Sick of the Little things

RMB2290

Just because i am heavy does not mean i eat everything i see, does not mean you need to place all orders of appetizers in front of me at a table of 10, does not mean i need you to drop me off at the front door and then go park the car, does not mean i need an elevator to go above the first floor and it certainly does not mean i should be grateful for the drunken late night offer to hook up as long as no one finds out.

( Sorry for the above rant, just been one of those days)

I am a strong smart woman but i can honestly say all the little things add up and make my weight loss journey extremely hard at times i am brand new to this site and i hope to be able to connect with others who are also trying to over come the daily little insults and set backs.

mrsriisky

People can do the things that hurt the most while having the best intentions (in some cases- not the drunken hook up!). It is ignorance, a lack of understanding, or a lack of thought. I'm sorry that you've dealt with those things.

mrsriisky

FWIW, I'm not heavy, but I love when I get dropped off at the front door- lazy lady over here!

freemystery

I had a completely well meaning lady tell me "I knew I had to do something about my weight when I realised I was probably the same size as you."

I don't think she meant harm but it was hard to deal with when it's just assumed you're okay to be a yardstick of unacceptability...

pippywillow

People who've never been heavy just don't understand some things. I know I've been made to feel stupid or helpless because of my weight before. I'm glad you found this site, there are a lot of people here who do know what you're going through, just ignore the know-it-alls.

Send me a friend request if you want :bigsmile:

Yanicka1

Good luck with your weight loss

cebreisch

Hope you have enough strength to tell them that someday.

I remember going to see my dad in the hospital once. In the reception area was a box of Krispy Kreme donuts (I LOVE THOSE). I managed to make it past there without snarfing one down, but then when I got to the room and sat down, my sister sat next to me smaking her fingers getting ready to eat one. I looked at her with total disgust and said, "Would you mind going over there (pointing across the room) and eating that??!!" My mom started laughing saying, "Listen to you! That was pretty smart telling her to go away..." (she was serious - she was glad I was standing up for myself.)

Another time at a restaurant with co-workers, the waiters came and brought LOTS of baskets of bread - and of course, they had to sit one of them next to me. I took a deep breath, put my hand up and turned my head and looked at a co-worker saying, "Must turn a blind eye.....must turn a blind eye!!!" She laughed and picked it up and moved it immediately saying, "Here let me take care of that for you."

One other time at my sister's house, her brother-in-law was asking how I had lost my weight - I was telling him a little about my story and had considered getting weight loss surgery done....just then his mother (my sister's mother-in-law) piped up saying that that was the problem with my family - we just research everything to death instead of just going ahead and doing something we ought to just do." Instead of getting all huffy about it, my thought was, "She has absolutely NO idea what I've gone through, and therefore has not earned the right to have a valid opinion. She is entitled to her opinion, but I chose not to listen to her rantings."

People just don't think. Unfortunately, you can't make them all be wonderfully sensitive to your journey. You can only control what you do, how you behave, how you react, etc. Is it frustrating? ABSOLUTELY! But schluff it off to "thems that don't know just don't know any better" and move on.

JustPeachy044

People can be insensitive sometimes. The car drop-off thing can be a well-intentioned mistake but the rest, yeah, I get that. Hang in there, use your anger and frustration as fuel to propel you forward on your journey. Our society definitely has a bias against those of us carrying any extra weight, heck, anyone who isn't model thin can be led to feel inadequate and inferior...