"Dem Feelz" huh?
AspenDan
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Is this meant to patronize someone for feeling a certain way? What's the purpose of this expression?
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I think it is generally meant to point out that feelings don't change reality or that sometimes reality can be harsh regardless of how you feel about it.Is this meant to patronize someone for feeling a certain way? What's the purpose of this expression?
Feel whatever you want. Don't expect what's necessary to conform to your feelings, though.0 -
DeguelloTex wrote: »
I think it is generally meant to point out that feelings don't change reality or that sometimes reality can be harsh regardless of how you feel about it.Is this meant to patronize someone for feeling a certain way? What's the purpose of this expression?
Feel whatever you want. Don't expect what's necessary to conform to your feelings, though.
I feel like feelings should still be taken into consideration equally to facts..feelings are usually a large reason that anyone ever gains a lot of weight.0 -
I feel like feelings should still be taken into consideration equally to facts..feelings are usually a large reason that anyone ever gains a lot of weight.
I don't. For me, facts are more important than how they make me (or anyone else) feel. But I also don't think that one should be rude for the sake of being rude. So, I would say that the way you present your facts is important. To me, that has more to do with making sure you are understood, more than the "feelings" themselves. Obviously, they play a role, as provoking an emotional response can hinder understanding. But this was learned over many years of being a tactless *kitten* (without meaning to be a *kitten*).
That said, "dem feelz" isn't always used in a derogatory way.0 -
I use it all the time to mean I feel things. There's nothing derogatory about it.0
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The only way I've ever seen it used is to express that the person has felt the same way or feels the same way.
Person 1: I'm so hungry I'm hangry.
Person 2: Dem Feelz doe (Yes, I've been there)
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I feel like you're being insulting and patronising by taking a phrase that I like to use in any moment of sentimentality and implying that that's wrong. That's how I like, and was brought up to, communicate with minimal reliance on dem feels, which are something private, and maximum reliance on facts and common sense.DeguelloTex wrote: »
I think it is generally meant to point out that feelings don't change reality or that sometimes reality can be harsh regardless of how you feel about it.Is this meant to patronize someone for feeling a certain way? What's the purpose of this expression?
Feel whatever you want. Don't expect what's necessary to conform to your feelings, though.
I feel like feelings should still be taken into consideration equally to facts..feelings are usually a large reason that anyone ever gains a lot of weight.
Food is a large reason that anyone ever gains a lot of weight
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DeguelloTex wrote: »
I think it is generally meant to point out that feelings don't change reality or that sometimes reality can be harsh regardless of how you feel about it.Is this meant to patronize someone for feeling a certain way? What's the purpose of this expression?
Feel whatever you want. Don't expect what's necessary to conform to your feelings, though.
I feel like feelings should still be taken into consideration equally to facts..feelings are usually a large reason that anyone ever gains a lot of weight.
I'll validate feelz, science will validate facts, and neither of us is validating parking.0 -
Dem feelz = those feelings
That's it.
The way you use it is what can be construed as insulting.0 -
As an old hag, I have never heard this expression.0
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mrsnazario1219 wrote: »Dem feelz = those feelings
That's it.
The way you use it is what can be construed as insulting.
It seems that to some people on MFP, anything you say can be construed as insulting.0 -
Like most expressions, it can be used mockingly or in commiseration. Feelings can be important to how someone eats, but not to how what they eat affects them. People sometimes also need to learn to let their feelings have less of a hold on them and know that they can be changed, and do not have to control their impulses and actions (from a former 250+lb person who got that way through binge eating and "comfort" eating, which was later understood to actually be a form of self harm. But no mistake - it was the calories, and not the feelings that made me fat).0
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Is it a relation of dem bones, dem bones, dem dry bones?0
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Then you should take feelings into consideration equally to facts. Have at it.DeguelloTex wrote: »
I think it is generally meant to point out that feelings don't change reality or that sometimes reality can be harsh regardless of how you feel about it.Is this meant to patronize someone for feeling a certain way? What's the purpose of this expression?
Feel whatever you want. Don't expect what's necessary to conform to your feelings, though.
I feel like feelings should still be taken into consideration equally to facts..feelings are usually a large reason that anyone ever gains a lot of weight.
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mrsnazario1219 wrote: »Dem feelz = those feelings
That's it.
The way you use it is what can be construed as insulting.
It seems that to some people on MFP, anything you say can be construed as insulting.
Ha! So true.0 -
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Mycophilia wrote: »
Tru DAT0 -
I only ever see it used in solidarity with someone else's feelings, or to express ones own feelings about something.0
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DeguelloTex wrote: »
I think it is generally meant to point out that feelings don't change reality or that sometimes reality can be harsh regardless of how you feel about it.Is this meant to patronize someone for feeling a certain way? What's the purpose of this expression?
Feel whatever you want. Don't expect what's necessary to conform to your feelings, though.
I feel like feelings should still be taken into consideration equally to facts..feelings are usually a large reason that anyone ever gains a lot of weight.
So when facts and feelings contradict ... which wins?0 -
It's a hobby.It seems that to some people on MFP, anything you say can be construed as insulting.
Some people garden. Some people bicycle. And some people wail about being insulted.
I don't think the last group burns as many calories. But who knows, maybe they are actively insulted.
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It depends entirely upon context. For instance, when using it to describe my reaction to "Dexter," it was to express that I had encountered profound emotions which I was not comfortable discussing in depth.0
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I've seen the term used here when someone posts their opinion, but can't back it up with science. Because of this I've always thought it was used in a condescending way0
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