Help!!

KT_3009
KT_3009 Posts: 1,042 Member
in Health and Weight Loss
So I am a student that still lives with my mum and as much as I love her she's constantly been buying me sweet treats like brownies and Nutella pretzels which I'm trying to stay away from.. Also today she wanted us to have lunch so she brought a thing of hot chips and white bread -_- how can I tell her politely that I don't want to indulge in such things..

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  • DeguelloTex
    DeguelloTex Posts: 6,652 Member
    "No, thank you, mum."
  • Montepulciano
    Montepulciano Posts: 845 Member
    Offer to cook/make a meal when she says she wants to have lunch together in the future?
  • KT_3009
    KT_3009 Posts: 1,042 Member
    DeguelloTex wrote: »
    "No, thank you, mum."

    I struggle with that though because I used to crave and binge on such things but after being diagnosed with severe anxiety and PTSD she's been buying me these things cause she thinks that will make me happy and help.. But I guess I will just have to tell her straight out
  • KT_3009
    KT_3009 Posts: 1,042 Member
    Montepulciano wrote: »
    Offer to cook/make a meal when she says she wants to have lunch together in the future?

    I would have done so but she had already ordered the takeaway when she brought up having lunch together.. In the future I will be :)
  • jgnatca
    jgnatca Posts: 14,464 Member
    Some mothers express their love through food. I suggest having a talk, not at mealtime, about how much you appreciate her expressions of love, but could she switch to non-food expressions?

    This could be little notes, flowers, or a candle.

    Or time. Girl time is always valued.

    http://www.frugal-mama.com/2011/12/free-printable-coupon-favor-book-for-the-kids-easy-step-by-step-instructions/
  • KT_3009
    KT_3009 Posts: 1,042 Member
    jgnatca wrote: »
    Some mothers express their love through food. I suggest having a talk, not at mealtime, about how much you appreciate her expressions of love, but could she switch to non-food expressions?

    This could be little notes, flowers, or a candle.

    Or time. Girl time is always valued.

    http://www.frugal-mama.com/2011/12/free-printable-coupon-favor-book-for-the-kids-easy-step-by-step-instructions/

    Thank you :) that is a great idea!
  • Kalikel
    Kalikel Posts: 9,603 Member
    She's your mom and she loves you. If you tell her that you're trying to eat healthier food to be a healthier person, I'm sure she will support you.

    Talk about healthy eating, ask for suggestions or recipes, if you think she might have some. If not, maybe ask if she wants to learn how to eat healthy with you.

    We love our kids. We learn to love all kinds of things we never thought we would because our kids are into them.

    Share what you're doing with her and there is a good chance she will be supportive and maybe even get involved. :)
  • KT_3009
    KT_3009 Posts: 1,042 Member
    Kalikel wrote: »
    She's your mom and she loves you. If you tell her that you're trying to eat healthier food to be a healthier person, I'm sure she will support you.

    Talk about healthy eating, ask for suggestions or recipes, if you think she might have some. If not, maybe ask if she wants to learn how to eat healthy with you.

    We love our kids. We learn to love all kinds of things we never thought we would because our kids are into them.

    Share what you're doing with her and there is a good chance she will be supportive and maybe even get involved. :)

    She is such a supportive person so I'm sure she'll be happy to help :) I just always freeze up with how to bring it up aha guess that comes with anxiety
  • Nanogg55
    Nanogg55 Posts: 275 Member
    Lots of moms show their love thru food. Pick out some recipes that fit into your diet plan and ask your Mom if she could make those for you.
  • KT_3009
    KT_3009 Posts: 1,042 Member
    Nanogg55 wrote: »
    Lots of moms show their love thru food. Pick out some recipes that fit into your diet plan and ask your Mom if she could make those for you.

    I might bring that up with her because we used to do cooking together so it'd be good to re-start that again :)
  • PinkPixiexox
    PinkPixiexox Posts: 4,142 Member
    DeguelloTex wrote: »
    "No, thank you, mum."

    This!
  • KrisiAnnH
    KrisiAnnH Posts: 352 Member
    The cooking together suggestion is a great idea! Maybe you could look online for healthy low cal recipes and suggest you cook one together? Or ask her to get ingredients for the meal instead of snacks for you...

    Another option could be to explain that you appreciate that she's trying to buy you things to make you feel better, but given you're trying to make better choices nutella etc will actually make you feel worse. Maybe ask her to get you 'healthy' options? I know there are a few 'luxuries' I'd love to get more often that are still low calorie/relatively healthy- things like fresh strawberries, low fat toffee yogurts, meringue nests with fresh fruit (can you tell I have a sweet tooth? haha). Failing that, as others have said, just say no thanks and explain to her why :)

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