Big problem!!

chinny88

So at the weekends when me and my partner are home we like to have a few naughty items. If I decline to eat these items and in general bad food items she will too. My problem with this is that she has a bad eating disorder and could do with these extra calories. So how do I not make her feel bad but stop eating these myself?? I can't discuss this with her. For obvious reasons.

snickerscharlie

Can you not just take a smaller amount for yourself and work it into your calorie allotment?

chinny88

snickerscharlie wrote: »

Can you not just take a smaller amount for yourself and work it into your calorie allotment?

Why didn't I think of that She knows I am trying to lose weight but if I eat less then her (most of the time we share things) then she won't know any different I guess

snickerscharlie

Yup! As long as you don't make a deal of it, neither will she.

Pinnacle_IAO

chinny88 wrote: »

So at the weekends when me and my partner are home we like to have a few naughty items. If I decline to eat these items and in general bad food items she will too. My problem with this is that she has a bad eating disorder and could do with these extra calories. So how do I not make her feel bad but stop eating these myself?? I can't discuss this with her. For obvious reasons.

When it comes to taking care of my health and doing the right thing, I just act and let the cards fall where they may.

Somebody might not like it.

Oh well....

Lasmartchika

snickerscharlie wrote: »

Can you not just take a smaller amount for yourself and work it into your calorie allotment?

+1

And don't call them naughty or bad foods... they're just food.

kommodevaran

chinny88 wrote: »

So at the weekends when me and my partner are home we like to have a few naughty items. If I decline to eat these items and in general bad food items she will too. My problem with this is that she has a bad eating disorder and could do with these extra calories. So how do I not make her feel bad but stop eating these myself?? I can't discuss this with her. For obvious reasons.

It may help if you stopped calling foods naughty and bad. You can eat whatever you like and lose weight if you don't exceed your calorie goal; however, a balanced diet of varied foods close to their natural state is important for health and satiety, which will make staying within calorie goal easier.

Lounmoun

chinny88 wrote: »

So at the weekends when me and my partner are home we like to have a few naughty items. If I decline to eat these items and in general bad food items she will too. My problem with this is that she has a bad eating disorder and could do with these extra calories. So how do I not make her feel bad but stop eating these myself?? I can't discuss this with her. For obvious reasons.

Stop viewing these things as bad or naughty... they are just food. Don't make a big deal about it.
Like any other food, eat the portion size that fits your calorie goal. You don't have to eat the exact same thing or the exact same amount as someone else.

MelodyandBarbells

I'm sorry - surely I must be mistaken, but it sounds like your adult partner is using your choice to improve your health as an excuse to mismanage a medical condition? Also are you sure she's not getting enough calories just because she won't eat icecream with you?

RockstarWilson

You need to lose weight (i think)...She needs to gain it. And yet, you not eating makes her not eat because...why?

Truth is, you should talk about this with her. Otherwise it will always be a problem, and nothing will get resolved. And if you can't talk about it with her....what kind of relationship is that?