Looking for help

Loganmmontgomery

Hello. I'm a person who has tried and failed many many many times when it comes to losing weight. For those of you who know my struggle, how did you over come this obstacle?
Thanks

Orphia

Learn to recognise when you're making excuses.

You'll find that it's ridiculous the pathetic reasons we use to justify eating more than we should.

Yes, one should fuel one's body, but there's no reason to act like you're at an Ancient Roman Bacchanalian banquet at every meal.

Stop making excuses. This goes for exercising too. You can eat in moderation AND be active.

Be the you you want to be!

RuNaRoUnDaFiEld

Have you been trying to hard? By that I mean have you always tried to diet by eating salad and fruit and stuff like that?

Eat anything you like, bread, chocolate, crisps, anything. Just don't over eat them.

Set up your diary with a 1/2 lb loss a week target to start with and stick to it! You just need to find the determination within you to do it, good luck

Patttience

Most of us have tried and failed many times. I've actually succeeded and regained a number of times. I tend to forget about the failed attempts.

Anyway, you need to think about why you've failed so i'm going to give you some hints because i know most people tend not to recognise some of the reasons why they failed.

1. Did you cut yoru calories severely and find yourself getting hungry?
2. Did you rely on thrashing around in the gym and then you lost motivation?
3. Did you cheat?
4. Did you talk to yourself in a negative way from time to time?
5. Did you fib to yourself enabling you to cheat?
6. Did you continue to eat poor quailty food - ie junk food
7. Did you eat boring food in a misguided effort to eat healthy food?
8. Did you eat the same stuff over and over?
9. Did you feel deprived.
10. Did you not find a healthy balance in yoru nutrient? ie did you not eat enough protein?
11. Did you go low fat?

If you answer yes to any of these, then these are factors in your failure.

Or it could be you had some life issues arise and you just gave up.

Anyway you need to really know what you did wrong last time and work out a method that is sustainable for the long term if you want to succeed.

PinkPixiexox

I think many of us here have tried and tried and tried time and time again but for a lost of us, there is that 'click' and the realization of "I just have to do this now". Once you get that and it's sincere, I highly doubt you'll give up again. For me, my 'click' moment was when I went to the doctor for a routine appointment and he told me I had gained quite a lot of weight and asked me why that was. I didn't have an answer for him. I'd just totally relaxed my eating habits, got lazy in the gym and now it was showing significant gain. I was pretty annoyed at myself. I told myself there and then that I was going to succeed in reaching my goals. 5 months later and that attitude is still going strong and I'm down 30 lbs. You just have to dig deep and find that willpower. Ask yourself how much you want to reach your goals and your answer will determine whether or not you'll see this through. You can do it though, I promise.

Loganmmontgomery

Thank you all, it's nice to see I'm not the only who who has experienced this and nice to realize I can over come it. I feel like I do just turn to salads and veggies then when I'm overwhelmed I turn to carbs and junk food and then feel guilty about it and then it's just one big circle

Orphia

logandiekmann15 wrote: »

Thank you all, it's nice to see I'm not the only who who has experienced this and nice to realize I can over come it. I feel like I do just turn to salads and veggies then when I'm overwhelmed I turn to carbs and junk food and then feel guilty about it and then it's just one big circle

Deprivation diets don't work. They lead to bingeing and yoyoing.

Just eat what you feel like, within your calorie limit. That's it.

dhimaan

how did you over come this obstacle?

By understanding that without discipline I will not get anywhere. I will have to stick with it even on very bad days (depression). It helps a lot. Going to the gym is my outlet.

WBB55

We grow up and learn habits. It's no one's fault, no one is bad or dumb for this, ok? But once we're adults we can choose our lives and what choices we make. I had to learn that food is not a coping mechanism. It took practice to develop other ones, of course. But time and practice helped me make different choices when I felt the urge for food.

Food is not the answer to sadness. Food is not a replacement for friends if I'm lonely. When I'm angry, the answer isn't food. When I'm happy, I don't need to share food. If I'm bored, food is not the solution. I'm allowed to have an emotion and not treat it with food. I can just feel sad, it's ok. The world does not require me to eat a donut when I'm depressed.

Decoupling food from my emotions was a big, and not instant, step I had to take.