I Give Up

OldAssDude

Snap out of it and exercise harder and more often. It relieves stress and depression.

dhimaan

On very mad days I try my best to keep mind busy. I read complex and stimulating articles to challenge my brain. That way I am not continuously having negative thoughts. It's a diversionary tactic and it has worked for me. Spending time at gym also takes your mind of the negative thoughts. It doesn't work all the time but most of the time and that is good enough.

HippySkoppy

bcalvanese wrote: »

Snap out of it and exercise harder and more often. It relieves stress and depression.

What a harsh comment.

Clinical depression is not something you can "Snap out of", it is a recognised medical disorder and it requires medical intervention and treatment.

The attitude of of snapping yourself out of depression belongs to the dark ages....in a time where Mental health and the functioning of the brain was even more poorly understood than it is now.

OP - you sound as though you are doing what is right for you at this particular time.

I wish you all the best.

allenpriest

poohtaytay wrote: »

I am on medication. Depression never goes away but there is treatment & I am utilizing every option there is. My dr is involved with my care & i happen to be vitamin D def as well which doesnt help. I agree with the comments of deal with the depression first. That's what I meant by giving up. That I need to focus on one thing @ a time & that being my mental state. I have a FAM of 7. I need to be my best self for them so weight loss has to take a back seat for right now

The emotional issues are critical to get a handle on. The meds take a while to kick in. Once they take the edge off it allows one to get at the emotional issues with the counselor. For those of us who are medicating emotional issues with food we have to deal with those issues before we can successfully keep weight off. There is a book addressing just this called Lose It For Life by Steve Artterburn. The it is secondarily the weight. It is first the attachment to food for emotional reasons. Once we deal with the"it " then we can deal with the weight in a much less emotional way. That's what I had to do. Only after dealing with emotional issues over several years could I get to the place to lose weight. Even then I started just getting everything logged on a maintenance level. That helped me to learn to start controlling my eating. Then I began to set lower weekly loss goals. Started at. 5 pounds per week. Then I went to 1 then 1.5 per week. After several months of logging I started walking a bit. I've increased that over time to longer distances and longer times. I figure I took years to get fat so it will take several years to lose all 200-250 pounds. I'm 100 pounds down after 20 months.

randomsue

I'm not sure how many people on this thread has given up but until the day they lay you into the ground, you have a chance to make a change. There's always going to be those that will put you down (big or small) but those you have to block and surround yourselves with people that will encourage you. Look to a church, the YMCA, community groups, etc. The Y offers scholarships and deep discounts, you just have to ask. Getting healthy isn't as easy as stuffing your face but to be honest, don't bring it into your home. Junk food is cheap but healthier food is cheaper. A bag of potatoes can be the same price as a bag of Doritos but you can make several meals out of the potatoes. Get up in the morning and get dressed. You alreafy know where that's going to lead. If you don't have a job, volunteer once a week somewhere. I have been offered jobs doing that. It makes you feel good and retirement homes, shelters, hospitals will appreciate the help. It will occupy you time and your resume will look alot better at the same time.

But, most of all, seek medical help or share with your doctor how what you are on isn't working. They can help with medication or programs that they have access to.

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allenpriest

bcalvanese wrote: »

Snap out of it and exercise harder and more often. It relieves stress and depression.

That's an ignorant comment. I'm glad it's that easy for you. It's not that easy for those in the grip of depression.
And "just get over it" isn't at all helpful.

RetroPolkaDot

Depression can cause low energy levels. It can become a vicious cycle that feeds off itself.
If you are currently on medication it could be that your current medication is not the correct one for you.

Perhaps you need to make smaller changes and be proud of the changes you've managed to make rather or not they lead to weight loss. Every change can make bigger ripples. Choosing a healthier option at breakfast might seem tiny but in 6 months it adds up. Going for a 10 minutes walk outside might seem tiny but you can build on 10 minutes.

Good luck to you.

kshama2001

poohtaytay wrote: »

I am on medication. Depression never goes away but there is treatment & I am utilizing every option there is. My dr is involved with my care & i happen to be vitamin D def as well which doesnt help. I agree with the comments of deal with the depression first. That's what I meant by giving up. That I need to focus on one thing @ a time & that being my mental state. I have a FAM of 7. I need to be my best self for them so weight loss has to take a back seat for right now

What are you taking for depression? I like Wellbutrin because it is a little speedy, which helps me with exercise motivation.

Taking Source Naturals, Vitamin D-3, 1,000 IU got my D levels back up to where they belong.

andres0691

It just takes one good day, then one good week, then one good month to be on track in a weight loss journey. You just have to realize life is going by. No one is going to do the hard work for you, otherwise everybody would be in good shape. Just by taking time to read these type of comments you have already proved that you are serious about this subject, a lot of people do not even bother to try! There is no shortcut I am afraid unless you do surgery. Having said that, I want to share with you what helped me. I would set a daily workout goal SO SMALL and stupid that there was no way I could mess it up. I would do HIIT (high intensity interval training, insanity, P90X etc) for 5 MINUTES, and then I was good for the day. Eventually I started wanting to do more, and started doing 10-15-20-30 minutes. Until TODAY I still do the same thing and I am applying the same concept of small-daily-requirements to never give failure a chance. Some days I will just workout for 5-10 minutes and stop, just to show I have confidence in this system. I suggest you try it out and please tell me how it goes for you. Remember, you are not alone my friend! Now off to put on some hard (yet rewarding) work! PD: I suggest you find a workout buddy, I did not have one starting out but it is so helpful! Now regarding the DIET/meal plan, I cannot help you there, I still do not like eating vegetables for the most part, but I am still losing weight! in the end it is all about caloric deficits (and yes, I know I should eat more vegetables, I am working on that ha ha). Cheers.

GETU1N

Don't ever get comfortable with quitting 5 min walks are better than nothing! You don't have to rush just do something " Every Damn Day"!!! Walk, piece of fruit, veggie, 1 sit-up, 1 squat just do something Every Damn Day!!