Fat Days!?

KT_3009

Today is one of those days that I feel really frustrated and angry that I let myself go. Even though I've already lost some weight I find these "fat days" really overwhelming, like not being able to notice any change in my body has me feeling so insecure. How have you been able to change your mood around on a day where you are feeling at your worst?

brb2008

I had lost over 100lbs and am now dealing with a 50lb or so gain and losing again. Im pretty early in it, practicing good habits for a month or so but only on a full "plan" for 10 days now. I have lost just a half inch off my waist and I feel down too. So angry that I let myself slide back to these bad habits that had me over 300 pounds and seeing my face chub back up has tanked my self esteem.

As far as how I handle it, today is a VERY hard day. Ive been working my *kitten* off, battle feeling guilt over eating everyday (Im aware of my disordered past and tendency for extremes and am working hard not to be dangerous to myself), and the one thing that makes me feel like Im making progress is excercise and i couldn't even do that this morning because I was in tears over my body soreness, a deep tired feeling in my soul, and probably some hormone issues.

So for today Im doing my best to stick to my food goals. That's what I can do today to keep working toward my goal. Maybe I cant make myself rise above this negative mood but at LEAST I wont let it derail me and keep me from being closer to the goal tomorrow. I write to myself a lot, in notes on my phone and such. I find that letting the negative out in word form helps me not feel like Im carrying it around with me the whole day. You're allowed to have your feelings you just also have to get on with the day. Building self esteem is a process and some days you wont have any, Ive just learned to roll with it and do whatever my best is for that day.

Need2Exerc1se

I've had days like that all my life, even when I was in the lower BMI range. Some days I just feel fat and blah. I'm 51 yo and still occasionally have them. After a while you get used to just muddling through them, knowing "this too shall pass".

But they still suck.

nyponbell

These days often happen to me when I've not been to the gym in a while. Whenever I go to the gym regularly (or semi-regularly anyway) I feel stronger and more positive towards my body. I think it's because I can feel it "working", but if I've not been to the gym I don't feel my muscles the same way. A lot of it is in my head though; when I've been to the gym I imagine that I can see a change (though not right away of course) but when I've been away from it for a week I see a reversal of whatever fitness gain I had.

If you don't have a gym or am unable to go to one when you're feeling that way, try going for a fast walk. It doesn't have to be long, but long enough so that you can feel your muscles - the only way I can try to explain the sensation is that they are twitching, or itching to go further.

That's the only active advice I have. Struggling with self image is difficult and personal, and what works for one person might not for another. But I know that I've always felt better about my body when I can feel it "working".

LosingLaurensWay

I've had plenty of these days! Heck I'm having one right now and I've lost 170 pounds!

On days like this I stick to my usual plan of eating well and exercising. Usually I make a healthy meal that I've been dying to try on Pinterest, but kept putting it off or I'll take a yoga/meditation class at my gym (or even online!).

If that still doesn't help I will treat myself to mud mask, do my nails, light candles. If its super intense I start cleaning or rearranging furniture (that might just be my thing, but it so works haha). Basically, I do anything that makes me feel good that doesn't involve food or weight loss.

I try to avoid any type of netflix/tv show binge because it always leads to me binging on junk food and feeling worse. Everyone is very vulnerable during these "fat days" to start eating emotionally.

Keep in mind that these days come no matter how much you've lost or even if you've met your goal. Find what works for you through trial and error. Some days you'll overcome it and some days you won't, but it always passes.

amberlyda1

I have to recenter myself and stop beating myself up. I went from being super fit to gaining 80 plus pounds, blood pressure meds and in constant joint pain etc in less than 2 years. Did I have "reasons" for giving up in the first place and gain weight...sure. But I have to keep reminding myself that im in this for the long haul. I wont be fit and thin tomorrow; hopefully next year. When I have bad days I pick up my shoes and head to the gym. Sitting around and feeling sorry for myself is what got me fat in the first place.

