Rough time trying to lose!

bandmja08

Hi,

I have been on mfp for about a year now and reluctant to make friends.. I don't want drama, but I want support. I have been trying to lose weight ever since my last baby was born in 2011. I had been hyperthyroid for a few years until she was born, now I am hypothyroid. I cannot lose, and have never maintained this weight before. ive alwaysI been average size, but now I am overweight and cannot lose more than a few pounds. I do zumba but pain keeps me from going more than once a week at best. I did jog a 5k with my daughter for girls on the run a few weeks ago and that felt great! I have no support though...I have a husband who is bipolar who cant support me and tries to cheat on me. I keep thinking if I was thinner he wouldn't try to cheat. I am hoping he wont do this again, he is on new meds, but I don't know if he cant stop. I need to lose weight to be able to feel good about myself! I am my only support person lol. I haven't tried "dieting" but I eat healthy. I don't do tons of carbs only because I have chronic stomach issues. whenever I eat anything like rice or potatoes, my stomach really bothers me. I can only eat meat, and some vegetables. I cannot have wheat, dairy or nuts as I am allergic and will not be able to breathe if I eat these things. One would think Id lose the weight eating meat and vegetables lol! I don't eat large portions, usually a half of a zucchini and a small salad are ok for dinner, as I work 2nd shift fri-sun. I use vinegar and oil and sometimes bacon and olives, maybe some avocado. Anyway....im new and looking for some support. Thanks!

beachlover317

A calorie deficit is all you need to lose weight. Here is a site that will help you figure out your caloric needs. http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/974888-in-place-of-a-road-map-2k13

As far as support, it's really nice, but certainly your strongest "support" is going to be your brain. When you decide that you want to lose weight to be healthy more than ANYTHING else - you will be successful. It doesn't matter when you eat, you don't have to eat or eliminate certain foods - you just have to be in a calorie deficit for your body.

As far as the hubby goes? Your weight has NOTHING to do with his character. Losing weight to please him or to make him not cheat is an exercise in futility. That is a separate issue that needs sorting. If you're smart - you'll do it in private and NEVER on this forum.

Best of luck to you! :flowerforyou:

hookilau

A calorie deficit is all you need to lose weight. Here is a site that will help you figure out your caloric needs. http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/974888-in-place-of-a-road-map-2k13

uh...no :ohwell: :flowerforyou:

Sorry, but with metabolic disease, calories in vs calories does not work.
I can't help with the husband but do suggest you see your doctor to re-evaluate your situation. Correct your imbalance & you'll THEN you may be able to implement cal in vs cal out. Until then, you'll end up spinning your wheels. Ask me how I know :grumble:
Read up, educate yourself and then work with your doctor to correct your situation.

< 20% of TDEE only works if your metabolism is working correctly. If your hormones are out of whack, no amount of exercising or caloric deficit will correct, sometimes the corrections are needed from without rather than within.

mazdauk

If you eat at a deficit you will lose even if you do minimal exercsie. However, it sounds like you have some health issues which maybe need medical attention. It is possible your stomach issues are caused by the stress of your relationship situation - my FIL was very difficult to live with and my MIL is always saying she can't eat certain foods as they "bother" her - but get your Dr to check it out just in case. Things like IBS are difficult to treat but there are things you can take to alleviate the symptoms. Also ask for advice on foods to eat to make sure your allergies are not causing you to miss out on anything vital (particularly minerals).

If you are in pain after zumba something is wrong - its a fast work-out but you shouldn't be in pain, or certainly not for more than the day after! If its your legs (esp. knees) check your shoes - if they are not slippy enough for twisty movements, or not enough shock absorbtion, it might give you some problems. Otherwise I would expect jogging to hurt you more - I zumba no problems but couldn't jog. However, if you enjoyed your 5K why not try that more often - if the weather is good a nice run in the evening might relax you.

If your husband is genuinely bipolar (not just cheating because he likes to!) then your weight and appearance is irrelevent to his behaviour. If he's just into cheating, that is a separate issue. You could see if there's a support group for people with bipolar relatives, but otherwise I'd concentrate on improving your health for you and your children's benefit.

Ultimately we all have reasons why we became overweight. To lose weight we need to put those reasons to one side and focus on eating properly (and at a deficit) and doing whatever exercise makes us feel better about ourselves within our body's limits (not everyone can exercise).

ETA as the poster above said, get your body balanced first! Hormones fight against us in so many ways:grumble:

beachlover317

A calorie deficit is all you need to lose weight. Here is a site that will help you figure out your caloric needs. http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/974888-in-place-of-a-road-map-2k13

uh...no :ohwell: :flowerforyou:

Sorry, but with metabolic disease, calories in vs calories does not work.
I can't help with the husband but do suggest you see your doctor to re-evaluate your situation. Correct your imbalance & you'll THEN you may be able to implement cal in vs cal out. Until then, you'll end up spinning your wheels. Ask me how I know :grumble:
Read up, educate yourself and then work with your doctor to correct your situation.

< 20% of TDEE only works if your metabolism is working correctly. If your hormones are out of whack, no amount of exercising or caloric deficit will correct, sometimes the corrections are needed from without rather than within.

I realize she has health issues. My point was, she said " I haven't tried "dieting" but I eat healthy. ". Eating healthy is fine, but if you're still eating too much - you will not lose. A lot of people assume as long as you're eating good, healthy foods, you will lose weight and this is not true. You HAVE to be in a calorie deficit. She should see her doctor. But if she's not cutting her calories at all? That could well be the problem.

hookilau

A calorie deficit is all you need to lose weight. Here is a site that will help you figure out your caloric needs. http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/974888-in-place-of-a-road-map-2k13

uh...no :ohwell: :flowerforyou:

Sorry, but with metabolic disease, calories in vs calories does not work.
I can't help with the husband but do suggest you see your doctor to re-evaluate your situation. Correct your imbalance & you'll THEN you may be able to implement cal in vs cal out. Until then, you'll end up spinning your wheels. Ask me how I know :grumble:
Read up, educate yourself and then work with your doctor to correct your situation.

< 20% of TDEE only works if your metabolism is working correctly. If your hormones are out of whack, no amount of exercising or caloric deficit will correct, sometimes the corrections are needed from without rather than within.

I realize she has health issues. My point was, she said " I haven't tried "dieting" but I eat healthy. ". Eating healthy is fine, but if you're still eating too much - you will not lose. A lot of people assume as long as you're eating good, healthy foods, you will lose weight and this is not true. You HAVE to be in a calorie deficit. She should see her doctor. But if she's not cutting her calories at all? That could well be the problem.

i totally get what you're saying, however, metabolic issues trump caloric deficit more often than not.