Should I put my success on Facebook??

MaddyCapon

I've never really been someone who posts much on Facebook, I use it to talk to people and read articles I'm interested in and that's about it, but I've finally done what I've always wanted to do which is loose weight and now that I've lost about 20kg and am only a couple more kilos away from my goal I want to share my before and after photo and story for my friends and family to see.
Mainly because I want to say thanks for the support I get from everyone day after day for the past few months (literally someone new every day makes a positive comment) and I'm quite proud of myself for once, just completely confident.
However I'm afraid of a few things like offending someone, being inappropriate or coming across as totally up myself or maybe even just pissing someone off like my friend who got mad at me because her mum said "why can't you be more like Maddy" when I got really fit and I felt terrible that she got compared to me by her own mother.
It would be a big thing for me to post a photo of me at my old weight but I would really like to do it!
Anyway I'd love thoughts and opinions on this?
Thanks!

Pandora_and_her_box

Why not? There's nothing wrong with celebrating your achievements!

Maybe take some care about how you phrase your post, but your friends should feel happy for you and proud of you for what you've accomplished - and who knows, your before and after pictures might even be inspiration for someone else. I'm sure your friend was more mad at her mum than you for that awful comment!

Be brave

Pandora_and_her_box

@HappyCampr1 How nice of those friends to be so supportive of you! I'm always suspicious about people's motives for posting snide comments - I think it says more about them than you.

OK, so posting only about weight loss, gym performance etc can be boring for other people, but so can endless pictures of dogs or babies or posts about whatever else it is that other people are into and you're not, it's hardly crime of the century! True friends are happy for each other.

pondee629

I think I've found your answer: "I've never really been someone who posts much on Facebook..."

Why start now? Answer this question to your satisfaction and act thereon.

joeneely71

I do post a fair amount on Facebook - both for personal and business reasons - but have so far avoided any mention of my weight loss/fitness journey. I'm struggling with this issue. How much should others care? What would be my motivation in going public? I will address it eventually, but perhaps not until I have reached a few of my long-term goals. Right now I'm still fighting the day-to-day battles.

jennifer_417

Well, the thing is that you really can't predict what people will say. So, I'd say, as long as you're prepared for any off-the-wall reaction, go for it. If not, you might want to hold off. Doesn't mean that your accomplishment isn't noteworthy, just means people don't always know how to properly handle others' success.

beachhouse758

If you have to wonder whether people's reaction will be positive and supportive, then don't post.
If your Facebook audience is a select group of friends that you know will infuse you with positive energy and will genuinely be happy for you, then by all means.

taliasometimes

I would do it. The people who matter will be so proud and supportive.
also, you may be someone's inspiration, your post could be just that one thing someone really needed to see that morning.

I have seen a before and after online and instantly felt motivated and alive again!

dearmrsowl

I seriously started tracking and working out at the beginning of this year. I never posted anything about that on facebook except for liking and sharing articles or recipes related to a healthy lifestyle. However, when I ran my very first 5k I shared the picture which is my current profile picture and explained what a huge deal it was for me to run that race and how proud I was of myself. I just felt like I needed to share this accomplishment because I felt great that day and to show others that they can reach their goals if they don't give up.

elisa123gal

A friend of mine I have not seen in years as we live in different places and have gone our separate ways posted on facebook that she lost 40 pounds. I look at it as a major accomplishment she shared and enjoyed learning the news.
It takes a lot of work to lose weight..it is like earning any achievement. Congrats..and post if you wish!!

mousie1973

when i get to my final goal weight i will post pics of my beginning weight and before pic... and my after weight and my after pics... but i have been very careful not to post any full body pics of me yet... I have a long way to go still (about 87 to the top of my goal weight range)... I am looking to get to about 160-165 for my final goal weight... I still have to lost 60 pounds to get to my first goal of 100 pounds down.

markrgeary1

Post it. It's better than all the political crap on FB.

Seriously you worked hard, most will be very happy for you, if their not well they're not really friends.

triciab79

I posted a couple times. I didn't get any negative comments and many people said it helped them get inspired to start. I think it also keeps me accountable. If I post then everyone notices and then I have to keep it up. Part of the reason I have been able to keep my weight down in the three years since I lost it was because I felt accountable to the people I inspired. I am back on here today because I gained a few pounds between vacations and holidays and I feel guilty for not being the role model I should be. I accomplished something that few people do through a combination of luck and hard work and having people notice means I cannot squander it without people noticing that too.

MaddyCapon

Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences! I suppose I do have to realise people think what they think and talk what they think all the time but since I'm not there to hear it I don't really care! but it's the positivity I do hear and enjoy since there isn't always much of it in this world. I work in a grocery store with thousands of people passing through every day and a fair few customers have even asked me what I'm doing to look like I do but no one wants to believe me when I tell them my old weight since I hid it well but the progress photos really show it, also talking about it when people ask does make me feel like I need to stay focused on my goal, not that I want to impress them but I don't want to be all talk.
I'm finally happy for myself so I've decided I'm going to just do it and post the photos!

farfromthetree

Well, let us know how it goes! I think if you speak from your heart about your struggles, it will not come off as arrogant. Everyone loves a good before/after story!

