Spouse Support

T_Roc

Past few months I've lost about 50 lbs. Still have a long way to go. My wife has been a small women for the past few years. She gain weight mostly in the mid-section area. The weight gain was not issue for me, but she's starting to have sleeping problems, back , knee issues and complaining about her clothes won't fit. I tried to get her to workout with me and stay focus. She'll do it a day or two. I try to encourage her to continue to work out with me because it also encouraging to me. But she comes up with a excuse about not working out. When we work out I adjust the workout so she won't be discourage. I'm doing most of the pushing and motivating, but don't have anyone to push me. It's discouraging to ask her if she's going the the gym with me and she says no. I'm getting to the point where I'm just going to get my workout in and reach my goals. If she decide to join let her. Getting tired of her complaining about things when she knows and agreed to what she needs to do. Thoughts?

bri170lb

I really think you should do what you need to do. Keep inviting her to join you. Answer her questions about what you are doing in a positive way. But just move forward with your healthier life.

That's what I have been doing for about 2.5 years. My husband just recently joined the gym and has been asking me for my opinion on food choices. It took him quite a while to start making his own changes, but he is starting!

Katie_Y89

If she doesn't want it for herself then leave it be. She has to want Iit for herherself before any serious attempts can be made. For now, just focus on yourself and keep going.

Melwillbehealthy

MY husband has been in your position concerning me. It took me a while to decide that I wanted to get in shape. I was resistant to going to the gym for a long time. Now, we do go together and do motivate each other, but once we're there, I go to the ladies section and he goes upstairs to 'mens'. We can work out together if we want to, but we both prefer to do our own thing and then meet up afterwards. We always compare notes on our workout and how we did and make suggestions, and are encouraging to each other. It works for us. I'm just a little uncomfortable working out with the men, so I usually use the women's only section of our gym. I love going to the gym with my husband.

jgnatca

People have all sorts of reasons why they don't do what they should, and none of them are logical. If I were you I'd go to the gym myself. That's what I do. If she complains about her clothes her back or her knees, agree that it is hard and say nothing else. When she is good and ready she may join you.

Machka9

She has to do something she likes.

I don't know what your gym is like, but the one my husband and I went to was the city's aquatic centre. We would walk in, give each other a kiss and tell each other that we would see you later.

He went to swim for an hour, while I took the spinning class ... then we'd "meet" on the treadmill, and often at some point I'd head off to the rowing machine.

We would put in a couple hours doing our own thing but all in the same place so we could smile and wave at each other, compare notes, and so on.

And there is a long list of other sports and activities. You don't have to go to the gym to get fit, it can start with something as simple as walking.