Coming Out...About Your Weight

LaceyBirds

bibimazoon wrote: »

Maybe it's an age thing? I know when I was younger I would never have told anyone my weight. But now at 54, I'm pretty open about it to anyone and everyone

I'll be 60 in a month, so I just think it's an individual thing, and I have also seen that I was enthusiastic at first about telling, but it has changed. Also, I think it depends on the people you know, their lifestyles, weight, fitness level, etc. The family I live near are all small people, and only one of their children is a little bit overweight. They eat tiny portion sizes, and have said enough things about overweight/not fit people that I think they will see my weight-loss as a good thing, but probably have felt very negatively about my being obese/overweight. They will never understand how I became obese or how difficult it can be to lose weight.

However family I have in another state are all currently overweight, a couple obese, so I would feel much more comfortable telling them, as they would absolutely understand how difficult this is and completely understand how I got overweight in the first place.

rosebarnalice

GillianLF wrote: »

rosebarnalice wrote: »

To give it a try and see how it feels, I'm going to at least tell you, the anonymous MFP crowd: I am currently at 203, down from 224. Think I'm aiming for 185. We'll see when I get there.

How did that feel? Well done on coming out and on the loss.

So far so good--

jmpaterno

I love this thread! I recently told my boyfriend how much I weigh, and it was a huge relief and also really helpful. He's always been supportive and has always liked how I look, but hearing him say he didn't think I needed to lose much weight wasn't terribly motivating. Actually, the first time I told him how much I wanted to lose (at least sixty pounds), he couldn't believe it and thought it was a bit much. But since I told him my starting weight and how "bad" it had gotten (and how much it really upset me), he's been supportive in new ways. He's 100 percent on board with my goal, keeping junk food out of the house, and being even happier for me as I drop weight. I know it's obvious I've gained weight, but I guess because we see each other every day (we live together), it was hard for him to know how much/how serious I have to be about this without hearing the number. I think it's also important for me to be able to have honest conversations about my weight/my attitude toward it while I adjust my lifestyle.

Anyway, sorry for the wall of text! Long story short, I "came out" and am glad I did!

Ashtoretet

My close coworkers know what I'm doing and a few others who don't see me as often have commented on it after hitting the 40 pound mark. No one's actually asked my weight.

Now I'm getting into the frustrating zone where I've lost quite a bit, so now some people are saying I should stop. But I tell them I'm still in an overweight range and that I plan to keep losing quite a bit more. It really makes no sense to me since a few women we work with are definitely 00, I don't know why 159 pound me draws more attention than them.

Meanwhile, I just looked at a clothing site that thinks I'm a 3x. (I wear a misses Large according to most Macy's brands.) There needs to be a middle ground! Though I guess that's what MFP is ♥

GillianLF

Well I am 12 stone 0.4. I wanted so badly to get under 12 stone at my last weigh in but it stayed in the same place. Due another weigh in tomorrow and here's hoping.

I've no problem telling you guys but seriously I don't think I'll tell my mum again!

workin_onit

I just read all these posts, it's so interesting.

Gillian, you are some kinda courageous...!

My weight has been up and down over the years, mostly up, and certainly up after I had my daughter. I'm currently almost as heavy as I was right before I had her, almost 12 years ago.

I have taken to posting my weight here but telling people in my life about it? Nuh-uh. This is a big pet peeve for me because I married someone whose family discusses their weight, their weight loss, their fitness plans, etc. etc. Now, they are all normal weights, and have never had to diet, like, ever.

I just keep my mouth closed. If they start noticing when I've lost more weight (currently 6 pounds down!), I will say "thank you for noticing, I feel great!" and leave it at that.

SW 248.5
CW 242.5
GW 190?

yusaku02

I don't mind anyone knowing what I weight. About 183 last I checked. My girlfriend will hop on the scale in front of me without a second thought as well. Even when I was pretty fat I didn't mind telling people what I weighed.

allbarrett

I have never felt an urge to talk to people about my weight (or my diet, my salary, my religious or political affiliations, etc.), it doesn't really seem to be anyone's business. My doctor needs to know my weight, for health reasons (but she weighs me on her office scale right there during my physical), and my husband knows because we live together and how could he not? Otherwise, I would actually be offended or at least taken aback if anyone asked. Maybe I'm weird, or just boring.

chelleb1974

I don't purposely go around telling people what I weigh, and if I were asked I'm pretty sure I'd tell them what I weigh. I started 10yrs ago at 268, lost 100 lbs, gained it all back, lost it again (4 hrs ago) and 40lbs have crept back on. Not letting that happen again. My boyfriend knows what I've lost and gained, and knows what I currently weigh....not sure if I ever told him what I started at, but he's smart and can figure it out, or ask, if he wants to know. He met me three years ago (at about 90lb loss) and has always told me I was beautiful and sexy. He is 100% supportive of me eating healthier (and as a result - losing weight).