Acw08338

LosingLaurensWay wrote: »

I've had plenty of these days! Heck I'm having one right now and I've lost 170 pounds!

On days like this I stick to my usual plan of eating well and exercising. Usually I make a healthy meal that I've been dying to try on Pinterest, but kept putting it off or I'll take a yoga/meditation class at my gym (or even online!).

If that still doesn't help I will treat myself to mud mask, do my nails, light candles. If its super intense I start cleaning or rearranging furniture (that might just be my thing, but it so works haha). Basically, I do anything that makes me feel good that doesn't involve food or weight loss.

I try to avoid any type of netflix/tv show binge because it always leads to me binging on junk food and feeling worse. Everyone is very vulnerable during these "fat days" to start eating emotionally.

Keep in mind that these days come no matter how much you've lost or even if you've met your goal. Find what works for you through trial and error. Some days you'll overcome it and some days you won't, but it always passes.

I like this! The idea of giving yourself and "treat" with out it being food or weight loss involved.
I need to implement this in my life.
With the cleaning, for me it's a sense of accomplishment and one I can see, smell and feel right after it is finished. Almost a sense of control on the days when I feel so little of it.

OhMsDiva

I have those days and what I do is remind myself how far I have come. I still have a lot of weight to lose, but I am not where I was 6 months ago. I know what I am doing is beneficial and I keep reminding myself how proud I am of myself for making the choice to do something positive for myself and not giving up.

kshama2001

KT_3009 wrote: »

Today is one of those days that I feel really frustrated and angry that I let myself go. Even though I've already lost some weight I find these "fat days" really overwhelming, like not being able to notice any change in my body has me feeling so insecure. How have you been able to change your mood around on a day where you are feeling at your worst?

In your other thread you indicate that this is your TOM. I sometimes feel bloated premenstrually. Drinking lots of fluid and exercising helps.

KrisiAnnH

Everyone has days like this, it's totally natural. You mention you cant see any change in your body- maybe taking progress photos would help? I know when I'm feeling down, just looking at 'before' photos and comparing them to recent photos really helps to pick up my mood- it makes you realise how much has changed (that you might not notice on a day-to-day basis).
Another thing I've done is to put brightly coloured glass pebbles into 2 jars. 1 is labelled 'lbs lost' and the other is 'lbs to go'. It really helps me to feel motivated. They sit on a shelf in my living room, and having them there as a constant reminder of how far I've come (no matter how small) really helps

Apart from that, just what everyone else has said. Little non-food treats are a great idea. Run yourself a bath, light some candles, if its evening time get into some comfy pjs (or even just putting on some cosy fluffy socks under your shoes haha). I find going for walks really helps, even if it's just walking through town and window shopping

joinn68

My theory is that there is nothing that a good haircut cannot cure. I have gone to the hairdresser a few times when the going got tough (Not weight loss related but in other instances) and it helped

Kalikel

All that emotional beating yourself up - it serves no purpose! It doesn't help you! Stop doing it.

If a friend came to you and asked for help losing weight, you wouldn't say, "How could you let yourself go like this?! All this fat! It's horrible!" You'd get to the business of helping your friend lose weight.

Do that for yourself. Treat yourself as well as you'd treat others. Help yourself like you'd help them.

You're as entitled to your kindness as anyone else!

PinkPixiexox

We really are our own worst critics but the pressure does absolutely nothing for us - mentally or physically.

You've lost weight, probably lost inches too, I'm assuming? This is an absolute fact and you can't argue with it. When I am having an insecure day, I remind myself of how far I've come and quickly push those negative thoughts away. You can't argue with your progress, YOU did it - and one lousy fat day should certainly not make you doubt yourself. You're doing great. Keep up the good work.

MommyL2015

Yeah, I have those days when I start my period. That first day is my I'm fat day and I wear stretchy pants and eat chocolate and bite my husband's hand if he tries to touch me. LOL Well, not really but he does know I don't like all the touchy-feely stuff during that time.