I always gained weight. I have learned that as long as I post what I'm eating I tend to eat right, it took me a lot of practice to learn that and alot of falling on my butt only to get up and jump back up. Also a lot of walking, I walk three or four times a day, if I don't walk I don't lose. My husband and I walk in a mall with carpet so its not as bad on the knees. If you want to add me feel free

PosterPens

welcome lah! congrats on posting here as that is the biggest and hardest step! day 1 is always the most difficult, but you WILL reach your goals through consistency and logging every little morsel you eat! everything! even if you ate the whole house. and i promise over time, it gets easier as the weight falls off. you should be HAPPY you are sick of being overweight and unhealthy, because that is the motivation you need to succeed!

i thought the same as you...looked at the whole number i had to lose and cried because it overwhelmed me so much. but i knew i had to start then before things got worse, and the number got bigger! i took baby steps. broke the final goal into bits, and my first major goal was to hit 10% of my body weight (http://bit.ly/11Aodvs). it wasnt important to me how long this was going to take, but that i was actually going to do it, period.

first few weeks, i logged EVERYTHING i ate. and i mean everything. it gave me a better understanding why i got so fat. i forgot what normal portion sizes were, as i was eating easily for 2...even 3 or 4! so i also joined weight watchers online, while logging again to MFP. while on ww, i relearned how much to eat, what a normal portion size was etc. its helped me TREMENDOUSLY, and now i understand how to eat.

i bought a digital weight scale to reinforce how much of a food i was eating, so i could be accurate in my logging. next i bought bodymedia link to see how many calories i was expending each day. no more guessing and assuming since this measured my bodys calories. i gave myself a goal to hit 10K steps a day, but that was impossible for me when i first started, considering all the weight i was carrying..it just wasnt easy to get around. so i broke it down to 5K and tried hard to reach that step goal no matter what it took. i walked instead of getting into a cab, and over time, it got easier to walk and i can proudly say i can hit 10K now without pain. it gets easier!

so i started in mid feb, and i have already lost 33 lbs. i can tell you i havent really tried that hard to lose weight this month, so its been slow, but im OK with that. i know that i will reach my goal, and i know that you will too. it just takes effort (you have to WANT THIS!), consistency and a bit of exercise (walking is mine). also tons of water too! if you start feeling ill eating healthy at first, remember you are detoxing your body, and the toxins of all that bad food is leaving your body.

you'll have your days here and there, but it doesnt matter. this is really a lifestyle change not a diet, and habits are hard to break, but they will break if you keep at it. these boards have saved my life really...the support is no other, so keep logging daily and never give up.

and remember, you CAN have your favorite foods and lose weight. ive lost this weight on eating healthier versions (and portions!) of pizza, mac&cheese, alfredo, ice cream, you name it. anything can work if you fit it into your calorie goals. incorporate LOTS of protein in your breakfast and lunch, and you will not feel the urge to binge...at least i didnt.

if i can do it, you surely can.

tc41586

You can do this, sometimes it's one hour at a time, one meal at a time, one day at a time. Yesterday is over, start again today. I won't tell you it's easy but I will tell you it's worth it!

Love this.

crzycylr

You can do it Lah! Take one day at a time...if yesterday wasn't great, try today. Feel free to add me as a friend.

buchmansrus

Hi,

Please feel free to add me. At first my pic is my before/after pic of my weight loss in 6 months but I let myself go afterwards and recklessly ate out of control after I got where I got.

Now I'm back to square one. I have still been in a slump trying to get back in the swing of things and as easy as it was to do before I still keep messing up however, I'm starting back so feel free to add me if you want.

About your post of losing 90 lbs. Just keep doing what your doing. Atleast with you documenting it now you are seeing where your problems are, also at the bottom of the page where you exercise or food log put in your thoughts. It does help.

I wish us both luck and all the other ladies too.
God bless

jennifercurtiswallace

Nice to meet you, I have to do the same. I found this has been the easiest thing to work with so far. Just don't forget to write things down. I found I forget a lot of things during the day

meadowsmummy

What is your daily calorie allowance?
You may have it set too low - as my fitness pal generally does that.