I will warn you of something that has happened to me. When you put it out there, you will get lots of questions on how you did it and people asking for help. Beware of spending hours helping people who dont take it seriously. I cannot tell you how many people have asked for help and how many hours I have wasted.

DawnUrbanski

I posted my weight loss before and after pics on my birthday in September. I did it mainly to keep myself honest and on track. I got a lot of very nice comments and no rude ones.

ekoth_09

Do it, be proud of your success!

arditarose

If you're comfortable with doing it, go for it. I tend to want to post some of my fitness stuff on Facebook but find that people generally don't care. I made an instagram for it and it is a lot more fun. Even though my Facebook friends follow me there, they are not the ones who "like" my photos/updates. You should post if you want to though!

110challenge

I'm waiting until I'm closer to my goal weight, but I absolutely will be

Machka9

MaddyCapon wrote: »

I'm finally happy for myself so I've decided I'm going to just do it and post the photos!

Good for you!!

Everyone else posts the stuff that matters to them on Facebook ... why shouldn't you? And if you get negative comments on something you post ... just simply delete those comments. I've done that before!


Oh, and I did it ... posted my before and after photos on FB. Several of my friends "liked" it. My mother and aunt said something nice about it, and one friend asked how I had done it.

momar23

I think you should, i have an old co-worker that started posting some of her meals, then her runs, you could see that alot of what she liked and commented on were health and fitness pages. Some of them i started following or reading for inspiration. I havent posted much on facebook, but i did start posting some post workout selfies on instagram on occasion, and my sister in law joined mfp and said it was partly due to seeing my success. So although you may not know it you may help someone else get started.

FitChick_40

Please also post them here! I am dying to see your transformation. Anyway, well done on your achievement!!!

SharonDenzien

I've been posting monthly on Facebook about my weight loss. First of month just total weight lost. Last month was first time I posted full body picture. It's a motivation factor for me and I get a lot if 'likes' and some comments but all positive and that feels so good to have that support. I'm within 10 pounds of my goad and everyone is amazed at the change.

Ponkeen

Well, how do you feel when you read other people's weight and exercise posts? I find endless posts about 'how far I ran today' and 'look, I'm a warrior #blessed', well, a little irritating... so I refrain from making similar posts. But if that's your bag, go for it. Don't let the naysayers of the world get you down!

woznube7

Definitely go for it. Most people are kind, but you may have the negative nancy's, that can't be avoided. I try not to post about going to the gym every day and will post a pic every now and them... but that's really to keep me accountable and it's always encouraging to see people paying attention, rooting for you, compliments, etc. You worked hard, you deserve some recognition and to be proud of yourself!!

memickee

I did it at a 40lb loss since I was pretty proud of myself. I had not posted about it previously or since, so I if it annoyed my friends that was on them.

Fitwarrior7_Round_2

If your proud enough to post it here you should be proud enough to share it with your family and friends who care for you the most.

fvtfan

I think you should - perhaps your journey will inspire someone else to make a change. Weight loss is a hard thing and you should be proud of you accomplishment, plus it is nice to read all the nice things people say and it will help motivate you even more.

jgnatca

It's not a "should". Your desire to show off a major achievement is perfectly natural, and Facebook is an obvious forum.

You won't make everyone happy by being a success. Sometimes those closest to us show their true colors when we do. Remember it speaks much more about them than it does about you. But must you live in a paper bag just so you don't offend the weakest among us?

Don't spend too much time trying to appease or convince the naysayers that what you did was right. It's obvious that your weight loss enterprise was the right thing to do. Sift through the responses and reward those people who are happy for you with extra friendship.

Stupid mothers will compare children. That's not your fault. Tell your friend her mother should never have compared the two of you.

seltzermint555

If you're in doubt about it then I think you might not want to do it. If the biggest reasons are just your concerns about making friends upset/jealous, then forget that and go for it.

But if you just feel shy or uncomfortable about all of the attention being on your body I would skip it.

I posted once, before & after shots of 1 yr period when I lost the largest amount of weight (about 75 lb of my total 135 lb loss). There were many very positive comments and compliments. But there were also a few people saying things that were hurtful to me, like "It's mostly that you were wearing bright green in your before and now you're wearing black" or "You need to do this specific exercise", "Your face looks too skinny!"...and other stuff that was unwanted advice/commentary. I wound up deleting those pics after a few months. People can look at me and see that I'm an average size and I used to be morbidly obese. I don't need the before/after for that.

This is just another view and probably not a popular one. But know that for every 50 positive comments there may be 1-2 that will hurt and/or offend. If you're not the type to share posts like "Down 5 lb" and "Workin' on my fitness" every time you go to the gym, then you might wanna consider not. Congratulations on your successes though

natajane

Post your success for sure!

People who don't like it - well, are they really friends who's opinions you need?

What is life if we can't share joy with each other.