Are you treated differently after weight loss?

BajaDreamin333
BajaDreamin333 Posts: 267 Member
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I've recently crossed over the threshold on the BMI chart that says I'm no longer overweight. Wow, it's been over 20 years since I could say that, and a good portion of that time I was in the obese category. Now that I'm "normal" weight, I notice I'm treated differently. People are nicer to me, I get better service at bars & restauratns, I get more attention from clerks in retail stores. And some people I work with are more stand-off-ish.

Anyone have experience with being treated differently at different weights?

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  • cappri
    cappri Posts: 1,089 Member
    Yes I've noticed some difference, but I really don't know if it's them or me? People are nicer, but I'm happier so maybe that is why.
  • 43932452
    43932452 Posts: 7,246 Member
    Congratulations!! It's great you made it to your sweet success. As for the different
    treatment, I don't appear to have as much to lose as I actually do .. due to weight
    training so when out in stores and public ppl tend to be very nice, which is a shell
    shock for me. It is opposite but there is one negative, I live where there are a lot
    of other wmn and none were the warmest types but now they are worse. I guess
    not everyone can be nicer but when I do get treated nicer, it sure feels great.
  • deb3129
    deb3129 Posts: 1,294 Member
    I have noticed a huge difference. But I think part of it is just that I am a lot more confident, and more likely to make eye contact, smile, etc.
  • fatfrost
    fatfrost Posts: 367 Member
    I get hit on a lot more. It's nice.
  • Isakizza
    Isakizza Posts: 754 Member
    People actually make eye contact with me now.
    Lots of smiles, makes me nervous, lol.

    I'm just not used to it but learning to embrace it as I continue towards my fitness goals. :wink:

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  • Lalasharni
    Lalasharni Posts: 353 Member
    Yes I have noticed that too. I'm 65 but the other day whilst I was out Nordic Walking, I got wolf whistled by some builders!
    however, they WERE up on a roof, and I think their eyesight was suspect LOL!
  • ItsCasey
    ItsCasey Posts: 4,021 Member
    Not in general. I am treated differently by men, but that's to be expected.
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    I think it's because of confidence, not so much the way you look. People respond positively to confidence whether you're fit and trim or fat and out of shape.
  • murphy612
    murphy612 Posts: 734 Member
    Nope, not at all actually. But then again I don't act any differently either.
  • mellyish
    mellyish Posts: 253 Member
    I have lost 35lbs, I am not even at a "healthy weight" yet, still 12lbs off with a bit of a belly, and 23lbs off from goal. Even guys that know I have a boyfriend tend to give me more attention and nice comments about how I look. It's still so weird for me. I'm 19 and in college, and the last time I was small I was 14 y/o (120lbs) and in middle school. I notice I'm receiving about the same amount of attention again just in a more adult manner :blushing:
  • gigglybeth
    gigglybeth Posts: 365 Member
    Yes. I'm not sure how to handle it. People are generally nicer. I get a lot more doors held open for me.

    But I've noticed the flipside, too. I've still got about 30-35 pounds to lose, but I've started getting some stink-eye from some women. At first it made me feel sort of bad, like I had done something to inadvertently offend them. Then I thought maybe they didn't like tall women (I'm 5'11")? But then I realized I couldn't have possibly have done anything. So now it just makes me laugh. It doesn't happen often, but when it does I just shake my head and go on about my day.
  • MaureensFreshStart
    MaureensFreshStart Posts: 102 Member
    I've noticed that too, but I also agree with the others that have suggested it's a direct response to my confidence going up ~ I tend to make eye contact more and smile too, so I think they're responding to that. Two years ago I was wearing shapeless skirts, t shirts, hair always in a ponytail, and considered myself "just a mom" ~ now that I've changed on the outside AND inside, I find that I'm embracing life again, and I think people are just naturally drawn to that. :)
  • BajaDreamin333
    BajaDreamin333 Posts: 267 Member
    Yes I have noticed that too. I'm 65 but the other day whilst I was out Nordic Walking, I got wolf whistled by some builders!
    however, they WERE up on a roof, and I think their eyesight was suspect LOL!

    Oh your post made me smile - thank you for sharing. And do not underestimate your "whistle worthy-ness" or their eyesight! I'm sure they knew exactly what they were whoo-hooing at and that you deserved it. Awesome, proof you can rock it always :tongue:
  • Lift_This_
    Lift_This_ Posts: 2,756 Member
    nope still not treated any differently than when i was heavier.
  • fitfreakymom
    fitfreakymom Posts: 1,400 Member
    sometimes I have been given dirty looks by other women but I just chalk it up to jealousy

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