Flatmates wont let me get a cat? Is it me or them being unfair?

VivaPirata
VivaPirata Posts: 25 Member
edited November 26 in Chit-Chat
So I live in a 2 bedroom flat with two flatmates, a couple. Despite asking to change it, it is still only their names on the lease so I dont really have any rights. Its a no pet lease.

For years, I have wanted a cat. I grew up with cats and have yearned for feline company since I left my parents. Now would be a good time to get one and my parents have agreed to buy me a kitten for my birthday.

My flatmates however are refusing. I think they're being a little bit unfair. A few months ago, they got a cat. They didnt consult me or consider my opinion relevant whatsoever, they just simply mentioned it one day after it had been decided and organised to get a cat. Noone thought to ask me if I was okay with it. They knew I like cats as I'd talked about it but didn't ask if living with one now was an issue. So they got this cat. And shes a lovely cat but shes a cat so she has annoying habits. She doesnt clean herself in her litter but all over the carpet, she meows in the hallway early every morning, she has destroyed the walls clawing at them. My flatmates go abroad on holiday and again without checking its okay just assume I'll catsit. I've never raised any of these things as an issue and just put up with them, as I know they put up with annoying things of mine.

Now I would like a cat myself and did the stupid thing trying to be a reasonable flatmate of speaking to them about it first. And they have refused. They claim its because it wouldnt be fair if my new cat didnt get on with theirs. I personally think it would do their cat a lot of good to have some company to interact with. They leave it shut in one room and by itself overnight and when theyre at work so around 18-20 hours a day in one room and alone which I dont think is fair. Also, their cat is still young and theres no reason they wouldnt get along. In the event they didnt though, I would find mine a new cat free home.

I dont think though the reason is their cat. I think they think I wouldnt look after a cat properly. If theres anything Im good at though, its being devoted to a cat. They think I would let it/its litter become unclean and smelly which I wouldn't.

I think theyve been a little selfish and unfair. Am I alone in thinking that? Also, does anyone have any advice on a) letting them know I feel hard done by without rocking the boat too much as they can kick me out instantly as Im on no lease and ideally b) how to convince them to let me get a cat too?

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  • Luke_I_am_your_spotter
    Luke_I_am_your_spotter Posts: 4,179 Member
    get a pet rock or sea monkeys or something.
  • MrsBooBear
    MrsBooBear Posts: 12,618 Member
    My initial reaction is: Move out and report them to animal welfare.
  • jacklifts
    jacklifts Posts: 396 Member
    Call the landlord and tell them there's a cat in the house.
  • headofphat
    headofphat Posts: 1,597 Member
    cats suck.
  • The_Weaze
    The_Weaze Posts: 511 Member
    Why not give their cat the attention as if it was your own? Improve its quality of life.
  • pie_eyes
    pie_eyes Posts: 12,964 Member
    I wanted a cat too. I got one and now I don't anymore.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,996 Member
    People who don't adhere to rules aren't the best people to live with.

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  • usmcmp
    usmcmp Posts: 21,219 Member
    Your name isn't on the lease, so if your cat destroys walls or the carpet it's not your legal responsibility. If you want a cat that bad maybe it's time to get your own place where you can legally have a pet.
  • JenAndSome
    JenAndSome Posts: 1,893 Member
    So...there is already one a*hole cat in the apartment tearing stuff up and you think adding another so you can call it your own is a good idea?
  • pie_eyes
    pie_eyes Posts: 12,964 Member
    JenAndSome wrote: »
    So...there is already one a*hole cat in the apartment tearing stuff up and you think adding another so you can call it your own is a good idea?

    Exactly
  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    i don't know where you people are getting your cats. i have 2 super chill cats who get along with each other and the dog.
  • JenAndSome
    JenAndSome Posts: 1,893 Member
    wolverine66 wrote: »
    i don't know where you people are getting your cats. i have 2 super chill cats who get along with each other and the dog.

    Obviously from the depths of Hell where cats come from. Yours must be broken or something. Or quietly plotting.

  • pie_eyes
    pie_eyes Posts: 12,964 Member
    JenAndSome wrote: »
    wolverine66 wrote: »
    i don't know where you people are getting your cats. i have 2 super chill cats who get along with each other and the dog.

    Obviously from the depths of Hell where cats come from. Yours must be broken or something. Or quietly plotting.

    Lolll. I wish my cat was chill I really do but unfortunately she's a complete *kitten* and I hate her. I feed her and treat her good but she is Hell with claws

  • madhatter2013
    madhatter2013 Posts: 1,547 Member
    JenAndSome wrote: »
    wolverine66 wrote: »
    i don't know where you people are getting your cats. i have 2 super chill cats who get along with each other and the dog.

    Obviously from the depths of Hell where cats come from. Yours must be broken or something. Or quietly plotting.

    :lol:
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