"You should be fat Amy for Halloween"
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First of all, you can do it. There are lots of people on MFP who have done this sucessfully. Be one of them! As for your "friend":
Good luck!
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You should have asked him if he was going as Shallow Hal, then said oh wait, that would be like a football player wearing his uniform for Halloween - He's a jerk and you're beautiful. Get healthy for you! You are worth it!! Good luck to ya! 0 -
I agree with AnginCanada. Make the comment work in your favour.
By the way, sometimes good friends say things they actually regret afterwards. My hubby loves me tons and is super, super supportive of me, yet once or twice he's thought it was ok to jokingly mention my weight. I ended up in tears and he now knows that no matter how "light" I make of my own weight, it's off limits for him. Always!
If your friend is really a friend, let them know that the comment hurt you. If they apologize, then maybe you can both move forward and still be friends. If they seem uncaring of your feelings, then move on without that person in your life.0 -
Your 'friend' is not a friend - your friend is a spiteful piece of work.
Lose weight for you and you alone. If you are comfortable with yourself then to hell with everyone else. If you are ready for this then welcome on board and don't be afraid to reach out for support.0 -
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UltimateRBF wrote: »Tell your "friend" she should go as a b!tch for Halloween
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Clearly they don't know what the definition of a friend is. All of us on here have had an experience in life that made us stop and say to ourselves... "enough. This is MY life and this is NOT how I want to live it." and I think you just had yours.
It is amazing to me how those little comments are meant to be so innocent but can cause so much hurt and can actually make someone go the other way of what you have decided to do. We are all pulling for you and you can totally do this. Just remember, it is a day-to-day process and it can get difficult. When it does, come on the boards and get inspired and motivated. You got this.0 -
Nooo...you're so pretty! Don't get down about that, people suck.0
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My students for YEARS would call me "Peter Griffin"; I got so darn tired of it!! Now that I'm down 72 pounds, one kid is calling me "Skinny Peter". I guess it's a compliment....?0
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One year my "friends" and I were going to dress up like Clue characters. I really wanted to be Miss Scarlet because I looked good in red and wanted to feel sexy on Halloween. But I was told, you would really make a great Mrs. Peacock because she has more weight on her her bones. So I said **** this and dressed up like a vampire instead and did my own thing.
I didn't need that in my life and neither do you. "Don't let anyone ever make you feel like you don't deserve what you want." - Heath Ledger.0 -
Haters gonna hate!
Honestly, I had to Google fat Amy because I had no idea who that was. I like Rebel Wilson, but you look nothing like her so your "friend's" comment was clearly meant just to put you down. You are a beautiful woman!
I'm also 5'2" and I started 3 months ago at 206. My scale said 180.2 this morning, so trust me this works! Feel free to add me if you'd like.0 -
Hi Brianna, What a rude comment your "friend" made. Make no mistake, he is not your friend. Feel free to add me if you'd like some support and an accountability partner. As everyone before me has said, You absolutely can do this. Slow and steady. One day at a time. Best of Luck!!0
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I'd like to point out that Fat Amy as a character (if you look at Pitch Perfect and not Pitch Perfect 2, which is just terrible) is an awesome character. She's confident, self-assured, and at no point lives "in spite" of her weight. I mean, of all fat characters one can be compared to, I'd pick Fat Amy any day.
That said, if this is someone you care about, have a real conversation about how that made you feel. If this is someone you know casually, stop knowing them casually. If they're unwilling to see why the comment hurt your feelings, then they're not very good friends.
And you'll do great! I'm also 5'2" and started at 300 pounds, and I'm the laziest person in the universe -- just as long as you take care of yourself. I found that once the well of anger/frustration runs out, it can be really hard to keep motivated. Doing it for your own reasons is much easier place to work from.0 -
I'd like to point out that Fat Amy as a character (if you look at Pitch Perfect and not Pitch Perfect 2, which is just terrible) is an awesome character. She's confident, self-assured, and at no point lives "in spite" of her weight. I mean, of all fat characters one can be compared to, I'd pick Fat Amy any day.
That said, if this is someone you care about, have a real conversation about how that made you feel. If this is someone you know casually, stop knowing them casually. If they're unwilling to see why the comment hurt your feelings, then they're not very good friends.
And you'll do great! I'm also 5'2" and started at 300 pounds, and I'm the laziest person in the universe -- just as long as you take care of yourself. I found that once the well of anger/frustration runs out, it can be really hard to keep motivated. Doing it for your own reasons is much easier place to work from.
