How do you deal with people discouraging you?

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  • Psychgrrl
    Psychgrrl Posts: 3,177 Member
    It's about them and their issues, it's not really about you. It's always easier to take those frustrations out on someone else than admit you need to change yourself. Please try and keep that in mind. "It's not really about me." Chant that in your head, it'll make things easier. Don't make their issue your problem. :blush:
  • GaleHawkins
    GaleHawkins Posts: 8,159 Member
    ghouli wrote: »
    My entire family is all pretty much overweight or obese. At my lowest weight (around 140...I'm at 152 right now but the same size I was back then, go figure) I got a lot of comments from my family "oh you're too thin you need to eat more you're going to blow away in the wind" etc etc. I wasn't even thin, but anyone who isn't overweight is "too skinny" to them. We aren't having a big family thing for Thanksgiving, but we will be for Christmas and I'm dreading getting those kind of comments and them trying to shove food down my throat (I mean, I eat obviously lol but "portion control" isn't something they think highly of).

    If you have to deal with similar situations, how do you get people off your back without being super rude about it?

    @ghouli being a much older guy I can relate to what @robertw486 stated. :)

    Keep up your good work to be healthy. I know people who did not manage diet when younger who will likely wind up in a nursing home obese with both feet sawed off, blind and without functioning mental capacity.

    I encourage everyone not to wait like I did and try to reverse health loss but to change eating lifestyles to prevent the loss of good health early in life.

    Best of success though the holiday season and all of 2016.

  • dakotababy
    dakotababy Posts: 2,407 Member
    When you grab a plate, make sure you spread out the food as much as possible to fill the plate (mash potatoes? spread them out, salad, meat, etc.) This makes it look like a lot of food, without literally "piling it on" your plate.

    Another technique I use is the 1st round, I grab a little bit of food, then I will go up again (which would total about 1 plate worth of food). This helps with the whole "Grab seconds!".

    Another technique is the "I am sick" technique. Make it appear like you are not feeling to well..or you have stomach pains, or you have a bad headache just before/during supper. If you are not well, usually people leave you a lone.

    Or you can just be straight up and tell them "no, I am full."

    Another option is to leave the room after your plate. Go to the bathroom and wait for like 10-15 mins. Usually then people are done supper and onto dessert. If you want dessert - go for it...or just say you are very full. You can also use the "maybe in a bit" technique. Basically just say "I am SOOoOoOo full right now, I will have a piece in a bit." Defer the conversation and then usually the relative will forget about it.

    I know around the holidays, food consumption is BRUTAL. Unfortunately, our culture designed celebrations around massive meals and eating in excess. Along with all the chocolate and desserts, which are a temptation in and of itself. Hosts tend to watch what/how much people are eating (I do not understand why?)...well at least that is true with my families.

    Make sure you workout the day of and the day after. Collect some alloted calories through out the week and ALWAYS drink as much water as you can! :D Remember though, that these techniques can help - dont be too harsh on yourself. It is the holidays, and usually a few days of "relaxed eating" can be helpful in the long run (dont deprive yourself!)
  • dakotababy
    dakotababy Posts: 2,407 Member
    jgnatca wrote: »
    Pour yourself a glass of sparkling water and never let it leave your hand. Refill with tap water if necessary. "No, I'm good," can be a standard answer. I also position myself so I can't be cornered. Stay standing and know where the exits are.

    Ahhh this is a very good technique! I am a very fast consumer of food, so often while everyone else is eating - I am already done. If I slowed right down...and didnt finish until everyone else is on dessert..usually seconds wouldn't be offered. Also using water to fill in that time would be excellent!

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