Sad and falling off............Scared

Buff2022

I am just so sad. I miss my BFF so much. I just am feeling lost. My heart is not in this right now. I am still working out and that is what is saving me from all the eating I am doing.

I feel so alone and lost right now.

mrsriisky

I have fallen victim to that cycle before- remember that sacrificing your health will not heal your emotional wounds, it will add to them. Kudos on keeping up with work outs, that is a step! Feel proud of yourself for doing so! I don't know the backstory on your BFF, but I'm sure they would want to keep forging ahead on your journey!

Thena81

i understand! i lost a very good/cool friend today..and i miss him.. so so much

allanr

That is a tough one, been there too, for the loss of relationship and another time for the loss of a long time job. Not sure how to combat this, except encouragement from other true friends, but I can tell you, you will be triply miserable if you really fall off and battle obesity on top of it all. I have a very good friend who struggled with un/under employment, moved to various cities around the country only to have things fall through, and he is still a pillar of fitness - he just kept up with his normal diet/exercise regimen - it is his therapy and sanity. You and I can only learn from his ways. :brokenheart: >> :happy:

jetlag

Ugh, this is a tough one; the siren song of the refrigerator to soothe an aching heart. Been there and still doing that. We both know it's not a solution to your heartache, but I don't know how to help you except to say that I get it and more than anything I don't want you to undo your hard work.

You may feel like you've lost control of things in your life, but not of everything and certainly not what you eat. Would your BFF want this for you?

Buff2022

My Best Friend of 20 years died 2 weeks ago. She had colon cancer. No she would not want this for me. But even this morning. I woke up and I am just so sad. I miss her so much.

I just feel as if my heart has been ripped out of me.

I know she would tell me to keep going. I just don't want to do anything. I know that is not the answer but easier said than done right now.

Lizzy622

Try to find comfort in your friends and family not food. Talking it out helps or even journaling. Get the pain out so you can let it go and remember all the good times you had with your BFF. Working out can also help get you through this tough time.

littlebrownbat3

My best friend died the Tuesday before thanksgiving... I know your pain. I didn't even think about maintaining body weight, I just ate my feelings. For me, grief tastes like honey bbq potato chips and Boone's Farm Strawberry Fields wine. I gained 20 lbs in 2 or 3 months. I was suicidal, and in pain all the time, and hated myself, feeling like I should have been able to stop her death.

Minus the suicidal part (I'm a grad student, my PI prevented me from getting help I needed, abusive ahole...) I think that may have been necessary. It was bad, the consequences were weight gain, but maybe it's something you need to do. Not maintain it as a lifestyle, but be kind to yourself by not punishing yourself if you overindulge, try to get some exercise, but if you don't for a month or two, that's not bad. It just is.

If food comforts, and won't kill you for a while, know that it will be harder to kick the habit, but sometimes somethings gotta give when you are in pain like this

sunglasses_and_ocean_waves

My Best Friend of 20 years died 2 weeks ago. She had colon cancer. No she would not want this for me. But even this morning. I woke up and I am just so sad. I miss her so much.

I just feel as if my heart has been ripped out of me.

I know she would tell me to keep going. I just don't want to do anything. I know that is not the answer but easier said than done right now.

Listen. To. Her. Think about sitting with her and her saying those words.

I am very sorry for your loss. I lost my BFF to breast cancer nearly 5 years to the day I was biopsied and subsequently diagnosed. I fought for my family, I fought for myself, and I fought for my friend who lost the battle.

Remember the good times. Remember your friend in good health. Remember the laughter. Remember the stories. Those things did not pass away. Those memories are forever, and you are richer for having had them.

Grieve. It damn well hurts. But you won't break, and you won't give up. There's no point to either.

Again, I am very sorry for your loss. {{{hugs}}}