Feel free to add me as i have about 90 pounds to loose to my first goal

turkeyhunter60

Years ago, my Dad wanted to lose ten pounds. He became so committed that he lost 80! I have carried an extra 35-40 ounds for 25 years. I decided 16 months ago that I had done it long enough. I started counting calories on this website, and attending "boot camp" at my office. It took 16 months, but I have finally, gladly, lost 30 of those pounds. You can do it, too. People here can be very supportive, and helpful. One day does not decide your success or failure. It is a journey. You can do it. Good luck.

mq68

YOU can do this! The tape measure is my BF! Hate the scale so I only weigh in once a month, if that. I look at my pant sizes going down and all the clothes I have donated from 24/26 to now I am wearing 12/14's. In one year I have lost 85. I do heavy lifting and minimal cardio. That is what works for me. I don't have cheat days, I cheat whenever I feel like it, BUT then I make sure I do my workouts. You will be amazed at all you can accomplish when you set your mind to it. Good luck on your journey to being healthier than you were yesterday. One day at a time.

VorJoshigan

You can do this, sometimes it's one hour at a time, one meal at a time, one day at a time. Yesterday is over, start again today. I won't tell you it's easy but I will tell you it's worth it!

This.

I hate to say this, but you don't actually need our help. There's really nothing we can do except walk this path beside you.

What you do need is to believe in yourself, and to educate yourself about nutrition and exercise. YOU WILL PROBABLY FAIL sometimes. Most, if not all, of us have done so. The key is to get right back in the game and not let past defeats dictate your future.

kburrows82

I understand how you feel. Some days are harder than others and for some people it takes longer than others. Take one day at a time and don't get down on yourself and give up. Just remember that tomorrow is a new day and you can always do better the next day. I am trying to lose at least 100lbs probably 150 but it is slow moving. 13lbs in 120 days so far but at least it is better than nothing
Any can feel free to add me I am on daily and will do my best to support and encourage you

LFDBabs

I just had this conversation with my personal trainer yesterday. It's frustrating and I cave in to food. He told me, don't look at it from the perspective of losing 50lbs. In his words, "that would overwhelm anyone." Look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself, out loud "I'm going to lose 7lbs this month." It's not as high-pressure that way. If you come close, you still lost and if you're over, great!! He also told me not to get on the scale all the time. Once a month max, or when you notice clothes fitting differently.

Good luck! Feel free to add me as a friend if you'd like. We all need supportive friends :happy:

fuffyfluffy

:flowerforyou: You can do this!!
I just started and I have about 40+ pounds to lose. I try to take it day by day, and if I have a bad day, there is always tomorrow and fresh start.

furniem

You can do this. When I started I had 122.5 lbs to lose. I have lost 80 now (after gaining at Christmas and last week while on vacation). I know it seems like a lot but if you break it down into manageable goals and forget the big number it is not as scary. Do it 10 lbs at a time. Focus on those 10 lbs. Doesn't seem that daunting anymore does it?
Set some small non food related rewards for yourself so you have something else to look forward to.
And remember to live a little. Dont get totally obsessed that you forget to enjoy time with your daughter and family and friends.

Good luck! Add me as a friend on here if you wish!

kathyhamiltonn

Hi Lah
Here is what I've learned since February. The days are going to pass, some slower, some faster. Why not start each day as healthy as you can. The pounds will fall off. I was so discourage a couple of months ago, I only average 1 pound a week. and a friend said, so what? there are 52 weeks in a year, the time is going to pass anyway, why not let it pass and you do what you half to to be as healthy as you can. I try to keep at 1200 calories, most days go to 1500 calories, so I lose slower. All diets work, we just don't stay on them long enough. I am a creature of habit. I found a few meals that are easy and fast, so I repeat them often. I stay away from fast food most the time, Although a 6 inch Subway, with deli mustard is only a little over 400 calories, so I do allow that. Did you know for every pound you lose equals 4 pounds of pressure off your knees? I will have to watch my calories the rest of my life. It was the times I didnt watch that got me overweight

murdledoe

I will give you as much support as you need, but you need to believe in yourself also. Set your goals at different levels. Work on the first 10 and celebrate it! If I think I am going to go over on calories then I do a few aerobics to burn them. On the other hand that was yesterday and today you can start fresh. We all have a bad day once in a while. You can do this and you will feel soooo good about it! Feel free to add me as a friend and look at my diary.

