I want my man back.. .advice please!!

FitnFabulousStar
FitnFabulousStar Posts: 2 Member
edited August 2015 in Chit-Chat
We've known each other maybe 9 years but somewhere got disconnected for a while. We were always cordial when we would see each other and we hung our a few times before losing touch.

I ran into him a year ago and he was the same guy I remembered him being. We dated close to 6 months but he wasn't the typical guy I was used to dating. He wasn't the spoil a lady spontaneous type and he had a lot of female friends and was always on the go. I broke things off with him because I got tired of not feeling like a priority. He ignored my call one day and I said a bunch of horrible stuff. He refused to talk to me after that which I can understand.

I waited almost 2 months then sent him a text saying hey...nothing back.

A month later another text I sent wishing him a happy father's day...heard nothing.

Someone in my family passed away he knew and I reached out to him to let him know and ro just talk.... and he ignored me.

I saw him out at a bar and he just stared at me. I pretended to not see him but I figured if he didn't approach me I'm not going to chase him.

He's still single. We still have mutual friends and he seems to be doing okay now but it's been about 3 months since I've reached out to him.

I'm considering hand writing him a letter to apologize for what I said to him and to let him know that it was me that had the issues, not him. He's got a stubborn scorpio male personality that makes him hold on to things for a long time.

I never fell out of love with him and I'm glad I took time away from him to know myself better but now I want him back to try again. What should I do? How do I get him to talk to me

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  • coreyreichle
    coreyreichle Posts: 1,031 Member
    FWIW, I'd take the hint: He's not interested in you. If he was, he wouldv'e already replied.
  • Alatariel75
    Alatariel75 Posts: 18,189 Member
    I think he's made it pretty clear he's not keen. You should try to move on.
  • kk_inprogress
    kk_inprogress Posts: 3,077 Member
    Move on.
  • oh_happy_day
    oh_happy_day Posts: 1,137 Member
    Move on. He doesn't want to talk to you. You've given him plenty of opportunities. Let it go.
  • paul199madrid
    paul199madrid Posts: 413 Member
    Get over him he's over you it hurts but it's better that way.
  • GreenGoddess22
    GreenGoddess22 Posts: 3,818 Member
    It hurts, I'm sorry. Maybe write him that letter but instead of sending it to him, keep it or throw it away when you're done. Have an ugly cry, allow yourself a few days to feel sad, but then pick yourself up and go find happiness; you deserve it!
  • Snow__White
    Snow__White Posts: 1,650 Member
    It's too late now,leave the past in the past and move on
    He's not going to care about your letter
    There's something better waiting for u in the future...
    Good Luck
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  • zoeysasha37
    zoeysasha37 Posts: 7,088 Member
    He's clearly not into you. Sorry . if he was, he would've at least said hello in the bar or replied to your texts.
    Sometimes its best to move on. He knows how to reach you . if he wanted to speak , he would've called . obviously it isn't meant to be . you'll likely make yourself look desperate if you try to reach out to him again.
  • Mindless_Games
    Mindless_Games Posts: 151 Member
    Move on. It hurts but it is best, it makes room for you to find someone who treats you the way you want to be treated.
  • paztoca
    paztoca Posts: 185 Member
    He doesn't love you enough.. or not at all. Sorry to say but it's best to move on.
  • Magnustkn
    Magnustkn Posts: 856 Member
    Yeah you should move on. I know it's a tough thing to do, but that's really the best choice for you.
  • GabriellaEstrella
    GabriellaEstrella Posts: 1,513 Member
    Let that go...you can't make someone love you or want to be with you...find someone who wants you equally. As far as spoiling I believe a strong woman can take care of herself. Spoiling and giving you what you need are two different things.
  • lushers80
    lushers80 Posts: 397 Member
    Very upsetting, but yeah, let him go, the problem is the relationship was not long enough or deep enough for your comments to be forgiven most likely. He has decided he doesn't want to pursue things and so sometimes you just have to accept that it isn't meant to be.
  • Northernlight03
    Northernlight03 Posts: 1,980 Member
    Sorry to say but move on chick!!
  • arainiday1
    arainiday1 Posts: 1,763 Member
    ok not to be mean but he is not your man and it doesn't sound like he ever was completely..... and i am in the let it gooooooo boat.... if i can get over and move on from a 20 year relationship (married almost 18) you can get over a 6 month thing. really.

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