Cooking for myself (to lose weight) and my boyfriend (to gain weight).

joanaliachristina

Thank so much to all for your input! I made him a milkshake last night and he LOVED it! He also now has high-carb options in the freezer for when he needs quick calories. I will try to incorporate high fat/carb additions to our meals soon.

Just to clarify, it's really not that I'm doing everything in the house - we definitely have a division of labour! There are certain chores that I absolutely won't touch and he will do. Cooking is one thing I personally prefer to do myself because I get iffy about other people using the pans/tools/appliances, and I am a lot more particular about food than he is. That's just my own quirk! He does often come to the kitchen with me to hang out and help me with little things while I'm cooking for us. We both do our own laundry so that's equally divided too. It's by no means a relationship where I cater to him!

Saying that, I am taking your advice to heart and I've brought up what you guys all said to him. He says he will try to get even more involved in the cooking and I'll also see if I can teach him a few simple recipes. He makes simple things like salads, sandwiches, etc. which I don't usually eat. I'll see if he can learn a few simple recipes that we both like.

Thank you so much to everyone who gave your input! Much much appreciated!

rdrettig1

Oh man I have been dealing with this for a while. I am always trying to lose weight and my husband is always trying to gain weight. The thing that makes it even harder is he has food allergies and is doing the aip protocol diet, and he is also allergic to fruit. So all he can eat is pretty much meat and oil and vegetables. Plus he tracks his macros so he can't have huge amounts of fat or anything. I also cook for two picky children, it is kind of a nightmare....sorry for the rant! What we use to do to up his calories were things like, homemade granola bars or granola, nuts, peanut butter, oats in his smoothies, avocados, cans of coconut milk, raisins, and sometimes he resorted to weight gainer protein.

literique

I make meat/veggies both of us and rice/pasta just for him on the side.

kshama2001

joanaliachristina wrote: »

Thank so much to all for your input! I made him a milkshake last night and he LOVED it! He also now has high-carb options in the freezer for when he needs quick calories. I will try to incorporate high fat/carb additions to our meals soon.

Just to clarify, it's really not that I'm doing everything in the house - we definitely have a division of labour! There are certain chores that I absolutely won't touch and he will do. Cooking is one thing I personally prefer to do myself because I get iffy about other people using the pans/tools/appliances, and I am a lot more particular about food than he is. That's just my own quirk! He does often come to the kitchen with me to hang out and help me with little things while I'm cooking for us. We both do our own laundry so that's equally divided too. It's by no means a relationship where I cater to him!

Saying that, I am taking your advice to heart and I've brought up what you guys all said to him. He says he will try to get even more involved in the cooking and I'll also see if I can teach him a few simple recipes. He makes simple things like salads, sandwiches, etc. which I don't usually eat. I'll see if he can learn a few simple recipes that we both like.

Thank you so much to everyone who gave your input! Much much appreciated!

My fiance and I don't live together. He says he'd like to cook more, but feels like he lacks basic cooking techniques. I explained that my Gramma used to say "If you can read, you can cook" and any recipe from a decent cookbook like The Joy of Cooking will include all the information he needs to know. He doesn't need to "play by ear" - he can "read the sheet music."