Agreed. I suspect that your 'friend' wasn't making a positive comment about the character though. Maybe she could go as Regina George for Halloween?
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step 1) punch her in the face
step 2) break up with her0 -
I am so sorry someone said that to you. I hope you terminated that friendship!0
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oh_happy_day wrote: »I'd like to point out that Fat Amy as a character (if you look at Pitch Perfect and not Pitch Perfect 2, which is just terrible) is an awesome character. She's confident, self-assured, and at no point lives "in spite" of her weight. I mean, of all fat characters one can be compared to, I'd pick Fat Amy any day.
That said, if this is someone you care about, have a real conversation about how that made you feel. If this is someone you know casually, stop knowing them casually. If they're unwilling to see why the comment hurt your feelings, then they're not very good friends.
And you'll do great! I'm also 5'2" and started at 300 pounds, and I'm the laziest person in the universe -- just as long as you take care of yourself. I found that once the well of anger/frustration runs out, it can be really hard to keep motivated. Doing it for your own reasons is much easier place to work from.
Agreed. I suspect that your 'friend' wasn't making a positive comment about the character though. Maybe she could go as Regina George for Halloween?
You're probably right that the friend was being more superficial than, "Hey, you should be this cool character with a lot of charisma and dimension!" Which is unfortunately.
Also, solid Mean Girls burn.0 -
Agree to the Selena Gomez resemblance!
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that's pretty awful coming from one of your friends... but I've been there too, people can be so unsensitive about body shaming... good luck for your weightloss, you can do it!0
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Sometimes our friends may say hurtful things to us that they don't mean they way they sound. I know I'm guilty of having put my foot in my mouth many times! I'm sorry he said that to you but on the bright side it's been a good push to get you going!
I was around 240lbs and a whole inch taller then you (and one year younger then you) when I realized I needed to lose weight. It took me a little less then a year to be back below 200lbs. You can do it as long as you put your mind to it! In all honesty my biggest game changer was cutting out fast food and purchasing a bike.
Good luck!0 -
LifeInTheBikeLane wrote: »Sometimes our friends may say hurtful things to us that they don't mean they way they sound. I know I'm guilty of having put my foot in my mouth many times! I'm sorry he said that to you but on the bright side it's been a good push to get you going!
I was around 240lbs and a whole inch taller then you (and one year younger then you) when I realized I needed to lose weight. It took me a little less then a year to be back below 200lbs. You can do it as long as you put your mind to it! In all honesty my biggest game changer was cutting out fast food and purchasing a bike.
Good luck!
Biking is great! I bike to and from work as much as I can (3-5 days unless I am sick, like I am now, or weather happens).
Your friend may not realize what they said hurt your feelings so speak to them about it. It is great that you are making this life change, but try to find other reasons to drive you.
Good luck to you!0 -
It's a mean thing to say.....but Fat Amy is pretty dam b*tching as far as I'm concerned!0
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Some friend, that's so rude! I'm 5'2", well maybe closer to 5'1". I started at 204 and am down to 136 now. MFP and walking with me fitbit helped me get there. Good luck on your journey! Feel free to add me.0
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Hey! I'm also 23. That's such an awful thing for your friend to say
. I started on this app in January and lost about 18 lbs by June for my friend's wedding. Then I lost my motivation. Put a couple lbs back on and just recently started back up this week! Now using my family's Costa Rica trip in December as motivation. Clearly motivation is also my problem haha. Feel free to add me! 0 -
Please feel free to add me!
Im 5'3"n I have about 100 lbs to go!!! I log in everyday and I weigh in on Fridays0 -
briannaj52 wrote: »You can lose 10lbs by the end of October! Don't give up even when you feel like nothing is working this is a marathon not a sprint. I need to remind my self of that ALL the time! Hang in there!
As hurtful as that comment was, I think that might have been the push that I need to finally get serious about losing the weight
I'm with you on this. It's the kind of thing that when you are having a bad day you can replay that moment in your head and find yourself with strengthened resolve. Show her what your made of.
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I'm debating on being a mountie again...I was the mountie a few years back and still have the costume as well as handcuff belt!! Torn though. ..also have a banana costume from last year....also your friend can go to hell!!!0
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LeslieB042812 wrote: »First off, ditch the "friend"! Then, do you for you. Slow and steady wins the race, but if you commit and use the app everyday for every bite, you'll be shocked at how successful you'll be. I highly recommend the getting started posts--tons of useful information.
Good luck!
I second all the above..including ditching the "friend".0
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