I'm new and would like someone to talk to

lindaclark62

Hi I am new and would like to be able to talk to some one as support, it return I am happy to support others as I know how hard this journey can be on your own. I have struggled with my weight for years and I have made the choice to get the weight off BUT the beginning is always the hardest and have someone that I feel that I have to be accountable to is what I am looking for so if there is any one that thinks that they could help me out I would be so happy. My name is Lin and I am 44 years old

puddintot

Hi Lin! Feel free to add me.

MTmimi

Hi Lin- You can add me as a friend. I just started and could use an accountability buddy too. I am the same age as you. Born in 71. And have struggled with my weight since I started a desk job 14 years ago. I tend to gain about 5 pounds a year- which I try to drop when I hit my upper limit. I now want to lose 25 to 30 pounds- and keep it off. So I may be counting calories for life, and tracking my exercises forever. It seems to get easier with time- so that's good.

erice6911

add me lin ,,,,I need a accountability buddy also,,,,lets do it!

katharineshalia

newmeadow wrote: »

I don't keep a friend list myself, but I think it's important to choose your own friends, rather than just allowing yourself to be chosen.

If you don't mind the advice, I'd lurk on the boards and read the conversations. It's easy to tell who might be compatible with you and who is active on the site. Check profiles. They usually will say a short note is required in order to accept a friend request. Some people have other conditions before accepting friend requests.

Compiling a friend list of people with similar goals, and also compatible positions relating to political, social and religious views is really important. If you dislike vulgar language and a lot of sexual innuendo, for instance, you can weed out those who express themselves this way habitually. Profile pics tell a lot. If you like reading a lot of updates about kids and pets and husbands there's plenty of that. If you prefer to keep it about diet and fitness, there's plenty of people who agree. Age matters too, in terms of conversational compatibility. Some women don't want single or married men as friends and vice versa, if it would be detrimental to an existing commitment or agreement.

I'm sure you'll do well finding your niche.

Best regards.

Yes, well, that's a whole lot presumptions on your part. Not all of us hang out on the social board. I'd like to think you can ask for support without freaking people out that there's some weirdos out there waiting for your request so they can stalk you with their curse words and sexual innuendo.