Sarahonly

Welcome Lah!

Looking weight loss in the face can be intimidating and scary, but you CAN do it! Educating yourself is part of the process, so be sure to make use of all the resources you can. Finding your motivation can be hard too, but being here is the first step and once you see progress it can only help it to grow!

Don't worry about little setbacks too much. I've learned over the years of doing this that it's just not worth it- like someone said earlier, tomorrow is always a new day. Try to change your entire relationship with food and that will make it easier. I've had a weird relationship with food for years, and I'm still working on getting over it as well, but it will come. You'll learn what choices to make, and train your body to know when it's hungry and what it's really hungry for.

I just started my journey over (again- did it in 2008 first), so feel free to add me if you'd like and good luck!

Kristy7418

Hi Lah! I am in the same exact boat. I need to lose apx 130# and at times I feel like I will never do it but then I see the wonderful pics and success stories of those who have and then I think to myself NO! stop thinking like that You CAN do this. If they can I can. And we all have small setbacks. Last weekend I went to the drive in... I had a chocolate chip cookie bar, a small slice of pizza and a foot long hot dog! Oy but I didn't beat myself up over it and the next I just got back on track. Feel free to add me as I would love to help support you along your way and vice versa!

quiltingducky

I think you have taken one of the best steps just by joining MFP. I also have a lot to lose, and was doing very well last August through December, and then took some time off. It was only supposed to be a few weeks, but those weeks turned into months and I have gained almost all of the weight back. Anyways, the hardest part of getting started is in fact getting started. This has been the best weight loss experience I have every had so far in terms of support. My friends on here are the best support group! They support without beating me up about my slips. 500 calories over for you one day? Don't get discouraged. As we both know, it could have been much worse.

I think you will find once you get into a routine of logging your foods (and being brutally honest about it), it gets easier. I still eat what everyone eats for dinner most of the time, I just know the calorie counts and eat less. I exercised (when I did not have a bum knee) about 3-4 times a week for 20 minutes on my exercise bike. Don't try to go hard core with exercise right out of the gate. I know for me that is not realistic and I would get burnt out quickly. Work on your eating first and then in a week or so start out by doing some sort of exercise for 10 minutes and then working up from there. I read that it takes 29 days to form new habits.

After a prolonged hiatus, I am back in this on day 4 of getting my eating under control. I know deep down that this site is the key to me losing and getting more fit again. I wish you well on losing weight and getting fit also.

CharleneG_Barnes

Lots of great advise.
You will get what you put in, commit to yourself and stay with it -- you can do it (through the learning given to you by bad days).
Try not to get discouraged by a bad day, just dont use as an excuse to give up, pick yourself up and start again--your worth it.
As has been said, concentrate more on what you eat and what your fitness goals are and the weight will take care of itself. a week with a gain but with health improvement is still better than doing nothing or giving up.
I have become more lax these days but during the biggest part of my journey, I weighed and measured everything and I mean everything---I logged everything I put in my mouth ..... If I couldnt log it I didnt eat/drink it and that held me accountable to myself and it worked, so far I have lost 123 pounds and on my way to goal.
You can do this girl.
Any other variable is up to you, day you weigh in, etc just eat healthy, move more than you think you can and LOG, LOG, LOG.
The thoughts about setting smaller goals on the way to your big goal--thats super advise and yes if you dont believe in yourself, any other advise is wasted energy.
Good luck to you.

majicalme

Hi lah, I'm 96 kilos and 5'5 FT. And I'm obese loosing weight for 11 days now and I lose 3 kilos the last Sunday I've weigh in. We need to set goal first that we can actually lose in an possible time. Like me I want to lose 20 pounds in 2 months. Just for this 1st stage of my journey. I exercise 30 minutes in the morning cardio and 30 minutes YOGA!