boricua3177

My own husband doesn't know exactly how much I weigh. It's a huge source of shame for me since I ballooned & gained almost 80lbs. But I have no problem talking about what size clothes I am wearing though! I have gone down from a (squeezing) size 16 and am now wearing a size 12. So, when I talk about my weight I talk about what size I want to get down to. ;-)

scg17

I always lied about mine when I was heavier. I'm 129lb now, with a goal of 123-125, so I actually tell people for the first time ever. People at work have commented on the loss...I was 150lbs when I started there two years ago (told folks I was 135lbs), 140 at the start of this year (told them I was 130 when asked), and now I'm actually honest, so they must think that 6lbs (135 original lie to 129lbs current weight) makes major differences on a 5'5" frame! Haha, or they knew I was lying.

Even now, people tell me that "I don't look like I weigh that much", and I'm thinking...uh, this is a super healthy weight for my height, I'm leaning down for athletic purposes...of course, then there are the "too skinny" commentators, and I just say my doctor likes the plan I'm on.

fiddletime

I'm 5'2" and weigh 132 trying to get to 120. I don't like to tell people because I'm 60 and most of my friends are between 40-65 and so many are over weight. They don't seem to realize that 12 pounds (was 25 once) is a lot to be overweight. They often say I look great, don't need to lose, etc., because they're probably comparing me to them. I'm not sure. But, to me, I'm not "trim" as I know what I looked like at 120 before.

lizzocat

I've finally told SOME people in my life what I weight and used to weigh (i lost 95 since jan) and it feels like a relief, albeit it still feels weird having people know my highest weight

KeniaHurtado1

Today was my first time weighing myself since April. It was also the first time I let someone else know just how bad it had gotten. I knew that in the past couple of months I had gained weight, considering that my pants and shorts won't go past my hips. It's a little sad and discouraging that I let it get this bad, but I guess seeing that number is just the motivation I need.

lisalsd1

I was an overweight kid. When anyone would find out my weight then...I would constantly hear, "you weigh THAT much?!" I was really confused. I was never sure if they meant, "wow, you don't LOOK like you weigh that much" or "wow, you're fat."

I'm not overweight now, and oddly enough people often ask my weight...like random people at the gym. I usually get, "what do you weigh...like 100lbs?" When I tell them closer to 125-130lbs, I STILL hear, "you weigh THAT much?" I must have always been a very dense person.

JillStepanik

I felt like I needed to tell my boyfriend what I weighed once I hit a weight that was my breaking point. I was scared to at first but I told him and now I feel more comfortable talking to him about my weight loss (hopefully more to come).

I think it is easier now knowing that he knows where my "rock bottom" is.

ChrisKom

I have always been overweight and I have never been ashamed of it or kept it a secret. My husband knows what I weigh and what my measurements are. I am a very open person and share a lot. I have met many amazing friends this way.... They felt more comfortable talking to me about it because I was so open about it. I come from a family that is quite fit and thin... And then there was me. I was never made to feel like my weight was something to be kept secret. My family and hubby are very supportive. I weighed 293 when I started and am at 286 now! I am what I am... no shame! I love me.... Fatter or thinner (I've never been thin

knelson095

Ehh...I don't really care if people want to know. I don't bandy it about, but if they ask, I tell. I've never really been one to fib about it, either. I told a co worker once who had asked and she straight up called me a liar, lol. She said that there was no way I weighed that much, about 215 at the time. I guess I am pretty compact, I've never really been 'fluffy'. Also built like a line backer--large frame, broad shoulders. Thanks, mom...

Anyway, my highest was 246 about three years ago, lost a bit here and there, started this lifestyle at 223 on 7/27/15 and am currently down to about 206. Goal weight is 165 or whenever I'm comfortable, whichever comes first. I've always dreamed of being dainty. Which will absolutely never happen, lol, but I guess I can settle for just curvy.

daniellepstewart209

My mum dad and twin sister know my heaviest weight and current weight. That's it! I haven't told my partner, although people know I've lost a total of 5 stone 11pounds. When I say the current loss they look shocked, and I say I have another 5 stone ish to go. They are horrified. That just say I'll be too skinny. ( not skinny now!) this would take me to bang in the middle of my healthy BMI range. Obviously if I think it's too much before I get there I'll stop . But I'm the same, I'm terrified of people knowing my start or current weight, what they will think of me after. It's irrational but until I'm happy with it I doubt that will change xx

firststepformefal

I do not tell people how much I weigh. I am 5'8" and carry the weight well. At one point I did tell people, and got a lot of not wanted, not valid diet comments. They would say they were on this fad diet or that one and loss 5 or 10 pounds. Well I had about 100 pounds to lose. Using these fad diets is not something I can live on for the rest of my life. I would also get comments that I did not have to lose weight. Um, yeah I do. I also got negative comments that hurt my feelings, and cause me to want to eat to cover over the pain. If people ask how much I weigh, I tell them how much I have lost or how many inches I am down and change the topic. I usually tell them about My Fitness Pal.

