Postpartum mommies!

antennachick

clgaram720 wrote: »

Are you making sure to demand equal assistance from your husband? Don't make the mistake I did. No one person can handle it. Make sure he's doing as much as you are. Kids aren't like housework. They require 50% of you and 50% of him.

umm in my life its like 98 percent me and 2 percent my husband lol...you got to do what you have to do. My husband works long hours and has a demanding job so he pretty much never helps. I have two kids under 2 and I have adapted to it honestly.

CoffeeNCardio

antennachick wrote: »

clgaram720 wrote: »

Are you making sure to demand equal assistance from your husband? Don't make the mistake I did. No one person can handle it. Make sure he's doing as much as you are. Kids aren't like housework. They require 50% of you and 50% of him.

umm in my life its like 98 percent me and 2 percent my husband lol...you got to do what you have to do. My husband works long hours and has a demanding job so he pretty much never helps. I have two kids under 2 and I have adapted to it honestly.

I know, everyone's situation is different. But it's important as NEW moms to make sure we don't fall into a trap of doing everything if we CAN'T. I just wanted to make sure OP knows she has every right to require her husband to assist (hearing her talk about trying to get the dishes done before getting a nap in herself irked me). Recovering from childbirth, trying to handle the housework, and being so sleep deprived you're clinically insane is the time we most need the help, as well as the time we are least likely to ask for it. It's almost like we're trying to prove to ourselves that we can handle it all. For me, with a severe reflux baby, I'm FREQUENTLY surprised we didn't drown together in a bathtub ages ago because of my stubbornness about asking for help. I did too much when I didn't have to and that was a mistake. So it's good she has both your perspective of how to make it work and another, cause who knows what her situation is:) These days I'm more like you, 98/2, maybe closer to 90/10. Hubby is in school 2 nights a week in the winter, and I work 2 days a week, winter is knuckle-down time!

aspen1377

I would love to be added by some of you new moms! I am desperately trying to lose the baby weight (and the weight I gained after the pregnancy I had lost right before). I have an 8 week old baby girl, and four BOYS ages 8,10,12, and 14....I would really like to connect with 2-3 people who have more than just 10-20 lbs to lose and have some daily accountability....

antennachick

clgaram720 wrote: »

antennachick wrote: »

clgaram720 wrote: »

Are you making sure to demand equal assistance from your husband? Don't make the mistake I did. No one person can handle it. Make sure he's doing as much as you are. Kids aren't like housework. They require 50% of you and 50% of him.

umm in my life its like 98 percent me and 2 percent my husband lol...you got to do what you have to do. My husband works long hours and has a demanding job so he pretty much never helps. I have two kids under 2 and I have adapted to it honestly.

I know, everyone's situation is different. But it's important as NEW moms to make sure we don't fall into a trap of doing everything if we CAN'T. I just wanted to make sure OP knows she has every right to require her husband to assist (hearing her talk about trying to get the dishes done before getting a nap in herself irked me). Recovering from childbirth, trying to handle the housework, and being so sleep deprived you're clinically insane is the time we most need the help, as well as the time we are least likely to ask for it. It's almost like we're trying to prove to ourselves that we can handle it all. For me, with a severe reflux baby, I'm FREQUENTLY surprised we didn't drown together in a bathtub ages ago because of my stubbornness about asking for help. I did too much when I didn't have to and that was a mistake. So it's good she has both your perspective of how to make it work and another, cause who knows what her situation is:) These days I'm more like you, 98/2, maybe closer to 90/10. Hubby is in school 2 nights a week in the winter, and I work 2 days a week, winter is knuckle-down time!

clinically insane...that would be me lol you women that actually get help from your husbands, all I can say is I am extremely jealous! And be sure to let your hubby know you apreciate his help in anyway.. And by all means if anyone offers help take it! With both my newborns I had people that were going to help me the first few weeks and both times it fell through so it was just me alone. But yes if you can get help by all means get help! I just honestly I could of had help with my babies...but eithier way it will get better.

boriluvlumps

CoffeeNCardio wrote: »

antennachick wrote: »

clgaram720 wrote: »

Are you making sure to demand equal assistance from your husband? Don't make the mistake I did. No one person can handle it. Make sure he's doing as much as you are. Kids aren't like housework. They require 50% of you and 50% of him.

umm in my life its like 98 percent me and 2 percent my husband lol...you got to do what you have to do. My husband works long hours and has a demanding job so he pretty much never helps. I have two kids under 2 and I have adapted to it honestly.

I know, everyone's situation is different. But it's important as NEW moms to make sure we don't fall into a trap of doing everything if we CAN'T. I just wanted to make sure OP knows she has every right to require her husband to assist (hearing her talk about trying to get the dishes done before getting a nap in herself irked me). Recovering from childbirth, trying to handle the housework, and being so sleep deprived you're clinically insane is the time we most need the help, as well as the time we are least likely to ask for it. It's almost like we're trying to prove to ourselves that we can handle it all. For me, with a severe reflux baby, I'm FREQUENTLY surprised we didn't drown together in a bathtub ages ago because of my stubbornness about asking for help. I did too much when I didn't have to and that was a mistake. So it's good she has both your perspective of how to make it work and another, cause who knows what her situation is:) These days I'm more like you, 98/2, maybe closer to 90/10. Hubby is in school 2 nights a week in the winter, and I work 2 days a week, winter is knuckle-down time!

i really appreciate your concer! It' so nice when people care! He does help yes. When baby was born he took off 3 weeks so i could heal and relax and get rest. Then when he went back to work he had to pick up a part time job so i could stay home with the baby. He doesnt trust NO ONE with our child. So he worked 8-5 then 8-12. But the morning job just fired him a couple weeks ago. :-(. So now hes looking for work and hes helping so much witht the baby were more like 60/40. I can have time for a shower!

filmnerd28

I am exhausted I have a 7 week old his name is Charles Nathan "Trip" for short