What do you do when you hit an emotional slump or hit that wall. <3

yasminara

What do you guys/girls do when you hit an emotional slump? Whether something negative comes into your life in family, love, maybe you slacked and have to pick yourself back up after a binge--I find myself a bit discouraged or rather unmotivated with myself. This is usually when I quit and takes me a while to get back on the horse.

Any advice appreciated on how to keep going even when the original spark has left. Also feel free to add! I love making friends.

arditarose

I have goals and they mean a lot to me. I can't imagine quitting now. I'm having a negative, sad, rotten day. I could easily go to the kitchen and eat my way through the fridge and the cupboard, but I'm having a diet Dr. Pepper, cruising the forums, and waiting to cook the dinner I have pre-logged.

I've also had days when I did go eat everything in the kitchen. I log it the best I can, and try again the next day.

Also, having a group of great friends on this site has been so helpful. They keep me in check. Love you guys!

yasminara

Okay you're right! I can just let the bad day go and refocus on my goals.

arditarose

yasminara wrote: »

Okay you're right! I can just let the bad day go and refocus on my goals.

Great What are your goals? I'm being nosy.

yasminara

I have about 40lbs to lose. No specific timeline it's just about all the excess weight I gain from college, work, etc. I used to be very fit, but namely because I was in sports in high school. Now I'm 26 and ready to get my body back haha!

arditarose

yasminara wrote: »

I have about 40lbs to lose. No specific timeline it's just about all the excess weight I gain from college, work, etc. I used to be very fit, but namely because I was in sports in high school. Now I'm 26 and ready to get my body back haha!

I hear you, I had to lose about that much too.

yasminara

You look great so it seems your game plan is working!

arditarose

Thanks! Slow and steady. Or mostly slow lol. A year goes by fast though.

Ninkyou

I just keep logging, good or bad. It seems to correct itself shortly since I can still see the numbers and I know what the consequences are.

feisty_bucket

If everything's just a total mess and I'm mostly flailing? Bail on the day, go to sleep, try again tomorrow. Seriously, willpower/discipline/mood can change drastically through the day. You can be practically a different person depending on those things. Popping some melatonin before bed for super-sleep helps too.

rosebarnalice

Ninkyou wrote: »

I just keep logging, good or bad. It seems to correct itself shortly since I can still see the numbers and I know what the consequences are.

This.
Logging faithfully--even when I'm not proud of what or how much I've eaten--is the most effective tool I've found for getting my head out of the fridge and back on track.

Sometimes when I've had a particularly bad food day, I'll wait and log it the next day because it's just too raw and painful, and I'm too wrapped up in the shame at the time.

I call it the "watching the films" ploy. After a bad loss, athletes will just shower and walk out of the park licking their wounds. But they know that at the next practice, they're gonna watch those films and relive every brutal moment of the loss--and try to pick apart what went wrong so they can fix it the next time.

If I wait until the next day to log a bad "loss", I can usually face the numbers with less emotion and more brutal honesty, and I'm much better able to review rationally what triggered my behavior. It usually pisses me off and makes me want to work that much harder to put a "win" on the board!

rosej31

Don't give up if you failed get right back up and try again....I also graduated from college last year and gained weight its so hard for me to lose but this time I taking it slow and eating between 1200 - 1500 calories depending on my workout but I learn to enjoy foods and eat in moderation. Also, I measure my foods and logging everything I eat be faithful to yourself even when you have bad days.
It take time to break odd habits...Good Luck and we are here for you

oh_happy_day

I had a terrible week last week, after some decidedly average weeks. My intake was nutritionally poor, I couldn't find my groove at gym more often than not, work was awful. I was hating the process, I wasn't enjoying my progress and only focusing on what I have left to change. The further I get towards my goal, the farther away it seems. I wallowed for a few days but I've forced myself back on the horse. At another time this is when I would have given up completely. I haven't lost any weight in a few weeks which I know is my own doing but at least I haven't gained anything beyond water weight. I'm annoyed at myself but I refuse to self-sabotage any more. I've gone back to the basics and kept at it. And I had an awesome gym sessions day night which has given me a much needed boost.

angelabethb

I'm finding that meal prepping is absolutely the way to go. I cook as much as I can on the weekends and eat leftovers during the week. I think having some cute lunchboxes help too! I log my food at the beginning of the day, so I know exactly what I need to eat/burn off so I can be at my goal. Just take it a day at a time and you will get there.

CSARdiver

Whenever I hit a wall as ridiculous as it sounds I think of the motivational sayings from the military. It puts you in the mindset of winning and trains your brain to focus on the objective.

It is very easy to get overwhelmed, but just focus on what you can accomplish and take small steps that make progress towards a larger goal.

MsJulesRenee

When I have a bad day, instead of grazing I going to gym. I turn my music up loud and run. Great stress relief and good for me. The hardest part is getting dressed and out the door, that's when discipline rather than motivation moves me. Discipline and habit always outweighs motivation long term.

If I really don't feel like moving I have some wine and relax.

yasminara

Thank you so much everyone! I feel motivated really hearing what you guys do. I'll get back on it, today was a better day!!!

sashayoung72

I have lost almost 70 since Jan 3rd. Much of it was very quick, I was averaging 2.6 a week, and the last 3 months have been slowwww BUT that's much much better than UP or Back! I'm still going down in sizes, like it took my body a moment to catch up, I have 50 to 70 to go. I use mantras, Progress not perfection!

I no longer beat myself up over an episode of overeating, but they are so much less, like if I eat 2000 besides exercise calories that's a big day for me.