GillianLF

Well I'm finally under 12 stone. Now weighing in at 11stone 12.
I want to tell everyone but I don't want them to take my sense of achievement away!

Purplebunnysarah

I'm open with my husband and I have one friend I would tell if she asked (because she struggles too and I think we kind of competitively motivate each other). But I don't think I would tell family until it came off.

Oh, and before kids I did a weight loss challenge at work (and won), so some of my former coworkers were aware of what I weighed at the time. (The competition was based on % lost and not straight pounds since everyone was at different stages).

NikkiBiggestFan

I don't tell people my weight and never have even when I was small. Come to think of it, no one has ever asked how much I weigh. I have gotten questions before such as, how much are you trying to lose or how much did you lose. Excluding my husband use to ask numerous times during my pregnancies.

fidangul

I've been sharing my thoughts on the subject woth my MFP friends a couple of days ago... I'm just not open to sharing my start, current or goal weight. The only people that now are my mum, sister and any healtg professional that needs to know. I'm so embarrassed about it.

When I refuse to tell people who ask, they eye me up start playing guessing games. The only positive is that they always guess soooo low that I'm like "I wish". I'm not confident regarding my weight. It's always set me back. But, since losing a significant amount I'm gaining confidence in other ways.

I've past my half way point and still can't tell my husband. Even though he is so supportive and proud of me, I feel like the number will... Well I dunno to be honest.

dogcatac

i told my boyfriend i lost 30 lbs over the summer and he couldnt believe it... we live together...

DeterminedFee201426

iam very comfortable about telling people my weight .. i never had a problem with that..
the only thing i dont like is how they approach me before asking.. :0 by saying woo you look like you losted weight out loud* or you look skinny .. and they go on to ask how much I weight now,,,

Adc7225

I recently had a conversation with a co-worker about weight and though she didn't offer how much she weighs she did ask me how much I weighed and what size I wore. It turned a little uncomfortable because while she never came out and said she seemed to doubt what I was telling her. Everyone carries weight differently. I guess it depends on how they ask and if I feel like sharing.

Melwillbehealthy

LaceyBirds wrote: »

bibimazoon wrote: »

Maybe it's an age thing? I know when I was younger I would never have told anyone my weight. But now at 54, I'm pretty open about it to anyone and everyone

I'll be 60 in a month, so I just think it's an individual thing, and I have also seen that I was enthusiastic at first about telling, but it has changed. Also, I think it depends on the people you know, their lifestyles, weight, fitness level, etc. The family I live near are all small people, and only one of their children is a little bit overweight. They eat tiny portion sizes, and have said enough things about overweight/not fit people that I think they will see my weight-loss as a good thing, but probably have felt very negatively about my being obese/overweight. They will never understand how I became obese or how difficult it can be to lose weight.

However family I have in another state are all currently overweight, a couple obese, so I would feel much more comfortable telling them, as they would absolutely understand how difficult this is and completely understand how I got overweight in the first place.

I agree. It's not an age thing. I haven't told anyone what I weigh, especially not my husband. We weigh the same and I'm waiting until I weigh a lot less than him before he finds out my weight. I do tell them that I've lost 46 lbs. though, but only if they ask.

Lounmoun

I write my weight on the calendar in our kitchen every week. Anyone who walks in can see it. So I'm out to people in my house.
I've been trying to lose weight for 15 years. I talked much more in the past and kind of feel like people would just roll their eyes at another attempt even though this has been the most successful. People can see me lose weight and if they ask I'll tell them my weight.

fruitydelicious

I do not tell people what I weigh, not even my husband (even though he is totally supportive). I have only recently posted my weight on a lose 25lb by Christmas post. I have been on MFP since March. I have been harassed by family, friends, and strangers about my weight for most of my childhood and all of my adult life (I'm 44). It does cause a lot of shame. I have come a long way emotionally since starting MFP, but telling someone in my life what I weigh is more then I can bare right. Another goal to work on, though! Thanks for posting.